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I have been with my husband off and on for 10 years. We got married 4 years ago and have 3 beautiful kids. I found out a few months ago he cheated on me with his ex like 3 years ago and I also found out he rcvd oral sex from a hooker. He has a drug prob also. I dont use drugs. Now a few months ago i met a guy and cheated. I called it off with the guy before and now my husband knows about it. I have been honest about it and I was gonna move out with the kids. He talked me into stayin and tryin to make this work but i know im not in love with him anymore. I try everyday to make this better but he keeps bring up the fact that i cheated. I guess he forgot he cheated. All he wants to do is make me feel like **** about this. I am so ready to just walk out the door and leave everything behind and just raise my kids on my own what should i do???

2007-06-05 13:10:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

6 answers

It sounds like you both have a lot of healing to do. First, nothing can be worked on until he ends his relationships with drugs. The health of the relationship will always be hindered as long as he is using.
I believe you need to do what you need to protect the emotional well being of the kids and yourself. If that means walking out the door then that is what you should do.
Find forgiveness for yourself and for him. There are alot of great books but check out one called Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping
Best wishes!

2007-06-05 14:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by www.stephaniehardwick.com 2 · 0 0

Your husband has all the problems and he wants to berate you for one indiscretion!!! It's always easier for a spouse to blame the other when they are the ones with the issues. Don't get me wrong. I don't believe anyone should cheat when married but your guy is looking to make you look bad even while he is the worst. This isn't going to get better especially with his drugging. Do yourself and your kids a favor and go. Spare them even if you don't want to spare yourself.

2007-06-05 20:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0 0

Have you guys tried counseling? I have been on both sides b4 also and it is a hard thing to deal with.
You both need to figure out what you both want.I understand where you are coming from. But do you want what is best for you kiddies. If he is using drugs that is not the best thing for them to be around maybe you should see if he will get counseling.
Best of luck

2007-06-05 20:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgurl 3 · 0 0

You already know in your heart what you should do. You're just waiting for that one.. last... final.. straw to send you over the edge. Would that really be beneficial to anyone? You and your husband both know you have reasons not to be married anymore. Go ahead and move on with your life and just make it as non-messy as possible.

2007-06-05 20:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0 0

Turn it over to Jesus. Confess your sins to Him and let Him carry you through this difficult time. Pray for healing in your heart, your spouses heart and your marriage and family. Pray for Him to increase your love for your husband. It's God's will that we stay married. Jesus can turn your life and your marriage around. In tough times He is the only one that can truly change things. I hope I have helped you, I was once in your shoes. Jesus changed everything. If you need someone to talk to just message me. God bless you.

2007-06-05 20:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kristy G 2 · 0 0

Leave because even though you forgave him he wont forgive you.Men are hypocrites that way.It's ok for them Armageddon if you do.

2007-06-05 20:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by tastyflow 3 · 0 0

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