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Question

I got a phone call from a person i know that said she knew that my husband was messing with this girl.The thing is this person does lie but she said she can get proof just dont say nothing about it until then.What should i do ? Should i go ahead and confront or wait a couple of days to see what else wil happen? She said she will take me to them so i can see it for myself when she knows their together.

Answer 1

She sounds like a trouble maker who has too much time on her hands and, for some unknown reason, has an ax to grind with your husband. Presuming that you have a solid steady marriage, don't listen to this person, who you know very well has a history of lying, and with that probably has a load of mental problems that accompanies the such. Even so, no matter what the state of your marriage, it really isn't worth paying any mind to someone who, out of the blue, calls you and makes groundless accusations and tells you not to say anything about them until she is able to dig up some more dirt. If your husband really is messing around you'll find out about soon enough and you won't need the likes of this spying tattle tale muck slinger to find out about it either. In all cases, and what ever you are led to believe, just remember the adage of innocent until proved guilty.

Answer 2

You are about to lose a friend or a husband so think this one through very carefully:
If you want to keep the husband, then you're not going to be able to move forward not truly knowing if this is true. If it's true, then you'll know the truth and you can handle it the best way you know how. If it's not true, then it's reason for discussion with him as to why you would feel you had reason to doubt or be suspicious (and it's normal) and this can actually lead to deeper intimacy coz he might become aware of things he's doing that are causing doubt to creep in and you can learn some stuff about yourself from him too.

If you wanna keep the friend, you need to know if she's lying like she's done before or she's actually looking out for you. The best way to do that is to go with her as she suggested and read the situation for yourself. If she's telling you the truth, then you know she's the kind of friend whose got your back, even if that means telling you something unpleasant but true. If she's lying, then you have an opportunity to let her know where you stand and with whom you stand.

Bottom line? Wait and see. In the meantime, ask yourself why you're concerned enough to post online. That means that this is more than just a fleeting thought. It's on your mind and eating you up. Try to look at your marriage, your husband and yourself with honest eyes and don't be afraid to see what's there. Good luck!

Answer 3

If you are not sure if you can trust the information she has given you then DON'T act on it! If you confront you are saying you don't trust him and believe he is guilty without knowing the facts or having proof he is actually in the wrong.
If how ever you obtain proof then by all means, confront him!

I believe doing so early, without proof, will damage the relationship should he be proven to be innocent.

Either way, good luck, hope it works out for the best either way.

Answer 4

Don't jump to conclusions over something a known liar has said.
Have you been suspicious of your husband lately? Does her accusations make sense to you or are they just out of the blue with nothing to back them up except her claims? Does he have time and opportunity to commit adultery? Lots of questions to ask yourself here. Ya know?
I say scope out your husband for any bizarre behavior and wait it out a few days to see if this person can make good on her claims to show you proof. If nothing developes from this person making the claims then go to your husband with the information and see how he responds and what he has to say for himself. I hope it is all a lie and I wish you the best. Oh...If this chic is lying to you then I say deal with her and make sure she never interferes in your marriage again. What are her motives for telling you this info one way or another....YA KNOW?

Answer 5

I would wait for the proof. It would be a shame if you confronted your husband and accused him of something if he really didn't do it. That could do some damage to your marriage too. I would wait and see what the proof is, then decide.

Answer 6

I would say wait until she does and then hire a private dective to follow him for a few days.

Then clear out the accounts. Max out his cards and start writting up a divorce document that allows you the house and that nothing can be brought up that you did before the papers were served.

Use his cc and shop till you drop.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Wait to do just that,I know your going to have a few sleepless nights. But if you can really catch them together, that's all the proof your going to need. If you let on right now, that you know something is up. It well probably be a lot harder to catch them in the act, if it is all true. good luck

Answer 8

I'd wait and go with the other chick and get pictures of the whole thing. Then you can go into divorce court and soak him for tons of alimony! What I'm wondering is why this other chick would call you and tell you this stuff. Sounds to me like she was put up to it by the other woman in hopes you'd take her up on her offer and she'd end up with your husband.

Answer 9

hmm, dont jump to conclusions just yet. wait and see what your friend has to show you. keep acting normal with your husband until then. if something does not happen in the end, things will be a lot better with him.

also, would your husband do anything like that? has he been acting different lately?

good luck, i wish you the best.

Answer 10

GO WITH HER!!! If shes telling u she'll take then...go. Even if she's lying. You dont take chances. Sounds to me like your more afraid of finding out the truth. If he's cheating you need to leave him and set respect for yourself. The liar will just get a kick of knowing it caused the drama, but at that point who cares.