If you wife constantly accuses you of cheating on her?

Question

over the coarse of 5 or 6 years, and you never have.


What would you do


It seems "Im cheating on her wit a new person every week"

Answer 1

There are 2 reasons women do this.
1. They are incredibly insecure with themselves. Either physically or emotionally, sometimes both. Low self esteem mixed with paranoia.

2. They are the ones cheating. Its very common for the cheater to accuse their partner of cheating out of guilt and the presumption that if they are doing it then they're boyfriend must be doing it too. This leads to rationalization of what they are doing to make it seem more ok.


The first option is the more likely one and the only advice I can really give you is to make her feel special and like shes the only one you wanna be with. Try and convince her to seek some counseling if the issue continues... 6 years is a long time to have to deal with that. Good luck and bless you :)

Answer 2

Have you ever given her a reason not to trust you? If the answer is no. It is possible that she has been cheated on in the past and she is just fearful it will happen again. Regardless the reason, she sounds like she is insecure and the best thing that you can do is sit her down and say hey listen, I love you and I want to be with you and only you. I haven't cheated, I don't plan on cheating and I NEED you to stop all this accusing. Tell her it isn't fair to you and then end it by asking her if there is something you can do to help her with the insecurities that she is feeling. I hope this helps and good luck

Answer 3

could be any number of reasons...
she feels like she can't trust you
is suffering paranoia.
she sees you flirting.
she sees others flirt with you and you not loudly declaring that you aren't interested
she feel unattractive
she has been cheated on in the past
she feels like she's unworthy
she likes the drama of accusing you

the problem is hers and hers alone. she needs to allow herself some professional advice from a counsellor. they'll be able to help her through her problems.

all you can do is love her and support her and when she starts the accusations, just say "i have never and will never cheat on you. and I'm not going to talk about this matter anymore" and walk away. Say it calmly and lovingly. do not argue. if she seeks drama, she can find it some other way.
do not get angry or upset. Just let it wash over you, and walk away from her. If she chases you down, get in your car and go for a drive. Get away until she is calm.

once calm, love her. tell her you love her and desire only her. Do not bring up the cheating thing again.

good luck mate.

Answer 4

Maybe she is insecure and unhappy with the relationship?

Maybe she is looking for a way out? She might be accusing you because she wants a reason for your marriage to end.

Are you happy? Maybe she just really needs to feel loved and appreciated and isn't right now. Make sure you call her in the middle of the day just to say you're thinking about her. Tell her you love her and there is no one else for you. She is the only one and will always be your only one.

Ask her why she thinks you would ever cheat on her. You are together because you love her, not because you have to be with her. If she still doesn't believe you, ask her if she wants out? This might make her really think about it. If she wants to be with you (regardless if you ever cheated or not).

Good luck with everything! I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 5

we need more info: are you gone a lot? Is she gone a lot?

I am a woman so I cant tell you what I would do if my wife accuses me but when I first married my husband (was a very quick courtship) he was really, really accusative and always wanted to know where, what, who? you know the stuff crazy is made of. I stuck with my story, stayed the same, proved myself over time and my husband has no fears of my cheating on him whatsoever. In his past there was a lot of cheating going on, which I found out about slowly.

His first wife cheated a lot, still does on whoever she is with, and he cheated back. That was his answer and that is what he learned to do. It happened with his other main relationship, too. It is what he knew. It took a lot of patience with his crappy accusations but it worked and he is a stronger person for having someone in his life he knows he can trust. That is what I did. Good luck....S

Answer 6

U know what, u cant just categorize the mentality of a huge quantity of people in such little groups as, MEN or WOMEN.. A single behavior, or attitude can never be common in all kind of men. & theres no doubt in that. The thoughts of each people works separately. But above all, what i think is, first be clear to urself. U may not be right. Is what u r thinking, absolutely right? Talk to ur partner. May be that, he is doing this for some insecurity feeling, or he is disturbed for some reason, out of ur notice. Give time to each other. Breaking a relation if far more easy than healing it

Answer 7

Make her see it in a logical sense. Ask her "calmly" what has happened- or what you've done to make her believe that.
If you truly aren't doing these things- then when she aqnswers you- it won't make sense out loud. She may just be paranoid because she's been cheated on before, or she may have a guilty conscience.
Do you have any reason to believe that she might be the one who's dishonest?
If these things don't help- try and get counseling- maybe an outsider could help the both of you see what is causing these thoughts and how to fix it.
Good luck:)

Answer 8

You need to get into some counseling to see why she keeps thinking that. I would suspect that perhaps her father cheated on her mother so that she now thinks that you are cheating, and she probably has low self esteem so thinks that you could have married someone better so now you are cheating on her because you married her instead.
Get the counseling and try to do and say things that will make her feel better about herself. If she cooks a meal, complement her on how good it is, for example. I hope the counseling works and it probably will if you find out the basis for her thinking that you would cheat on her.

Answer 9

I had the same problem and me too did never or ever want to so this is what I did... I told her to get specifics i.e. where? what time? and make them be specific like I said... So she keeps the journal I keep a journal and for one month I call her every hour on the hour and she calls me on the half hour. We finally nipped it in the bud... But I then asked why after all my love and affection would you ever take any ones word over mine... (and buy the way it was one of my co workers who was making a move on her from day one - I am sorry to say this but I beat the living crap out of him) I wish you good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania

Answer 10

Well . my first wife did the same to me for 5 years as well . I worked on a ranch 15 to 18 hours a day . I tried and tried to make her see I had no time to do so .And one day I asked my mom how I should handle this. And to my shock , she instructed me to to go out and find someone , do the dirty deed and then make sure she found out about it.
So one day after having enough , I took my moms advise and cheated and made sure she knew it.
Only after that did I find out in the end that she was cheating on me the whole time we were married and that she was trying to make her self feel better about it by acusing me of it.
So I divorced her and took complete custody of my son with her fathers help. She married the fellow that she was cheating on me with and he caught her doing the same to him 5 month later .So what does this tell you ??????????

Answer 11

Warning: if she continues to accuse you of cheating, you eventually will. So she needs to stop.

Couple things going on here at once.

She feels insecure. You both have some blame there.

She thinks you are cheating. You both have some blame there.

She feels like something is lacking in your marriage. You both have some blame there.

Please, the both of you get to a marriage counselor before the situation explodes.