I found out my wife cheated on me. When I confronted her about it, I gave her no room to deny it, I asked "Who's
2007-10-30 12:38:56 · 60 answers · asked by mredgarjr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is the one that reported to the police that I threw the vase at her. Her father has appologized to the police officer and to my mother, but has not come to me to appologize. He is a hothead and a very prideful man.
2007-10-30 12:58:55 · update #1
I am not a violent person. First occurance of this sort of situation and felt she didn't deserve the flowers I bought her for her birthday.
2007-10-30 13:52:55 · update #2
Honestly she can't. You can't trust a cheater!! Fool me once shame you you; fool me twice shame on me. Remember that.
2007-10-30 12:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Talk about adding insult to injury. Let it be over. If she were remorseful, she would have understood you being upset enough to break a vase. She didn't deserve it. You paid for it, you could have done what ever you saw fit with it (except of course hitting her with it). Had you not confronted her with this, she would have continued cheating on you. The only thing she's sorry for is getting caught. Cheating is cheating man or woman. I see cheating as a gamble. Every gambler knows there is a chance you are going to lose, yet they put it all on the line anyway. If you truly want to keep what you have you don't gamble at all. I know this has to be extremely painful for you. It's a very good thing you purchased your home prior to marriage. She doesn't deserve a dime or anything gained from your hard work and commitment. Get through your legal matters and start fresh. Life is too short. Make yourself the number one focus as you start fresh. I wish you the very best of luck. Again. I know this has to be painful. But, I've heard this saying from some really good hearted people, "This to, shall pass".
2007-10-30 12:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by bizzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends upon what you feel now, whether you want to try to work this out or not. The fact that she stated on a blog that she was sorry for everything and did not offer that excuse to you may mean that with counseling you can work through this and you may not need the attorney if she is willing to tell the judge that she said that but the abuse never happened.
You may find with counseling that perhaps she felt neglected for some reason you were not even aware of and that caused the cheating and it may never happen again or you will both be able to move on. If you do love her though try the counseling and try to get past this together rather than wondering some years later whether you should have tried it at least. Good Luck to you!
2007-10-30 12:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If her feelings expressed in her blog are true and you believe that they are true, ........ and you still love her ......... may be you should excuse her...
Throw her father into the bin. A relationship between two people involves only those two and they are the only ones to decide ... anything about that..
Be open, talk your heart out, dont let others run your lives and your relationships ....... make her even aware of this if you can ...
After all we are human...
Committing mistakes is one ...
Learning from those mistakes needs greater skill and ability...
I think you know you love her.... otherwise you would not worry so much about her feeling guilty about what she had done
God Bless you both a wonderful life (together ofcourse)
2007-10-31 07:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by krishbhavara 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife cheated on you and you confronted her about it than you told her to get out of your house because you bought this house before you married her right. You broke a vase she said that you threw it at her. now the father threghten you right you called the police and have been arrested for this and spent the night in jail. now you have to get and attorney for this case. Anyone that would do this to another person is unforgiveable. In my book she has gottone you thrown in jail for her cheating on you and now she is sorry. Think about it why you married her in the first place and what went wrong with your marriage. Remember what god has joined together no man put us under. This choice is yours not mines.
Best of luck
2007-10-30 12:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whether you will have to attempt to get back together with her, you have to ask yourself actually - What are you inclined to do to make it correct? How lengthy are you willing to look forward to the trust to come back? Are you inclined to position up with the questions, the suspicions, until you have earned that believe back? Are you inclined to be transparent in terms of the place you are, who you're with, what your doing AT ANY TIME? Because its up to you to revive that trust. And do not count on that just on account that you made up our minds you want back into the wedding that she won't have doubts, may not need you again into her mattress? Are you willing to get counseling to discover why you had the affair? Its not enough just to say it will not happen again. How do you know if you do not know why you did within the first location? Would you receive a mechanic telling you that the brakes is not going to fail once more, even though they did not fix something, and final week your automobile bumped into the back of a truck? As to how lengthy it might take, its unattainable to say. It is dependent upon how deep the harm goes, what number of ways you betrayed your love - no longer just the affair, but did you are making her lifestyles worse to quilt your guilt? Did you begin arguments, opt for on things, stroll out instead of speaking? Simply to justify the actual fact "she failed to understand you"?
2016-08-05 23:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by elmblad 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only person you can change is you..... you can dump your wife trade up, down, sideways whatever but it wont make one sh!t of difference until you clear out your own closet first, It doesnot begin with you and your wife it begins with you.
Take back your power and decide today to become a person who commands (not demands) quality, inspires respect and settles for nothing less than an active abiding love, the change can only come from inside as you become clear about who you are, what you do with your love, your life and vision. Clarity and purpose must become crystal clear, the fix, the rescue or the letting go depends on you. I dont agree entirely with the nay-sayers there is 2 sides to every story it depends on you.
Yep she made a mistake and she was wrong for going outside the marriage for comfort however one must take responsiblity for what was happening inside the marriage too, in the cold light of day was it all that??
If you want to make it right, make it right with yourself first.
2007-10-30 13:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by ashar/97 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a conversation with her with a micro recorder in your pocket (Best Buy carries them). Tell her you are having a very hard time with the fact that she cheated on you and that she lied to the police about the vase. Get her admission on tape and then you take it to the judge. They don't like it when you lie to the police. Get rid of her. GOOD LUCK! P.S. how long were you in jail and what did they charge you with?
2007-10-30 13:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love how when someone gets called out for cheating that they miraculously get angry with you. I've been through that twice but they were just boyfriends. no big deal, but always found it amusing that they do that. It sounds like she tried to sway away from the idea of her doin' wrong and focus on being mad to not make cheating the "big" issue. This blog you speak of. If she wrote somewhere on their that shes so sorry for lying about what she told the cops, uhm print that out! End of story. Just a fluke, hurting in trenton.. trenton michigan? Good luck with everything.
2007-10-30 13:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by prenatalpastry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you whether you should leave her or not. That decision could be the best you ever made or the worse. You might meet a new love of your life, or you may be lonely and regret that decision.
Look to your heart and God (or your source of belief) and ask yourself if you can forgive her. Unfortunately you will never forget. It will take her a long long time to ever ever gain 100% of your trust. She probably will never get 100% again.
Ask yourself and her why it happened. Let the answer guide the choice you decide to make in staying with her or moving on. True love from both sides can conquer all if you want to make it work.
2007-10-30 12:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Two choices:
1) You really love her... and she loves you - she must agree to move with you hundreds of miles from her parents... and get counseling. I believe you can trust her again - if you want to - and it is alot of work. But it is up to her to treat you like a king, and be totally open and honest in everything she does.
2) If there's no love, then it's over. Protect your assets. Depending on how long you've been married and the state you live in - she may be entitled to half of your assets. See if your atty can give ideas to keep the house, etc.
Good Luck.
2007-10-30 13:03:28 · answer #11 · answered by thwack 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋