is this cheating?

Question

if there is a girl that is married and she goes to work- there is a guy coworker that buy her lunch and breakfast practically everyday. He calls her every morning before work and after work. On fridays and weekends she usually have plans with this coworker. But she says this is just a "friend" although she talks very highly of this coworker and not her husband. is this cheating.

Answer 1

I think emotionally it could be, but whoever this "girl" is, she needs to ask herself how it makes her husband feel. She may see him as just or friend but it is a very dangerous game she is playing. The couple may need ot talk to a counselor or someone bc if she has such high feelings for this man and not her husband, then they have a problem.

Answer 2

This is not cheating; however, depending on your individual prospective, this situation might be considered crossing the line because there is obviously an emotional attachment of some sort. The big question is, is this an innocent emotional attachment or the type of attachment that leads to infidelity? Most people would say that noone needs to be giving that amount of time, energy, and attention to anyone outside of their home. However, sometimes people have such friends just to talk to about things. Everyone doesn't feel comfortable talking to their spouse about Everything.

Answer 3

Technically, no. Nobody is trying to lie to anybody so it's not cheating. However, this could be classified as an emotional affair (if that's all they're doing) and it means the woman is looking for fulfillment outside her marriage, especially if she talks about the negatives in her marriage with this friend. If the husband says he is uncomfortable with this arrangement and the wife persists in the friendship, she is putting her friend ahead of her husband's feelings and that is not right. It also could mean there is more to it or she could let him go as a friend.

Answer 4

Sounds like it to me! I cheated once and these are all things I did. I would call my lover every morning, find time for him every day and spend as much time with him on weekends as possible to the detriment of my relationship with my now husband. Thank God I came to my senses and my then boyfriend forgave me as we married a year later and have never been happier. I would never spend more time with another man than my hubby as having been a cheat and getting caught once, I know I would be under suspicion ...but not just that...it is WRONG to do this to someone you love!

Answer 5

it does sound like the co-worker is int rested in the girl, at the same time does this girl talk to her husband about the co-worker and what he does for her,its really the husbands responsibility to figure this one out,to us the outsiders of the relationship it will not seem right, and if the girl cannot tell her husband about just her friend at work than she has already turned it into cheating, she is hiding from her husband. as far as talking about this guy more than her husband , well then this guy has taken alot more of her time and space than he needs to be.

Answer 6

Well if they are only friends than thats what they are. If they actually are doing stuff to make them like a couple than that would be considered cheating. Maybe you should tell your co-workers husband about what is going on with this other guy and let them handle it. It really isnt your business but it is good that you let her husband know what is going on so nothing gets to extreme!

Answer 7

Yes it is or it will be,or it will get ugly when he makes a move and she gets upset and doesnt want to reciprocate when he thinks she wanted it. Very rarely do people do nice things just to do them, Ive had a male friend since i was like 10 would do anything for me eventually the friendship in our 20's died down because he loved me and said he did all those things because he loved me etc and my other friend was married and was faithful respectable pastor, and married longer than id been alive and we would buy eachother lunch etc and one day he tried to kiss me and told me he dreamed about me and said he loved his wife but there was just something, a kindess, a thing about me that he had never cared for another women except his wife, we are all still accuaintances but my hubby doesnt like it

Answer 8

Yes! This is an emotional attachment, and may even stem deeper than that. If she is spending all of her free time w/ him, and not with you that is a red flag, as are all of the lunches, and phone calls, and talking "highly" of him.

I don't know if this is for you or friend, but I would suggest counseling, or a divorce is imminent.

Answer 9

This sounds like it could be. I have seen situations like this before and it is best to stay out of the issue unless the coworker tries to draw you into the situation by getting you to lie for her. It is her problem not yours.

Answer 10

It sounds like an emotional affair. That can be considered cheating even though nothing physical is going on. This can be dangerous territory. The longer it goes on the more prone it is to get physical.