Marriage & Divorce - 5 June 2007

I meet my current girlfreind last week at the highschool dance... I'm really scared because she might be with child now. I'm a junior in highschool and have a really good job working construction. I think i might have to leave school and make a lot of money for her and the baby. her parents really like me and said that they want me to leave school and work for my new family. I figuere i can make about $12,000 a year and buy a house in a few years. what should i do? I have about 300 dollars saved up for an emergency. that could by a pretty good ring and a depsit on a apartment. I'm so lost right know. has anyone been in my shoe? Should I ask her to marry me at the next party we go to? what is a good way to ask her?

2007-06-05 14:31:13 · 14 answers · asked by Mark F 1

I was engaged to my ex and we had been together for 3 years just bought a house togther, when one night he came home and ended it and told me that he no longer loved me.
Of course I was heart broken and totally shell shocked but after a week of crying I realised that this was the best thing to happen to me as I had been unhappy for quite a while.
Two weeks later he decides that he wants to come back to the house and expects me to let him come back and that we would pick up right where we left off!!!!
Since then I have moved on and I am in a happy relationship - the break up is coming up to two years ago and my ex is so bitter and angry towards me - Does anyone have any idea why he is angry with me -when he dumped my A$$????

2007-06-05 14:27:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dont's want to go to collage. I'm also about done getting my highschool eduacation. my girlfirends parents make about $40,000 dollars a year. which is a lot of money! I make about 150 a week at the warehouse, but I want to quit that job soon anyway and get a better job with the county goverment. i think they (her parents) will probably not be around so much longer because they are real sick. my girlfriend is there only kid and they have already said they will give her everything including the new cadilac. basically i love her very much and want to marry her for long time. is it ok to skip going to collage? she already has a good job at a local retail mall store. What do you guys think? i'm excited about it. we could buy a house right away. which is good because she has a baby coming soon.

2007-06-05 14:20:57 · 9 answers · asked by Mark F 1

What i mean she wants to be the one the give my husband all the updates on thier son.Examples are when my husband called the school to get a copy of his son's report card his ex got pissed when she found out.She told him "i allways make sure you get this stuff" True but why would she care they have joint custody?She also make it very clear i am not to call or get any info from the school/daycare ect regarding thier son.Any info my husband needs she is the only one to give it to him not me.You would think she would be happy hes such a involed dad and i care about her son.they have been divorced for over 5 yrs and we are married and happy.But she has been in and out of relationships and i think this is the only way she can "cling" to my husband as he left her.why do u guys think she is acting like this?

2007-06-05 14:19:30 · 7 answers · asked by heather8lucus 1

Is it usual for a Indian man who is 29 years old to still have his parents decide who he will marry or who he won’t marry?

Why won't he's parents let him marry the girl he wants to marry...instead forces him to marry a girl whom they chose for him or incase it is love marriage, then he only can marry a girl of his race...

Why because parents brought you into this world -they think you owe it to them to marry someone who they chose for you...I mean in the end its you whom will marry the person and have to live with that person not your parents, and sometimes even when the marriage is sour- you have to stay in that marriage just because you don't want to put disgrace on your family and don't want to have to face society- that is why sometimes arrange marriages last longer...

And this thing about mothers fearing that if their Indian son or daughter marries a non- Indian, then that generation will loose their culture forever…Don’t the parents trust their Indian sons or daughters to teach the non Indian spouses and kids the culture?

If you’re an Indian and your child decides that they will marry someone of a different race, you should be happy for them, instead of looking what nationality they are- You should be more interested to find out whether that person is good at heart or not hence and suitable match for your child, instead of just thinking because this person is not Indian by heritage…therefore there is no way that the marriage will last…

I can tell you that I know a lot of Indians who had an arrange marriages yet they are not happy, and although they want out- they hang on in their just to keep their parents happy…
There is good and bad in every culture, Indian mother’s constantly be saying to their sons “oh I will find you a goddess Indian girl, because only Indian girls make good wives” but see not every Indian wife is going to be a goddess, and not every woman who is from the west is going to cause trouble in marriage, having affairs, getting divorced etc…(as Indian parents assume).

I know Indians who marries non-Indian and the marriage last..
Same as I know Indians who marries other Indians from which their parents chose. Which didn’t last..

And to say that it will be harder for the couple because it is an interracial marriage- is just barbaric, but see sometimes its not society who makes the couple face hell but it’s the very parents who didn’t want to accept the marriage since day one.

People should be more open minded……

What are your views?

2007-06-05 14:18:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-05 14:14:28 · 10 answers · asked by katherinekimbrough 3

I really like this guy but i don't know where he stands about dating a black girl.He's a good man& we have alot of fun with our mutual friends.My best friend is dating an Irish guy & i often go with her to parties,thats how i met him.He is really cute,tall& educated.I'm just crazy about him.I want him.I think he kind of knows i like him.2 weeks ago he & I talked about interracial dating.He said"I ve never dated outside my race".I asked him if you would, he laughed & said "if it was you yes" BUT then followed that with "No i'm just kidding, i never really think of things that will NEVER happen".Last weekend we all went out,he came with a white girl.He felt the need to explain who the girl was.He said it was his workmate, but i think she likes him too.So i decided to leave them alone, instead he kept on holding my hand & whispering in my ear.He kissed my neck,hugging tight & pressing on me so i could feel his Pensis.he is sending me mixed signal.What do you think? should i make the move

2007-06-05 14:01:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello everyone. This might seem like an unusual question to ask on Yahoo but I wanted to ask anyway. My wife and I have been married for a couple of years now and we haven't convinced ourselves yet whether we should have kids or not. I would love to have a little boy or girl running around. But at the same time, I know that I'd be missing out on many other things because of the time and obligations of raising a child. Not to mention that raising kids are expensive. On the other hand, I don't want to be 50 years old and have a void in my life. So my question is...Has anyone decided not to have kids in their lives that are in their 40's or 50's now? And if so, do you have regrets? Do you feel like you have a certain void in your life? Vice versa, for those that have had children, do you wish that you could go back and not have had them( I promise that I won't tell your kids=) )? I guess I just want to know if life is incomplete if you never have children. Thanks guys!

2007-06-05 13:51:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I made plans with my fiance over a mouth ago to go away for the weekend(had to change my work schedule to go)We have his son every other weekend and this was our weekend not to have him.Well his exwife emailed him last night to switch weekends because she wanted to go to a wedding sat. night with her new bf.well i reminded him our plans but he just ignored me and called her back and said he could do it.after he got of the phone with her i just looked at him in shock and he just said why are u so f-cking miserable?I told her i was bringing him back sunday am the shows not till 1 pm.Well thats true BUT our plans were to stay over sat. night and go to the show in the afternoon(we live 4 yrs away from the city)Now we have to drop his son off and race to the city to see the show only no siteseeing.Now this is not a 1 time deal she does this all the time and my bf allways agrees regardless of our plans.Why?Plus this DOES NOT give him more time with his son they are just switch their time.

2007-06-05 13:50:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

The man is sitting across the aisle from his wife and he has been unfaithful many times during their marriage. should his wife be subjected to his laughing and talking to this younger woman for the intire trip of 2 1/2 hours? Their son and his wife are also sitting near by. The laughter could be heard almost on the entire plane. I am the wife and am very hurt. Should I be?

2007-06-05 13:46:19 · 16 answers · asked by mississippi 1

I have heard that they are private, sensitive, emotional, and moody. I would like to know what are some of there characteristic.

2007-06-05 13:37:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is his door mat. She does everthing for him and nothing for herself. He does everything for himself and nothing for her. The only time he does is when he brakes things of hers because she didn't do what he said such as... Once she charged 38 dollars he broke things of hers because she was told not to spend money. He can do anything he wants and there is no ? asked. I have a feeling he is cheating because of his lame excuses I have talked with her about it and her comment i don't want to know let him do what he wants. I have talk her carefully about how unfair he is, but she is in denial. I have even seen him hit her. Its ok to her because she thinks its her fault. A part of me now wants to end this friendship. To see her go through what she deals with pains me greatly
I feel great resentment twords him . I cant become too involved because he will turn her against me. This is killing me because my hands are tied. This is now effecting my life.

2007-06-05 13:36:01 · 5 answers · asked by doe7 1

we fight over the dumbest little things because everytime i try to talk to him and he starts yelling, how can i reduce the fighting without giving up my pride and letting him dominate me

2007-06-05 13:29:24 · 22 answers · asked by VJS 2

Today I feel very lonely and lost. I spent my day shopping as usual as it has become an obsession since I lost my job. Not that I spend much money, of course, I don't. Just takes my mind off the reality: I still don't feel like I belong to the country I live in for 7 years now, my marriage is going down the heel, my husband is more like a housemate for 3 years now, no kids, no job, family far away back at home. In 15 minutes I will go to bed to crawl on my side of it. Sometimes if feels as if loneliness is suffocating me. I caught myself looking I never thought I would be in this place. No wonder my friends are not dying to spend time with me - who wants to spend time with a sad person? My husband keeps telling me that I am agressive.. I am so tired of his criticism. Not all bad - of course, I am grateful I am healthy, not bad looking, have a place to live, cats, some friends.. So what shall I do if I feel like crap? Been there before

2007-06-05 13:22:24 · 9 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3

My husband will not go anywhere with me unless it only benefits him. I have a funeral to go to tommorrow and its a pretty long drive. He doesn't have to work tommorrow. I asked him if he is going with me and he said no. So apparantly I am going alone. So whats the use to be married if your always alone? He lives me by myself to go fishing and canoeing every weekend. Thats usually the only time we can have together. I just don't understand this. I need someone elses perspective. I don't think hes cheating or anything like that. He says he just hates going places. What would you do?

2007-06-05 13:18:50 · 12 answers · asked by brunettechik 1

I am 19 yrs old, and I've only been married for two months. My husband says I don't treat him like I use to. We fight alot, most of the time for no reason. He wants to be intimate all the time but I just never feel like it. He feels like he's not good enough for me anymore. I lay around the house 24/7. I feel depressed alot because we are having alot of financial problems. I want to make this marriage work. What can I do?

2007-06-05 13:16:41 · 23 answers · asked by ILoveMyHusband 1

OK.. so I dated this guy for almost 5 yrs. I loved him to death.. and still have love for him. However, he would not work, always wanted to party and waste money that he wasn't bringing into the household. He did not have a drivers license and was ALWAYS getting into trouble with the law. Also, he would get mad at me and put me down, call me names, and if things got really heated he would hit the walls and break things. I broke it off with him about 9 months ago, and we still talk sometimes. At first he called me crying, begging me to get back with him. I told him that I couldn't, but I would still be his friend. So, now, 9 months down the road, he has kept a GOOD job since I left him, got all his fines paid, got his license reinstated and bought a new car! What I want to know is, why can he do it now, but he would never do it for me?

2007-06-05 13:13:46 · 17 answers · asked by Tina W 4

I have trouble with good ideas for making her birthday special. She's the type of girl who cares more about something being thoughtful then being expensive. Any ideas?

2007-06-05 13:13:44 · 9 answers · asked by Hal_Chaffee 1

After 12 yrs of marriage, I separated from my husband. He had been dishonest and unfaithful for a while but it was the last affair that was the last straw that broke the camel's back. I still don't know how often he had cheated on me but the last affair was confirmed and supported with undeniable evidence.

I started telling my family about us 6 months after our separation. I had intended to keep this to myself as long as possible to hide the truth from his family, for his benefits. However, he has started living in the same area as my family so my family had run into him once or twice. That was why I decided to tell my family about the separation. I didn't think I was obligated to tell them anything since it was my private life.

One comment my mother made that hurt me was I had a poor judgment of character and therefore I picked the wrong guy as my husband. My niece said she believed I was too embarassed to admit that I made a mistake and so waited this long to tell them.

2007-06-05 13:13:40 · 15 answers · asked by Azure 1

I have been with my husband off and on for 10 years. We got married 4 years ago and have 3 beautiful kids. I found out a few months ago he cheated on me with his ex like 3 years ago and I also found out he rcvd oral sex from a hooker. He has a drug prob also. I dont use drugs. Now a few months ago i met a guy and cheated. I called it off with the guy before and now my husband knows about it. I have been honest about it and I was gonna move out with the kids. He talked me into stayin and tryin to make this work but i know im not in love with him anymore. I try everyday to make this better but he keeps bring up the fact that i cheated. I guess he forgot he cheated. All he wants to do is make me feel like **** about this. I am so ready to just walk out the door and leave everything behind and just raise my kids on my own what should i do???

2007-06-05 13:10:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm newly married wife and I realized that my hubby does need porns no matter how much I hate them. We had gone lots arguments over those and still he hides some(my guess) and I do know that he still goes to those sites and watch them whenever I'm not around when he is using computer. I don't know why I start to hate porns but recently I found and destroyed some of his self made porns with his exs and I almost puked. Really in terms of sex esp in those videos that he made, he is totally another person. And sometimes when we have sex, I can feel that I'm not the one who turned him on and I do see him fantasizing others. Probably he was watching porn or such and he gets horny so he wanna sex with me. sigh.. I did try wearing sexy clothes and everything and of course he enjoys but at the same time, my mind recalls those videos and pictures that he took with his exs and then I feel **** and so low. What am I supposed to do? I hate him watching porns but also I hate to see him not vigor.

2007-06-05 13:05:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

alright people what about this my hubby use to always tell me this when i hung out with my skanky best friend so I started going out by myself.....heres the catch his best friend is married and a cheater he has another women pregnant rite now and is leaving his wife now my husband told me this,but the last time he said his friend was cheatin it was really him ....ya feel me even though I was sworn to silence but I wanna ask him so bad should I.

2007-06-05 12:58:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-05 12:44:54 · 41 answers · asked by toolmanpei06 2

It amazes me that people in here are the 1st people to point thier fingers. Do you think they are to judgmental or do you think they are trying to hide thier own flaws.

2007-06-05 12:40:00 · 16 answers · asked by History Girl 2

My fiance and I have been together 10 years. We are 26 yrs old.Yesturday atwork he waspulled intooffice by his co-workers who told him that they noticed he was hurt and that it is me. We argue a lot. It seems like we have nothing in common anymore. He likes to sit down and play xbox and I don't. I like a clean house and feel like a slave. I come home from work, and clean, and all weekend all i do is clean. I ask him to help, but most of the time i end up doing it cause say the sink is overflowing with dirty dishes. Well, now he is not sure if he is still in love with me and I told him that I would find an apartment for myself and he said that he does not want to give me up at the moment, he wants to think things through. I feel like we can't talk as my dadlives with us during the week.We haveboth pushed e/other away, but we both are still love each other, but don't know what to do. I think we need space, but we are not able to. we are both scared anddon't know what to do. we love e/o

2007-06-05 12:37:33 · 7 answers · asked by hurt101 1

We have been living with room mates since before our marriage. We moved with my job. Her and our mutual friend were home alone all day long. Me and her were having some problems and were going through counseling. While we were living under seperate roofs, she and him started kissing and things. Now I'm trying to forgive her and forget about the whole situation because I love her so much, but she has become increasingly irritable with me. What should i do? Am i doing something wrong?

2007-06-05 12:28:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I am coming up with a decision and would like your help.
My sis lives in Indy and I live in Ca. I have four kids, married and am the sole bread winner out here. We have no assets( real estate ) anymore and are considering moving to Indiana to live in a much slower paced life and to be able to afford to purchase a home and break our backs doing so. My career is real estate, I am an agent and yes have my license out here and Indy.. in comparison would my life be "better" moving out to a less of a hassle, slower paced style life or is it a wash when it comes to selling high priced homes... high commission...selling lower priced homes... lower commission. So my question finally is which would you people go or even stay for financial stability.. culture adaptation, religion... all this to take into effect.... oh yeah we're catholic, hispanic/polynesian, and again four kids .. three in elementary school and one in pre-school.. thank you for your help.

2007-06-05 12:18:39 · 12 answers · asked by jmilil 3

I am in the process of a divorce & we are trying to do it uncontested(cheaper)....my husband left me about 2 years ago with nothing & we stayed seperated for 1 year. During that year(2 make it short)met a guy, fell in love, move in 2gether, and became pregnant with his child...well my crazy self never really quit talking to my "husband" so when I told him that I was pregnant by my live in boyfriend...he wanted me back....knowing the truth & all...he thought that if we didn't try to be together now that it would never happen...I went back & it forced the baby's real father completely away.my husband & I are now getting a real DIVORCE & he has been my childs daddy from birth. His name is on the birth certificate, & she has his last name. & he still wants to be in her life but he doesn't want to sign anything saying that he will pay child support. I need the financial help but if he don't sign what is saying that he will help us...ADVICE PLEASE!

2007-06-05 12:02:31 · 20 answers · asked by Renae 1

I met my husband thru a mutual friend many years ago... I thought her and i were almost best friends.... Well, while he and i were dating i ended up getting into a little trouble and had to go away for a little while...My so called best friend, stepped in and took my place, hooked up with him. I cannot stand her and she still tries to talk to him like nothing happened but wont bother to speak to me....
He doesnt really reply back, Should i confront her?

2007-06-05 11:53:23 · 14 answers · asked by boomquisha 2

My husband and I have been together for 8 ys. I found some e-mails of his talking about sex and the past w/ this one girl form his childhood(the school ****) . I was really hurt by him talking to her "dirty". Would you feel hurt by this? Am I making a big deal about this? He has told me million time and express his love for me since. He told me he's really sorry.
The thing is this isn't the first or second it's the third time this has happened. Once before we first starting dating then when we got engaged and now. He doesn't go out and have sex but he talks about it and gets emotionally attatchd. I see it as cheating because it feels like he has betrayed me. Am I right to feel this way?
I don't think our sex life is bad it's actually quite good. If anything my drive is going strong but his seems to have lower.
I just don't know if I'm overacting or if maybe I should be more upset.
I told him I forgave him b/c had had my gallbadder remove and didn't what to be fighting.

2007-06-05 11:50:59 · 36 answers · asked by blazinleti 2