recently my sister-in-law verbially attacked me and my husband said that it was between us and that he could not back me up. she was lieing about everything. she said that I have personal problems and should see a professional, that I hate my life and the world and everyone in it. that I snap at everyone. that I don't have any friends and is a depressing person. that I bring nothing but gloom where ever I go. that I am the one that causes all the problems at work, that it is always me and I drive the other employees away. my husband just stood there and let her talk to me that way. I would back him up if someone was verbially attacking him.
2007-06-02 17:06:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to let him know that you did not apprecate the fact
that he did not have your back regardless of what was said'
he disrespect you in every way. you are his wife and he should
have had your back so if that the case then really look at what
do you really have with this marrige. if there is no trust then'
there not much of anything else.
2007-06-02 17:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes we don't realize the way we come across to other people. I know you say she was lying, but my impression from what she said is that maybe you do have these problems and just don't realize it. When a person is negative, they don't see it, they just feel normal, but it affects everyone around them. Perhaps your husband didn't stand up for you because his sister was right and he was glad to have someone other than himself bring this painful subject up.
Instead of being angry at your husband, maybe you should open yourself up to an honest look at yourself. Do you have friends? Would they answer such an uncomfortable question from you truthfully? The best thing would be a few visits with a counselor to get an objective point of view. Then if you discover that there was any truth in what your sister-in-law said, you can begin to make the changes that will make you and those around you happier.
2007-06-02 17:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two points here. First, you must be losing the argument or else you wouldn't hope for your husband to "defend" you.
Second, the things your sister-in-law said are not actionable. These are women attacking women. A possibility is that he agrees with some of the attack (such as employees leaving because of you, maybe he has evidence). If a man has to choose between principle (knowing the truth) and his wife (just because he is expected to), he is stuck.
2007-06-02 18:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has no right to, and you are now a package deal, she was trying to single you out to attack you, there is no reason for you to waste time around her any more. You get constructive and destructive people in your life, and you know exactly where in those two groups she falls, pity she doesn't.
Write her a letter stating that she has no rights to make stuff up to try and bring you down with just cause she's having a bad life, and that until she can talk to you decently not to bother.
I would also tell your husband that if he doesn't think you are worth standing up for like you would for him, where he sees the marraige going?
2007-06-02 17:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband did you wrong by not standing up for you, plain and simple. He should have told his sister not to talk to you that way. You are now his family, and he should show you respect, and make sure that everyone else does too.
2007-06-02 17:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was his sister?Well he sucks but maybe he is afraid of his sister and can't stand up to her.Why don't you be a woman and ask him why he did'nt say or do anything,Then 4 sure you will get your answer because the best way to ask something is to go to the source.And this is what you should do.
2007-06-02 17:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by kimmysue34 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't stand there and listen to her if she is telling lies about you. Have you checked yourself to see if anything she said might have a little truth to it? Looks like you can't count on him to be in your corner. That isn't right, as your husband he should stand up for you and protect you. He isn't doing his job. Or maybe he agrees with her and that's why he isn't standing up for you.
2007-06-02 17:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and him need to have a long talk about committment and divorce. Something isn't right or solid feel me! put him on a long p-ssy strike anshow him what committment is really about
2007-06-02 17:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by CitaB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her rumor has it she used to be a man and what about that???? Tell your husband you can fight your own battles and if he was a smart man, he would not ever pick one with you.
2007-06-02 17:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband disrespected you right along with his sister. Tell them both to go to h***.
2007-06-02 17:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋