Marriage & Divorce - 2 June 2007

I found out when it was over, since then he has spend all his time being nice (not kiss-*** nice) but more caring, more open, more human..... I went ahead since i could have done the same, and would have wanted another chance.....he's not given me any reason to suspect/or worry about my decision.

But the hurt refuses to go away, i am the one harming the relationship now, by turning every small argument into the old discussion cos i hurt when he even does thinks like forget to pick up something from the market, and then i take it out on him....i know its unfair to him and the relationship....

pl be sensitive and dont make fun of the obviously hurting situation, what do you think i should do....

2007-06-02 22:19:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

This new manager at work is always eyeballing me and smiling at me and giving me these flirty looks. And sometimes he likes to squeeze or grab my arm. Well yesterday when a 17 yr. old girl came in to apply for a job, he was googoo eyed and friendly to her in the same way he is with me. P.S. this man is like 36 yrs. old and married with kids, but he's just moving here so his wife and kids are in another state. What would you think about someone like that if you had to work with him everyday? Would you be afraid?

2007-06-02 22:16:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-02 22:14:44 · 20 answers · asked by angelbabe 2

Hidden phone calls, hidden and late night computer times, better dressing, less affection, short phone calls w/out I love u often, not home often, lashes out often, lies when confronted about computer time, does not like me near him for phone calls. We relocated across the country and my depression/solitude has taken a toll on the marriage, I feel guilty about that. I also had suspicions that he would want someone else that I expressed it, so perhaps I made this a self-fulfilled prophecy. But after he abandoned me on a long weekend for "business" and just gave me obligatory calls and I found missing condoms - I really think it isn't my imagination. How do I get him to tell the truth? If this is true after he has been so difficult and hurtful on top of it, I want to leave, but I don't want to hurt him, just leave amicably. How do I do that?

2007-06-02 22:12:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love her, but I'm concerned. Recently she seems to be uninterested in sex with me, and she says that she's been fantasizing about other women. She's even asked me how I felt about having a threesome with another woman. It could be just a coincidence, because I have an addiction to pornography that I am very successful in keeping off, so far. She's told me that in the past she has flirted with being gay or bisexual, but she could never 'see herself with a woman.' I love her, and I feel she's the most beautiful woman on the planet. But for some reason I feel like maybe she's hiding something from me. Maybe it's because we've been separated for the past month, but I really hope that she isn't gay. I not only think our relationship couldn't withstand a threesome but that it would be total hell upon our children.

2007-06-02 22:09:03 · 6 answers · asked by Jontelleo 1

I meet this person a year ago we both in the same situation,both our partner cheated us for an unreasonable reasons,he moved on and i moved on cause we both relying with each other,we became the best of friends but suddenly we both realized we fall in love and missed each other.. we are both married and in our country divorce is not allowed... i can't imagine living without him .. ..what should i do???we both away from our own partner and presently we worked in the same country...if I given the chance to be with somebody freely it would be him!!!

2007-06-02 21:29:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

7 yaers ago i got to know her in the uni i was 33 and she 22y/old she was mischief and i was calm and gentel .i confess that it wasnot easy to make friend ship with me but i felt that she really wants to get closer so i let her although i never thought of marriage in that time because she was very different with my imaginations any way i felt that she needs me and my protection so we met many times in uni (some times out , we talked on different things and she asked about the future of our relation she indirectly wanted me to ask her for marriage and at last it happend 6y ago .know i feel we are very different but i dont like the word divorce although she is agree and insist for it.we have no baby she has a good job .the most important thing i dislike is that ,she acts like a man b/c her mother had divorced and my wife had played her fathers role in their family so she wants to be the chief in family ,dosenot care about the man but viceversa too much care about her mum and sisters

2007-06-02 20:59:39 · 6 answers · asked by khashayar 1

why would a woman put herself in a such a position of lies and deceit to herself, to her husband, to her lover, to the wife of the lover (not to mention family, friends, neighbors and co-workers). what kind of relationship/fulfillment does she get? what motivates her? why ruin so many lives? this one was the cause of my divorce. and yes, he exhibited all the following signs:
http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/isyourspousecheating/tp/spousecheating.htm

2007-06-02 20:55:09 · 13 answers · asked by stuck 2

I just turned 33 and have no desire to have sex. I love my wife. and am not cheating. Is it natural to feel this way?

2007-06-02 20:20:23 · 11 answers · asked by Andy 1

2007-06-02 19:48:15 · 20 answers · asked by Alicia M 1

We just started keeping our money together. I give him all my money. He is the big spender & I often feel like he is selfish. In your relationships, who is the spoiled one, the wife or the husband? Is spending money equal? He spends a ton of money on his "fancy" truck which is another issue, because I feel like he's trying to impress women with it. What do u all think?

2007-06-02 19:31:57 · 16 answers · asked by mom of 2 3

if there is a girl that is married and she goes to work- there is a guy coworker that buy her lunch and breakfast practically everyday. He calls her every morning before work and after work. On fridays and weekends she usually have plans with this coworker. But she says this is just a "friend" although she talks very highly of this coworker and not her husband. is this cheating.

2007-06-02 19:02:37 · 44 answers · asked by katie 1

let me see.. would u think that 2 times a month is normal?

i would like to say get off me
and no i am not ugly. i am not like i was, but is still have it

i hope----

so what is it that turns the man on to his wife, are some men not so driven?

2007-06-02 18:12:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband drives truck, Comes home once a week and sleeps the whole time!! He walks in the doors, says "Hello, beautiful" then goes to bed!! I am totally and absolutely Lonely!! I love him and have turned down many opportunities!! Now, I am beginning to wonder why I turned them down! I am tired of being Lonely, but really need laid too!!! Pathetic I know, but True!!

2007-06-02 18:07:51 · 53 answers · asked by jacah5 3

married over 10 years. we are in our 30's.
do men have this prolbem,
or is he a loser. I get mad cause he never has energy.he never comes on to me. never, i have to to him. i know he is not cheating so please keep that thought to self. he has never been a go getter. he slacks at home, but he works his butt off at work. what would u do?
talking to him is like talking to the wall. my dad is sick and he asked me what are you bringing home to eat--dad is hospital --

tried of this---------------------------what do u think?

he has cryed saying that he just does not have desire to do it- now how would u feel? he wanted to go to doctor. he ssays it hurts and crap.sounds gay to me.that is what i said

2007-06-02 17:59:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

married over 10 years. we are in our 30's.
do men have this prolbem,
or is he a loser. I get mad cause he never has energy.he never comes on to me. never, i have to to him. i know he is not cheating so please keep that thought to self. he has never been a go getter. he slacks at home, but he works his butt off at work. what would u do?
talking to him is like talking to the wall. my dad is sick and he asked me what are you bringing home to eat--dad is hospital --

tried of this---------------------------what do u think?

he has cryed saying that he just does not have desire to do it- now how would u feel? he wanted to go to doctor. he ssays it hurts and crap.sounds gay to me.that is what i said

2007-06-02 17:55:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

well , i gave advice to ppl before to not stay in a marraige if they do nothing but fight. but i am in same position myself. verbally abusive husband , always argue etc etc. i know i need to leave but for the love i have for my children keeps me here. i dont want them seperated. there are 5 kids. 1 before hubby 4 with hubby. i know it would break their hearts to be apart from one another cause they love each other alot. but it is hard for me to deal with the verbal abuse from him especially when my 6+7 yr olds call me and tells me the same things he does. other than his disregard about fighting in front of them hes a good father. but it has taken its toll on my health an well being to be putting up with "your a worthless mother" "whore, *****,slut" on a daily basis. Am I wrong to stay because i love my babies so much i dont wanna seperate them? I know i should get out of this marraige but cant seem to overcome the thought that it would be selfish of me to split the children up...

2007-06-02 17:35:22 · 10 answers · asked by war 3

I am married I dont think I love him anymore.He is mentally abusive,not only to me but our kids as well.Threatens alot although I dont know if he would ever carry those threats out.I want to leave but I feel trapped.I have no family to go to, no friends.I have no money or car.I dont know how I can ever leave...any suggestions PLEASE.

2007-06-02 17:28:05 · 17 answers · asked by angel_love572 1

I have been cheated on a couple of times have confronted him many times and really went thru an emotional turmoil each time then i decided to take to get a grip of my life and met wonderful sumone online whom i have been talkin wit for a year now. It gave me sum relief and sumone to turn to. I have children so thats why i stuck on the marriage even though i am miserable. Now suddenly he has turned into a new leaf and here I am in this secret online r'ship and Im the one cheating. How do u reconcille this? Pls advise

2007-06-02 17:22:16 · 14 answers · asked by misha 1

2007-06-02 17:07:15 · 25 answers · asked by Nadia H 1

recently my sister-in-law verbially attacked me and my husband said that it was between us and that he could not back me up. she was lieing about everything. she said that I have personal problems and should see a professional, that I hate my life and the world and everyone in it. that I snap at everyone. that I don't have any friends and is a depressing person. that I bring nothing but gloom where ever I go. that I am the one that causes all the problems at work, that it is always me and I drive the other employees away. my husband just stood there and let her talk to me that way. I would back him up if someone was verbially attacking him.

2007-06-02 17:06:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-02 16:52:28 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

the female and met with her, I showed her the marriage liscence and every thing else that she needed to see to prove to her that this man was married. It has been 5 months I have proof that they are still talking I'm not for sure if they are still seeing each other, but I am so confused I am 34, He is 41 and she is 45 or 46 she has a 25 and 22 yr old and some grandchildren. These are games that should not be played because I pray that no one gets hurt I'm trying hard and I need some advise and please if you have something childish to say please please keep it to yourself I'm playing with to many kids right now and have two of my own. Thank you

2007-06-02 16:26:57 · 36 answers · asked by mustluv50 1

my husbands child support comes directly out of his check and is to be paid to Wakulla county florida then disbursed, the problem is both children are in their 20's still paying 600.00 for one in college, we do not owe child support anymore wakulla county shows that but Tallahassee dept of revenue shows we owe over 24000.00 i have requested proof and sent them letters showing what wakulla showed where it is actually paid and get no response what steps should i take to stop this it is killing us? Please if any body has suggestions please, please let me know!!!!!!!!!!
thankx
renee7803

2007-06-02 15:32:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son looks black and asian.I think thats kind of wierd because my wife is Irish and im Italian.So what gives?There must be some scientific answer for this.Please help me not feel so guilty for not trusting my wife.

2007-06-02 14:51:22 · 13 answers · asked by Roman187 2

I started dating him at 15, we got married when I was 18, had 3 wonderful kids,& a great grandson who is 16. we were happyily married for 30 yrs. when he died suddenly at the age of 53..I love & miss him so much.

2007-06-02 14:40:30 · 11 answers · asked by chercinbob 4

Married 23 years, two lovley daughters, good std of living, holiday home abroad, very few finanicial worries, but she found another man and left me & the kids, without warning, jI ust got back from work one day and she was gone. I thought we had a fairly good marriage except for last few weeks when she went cold on me. Did not see what was coming. She now makes very little contact. She has made very little contact with her kids, texts every now and then. No contact with her mum, dad brother & Sisters. Refuses to pay anything towards mortgage or anything, but still insists she will get 50% of everything when we divorse. She don't want divorse yet, cant afford it she says. But managing to pay for rent on new home with this man, buy new car and new laptop. Problem is, I cant think of anything else but her, the things we have done together etc . She is constantly on my mind. Its driving me mad. I still love her so much, but she don't seem interested.

2007-06-02 13:01:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-02 13:00:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

i mean i just broke up with my girlfriend because i think i loved her too much and she loved me too much. too much to the piont where we figured that we shouldnt be together. And really she was saying it, then i was saying it and now we are both saying it. Our lives just didnt match up. but our love for each other was pure yet us being so young didnt bind us together in an enviroment of training and changing like they do with the married people. and i really dont have the confidence or patience to wait until 4 or 5 years until she grows up and realizes that i was what she needed, (or maybe thats just me) but its all good and im moving on but i know i still love her and she loves me, but theres just something there thats not meant to be, and i hate it. has anybody been through this? and whats the best thing to do in anybodies opinion?

2007-06-02 12:59:24 · 6 answers · asked by the sponge 3

i never regretted my dissciousin to do this.. but i read on here and here other people now sometimes i wonder if i was wrong.. my bf ex gf told him she would take more child support if she could.. and i hear other women say the same thing.. but i gave my ex a 40% reduction in child support.. he has to live as well and he will go in half with me if our child need something...was i being stupid..should i have taken him to the cleaners..is that what having children and being a coustiodal parent all about..or are people like that because most people want give the extras when a child needs it..and do you consider me lucky because my ex would.. i know i consider myself to be lucky to have one that would help with the extras..but it is in the divorce that he do so

2007-06-02 12:36:59 · 9 answers · asked by vis 7