My husband drives truck, Comes home once a week and sleeps the whole time!! He walks in the doors, says "Hello, beautiful" then goes to bed!! I am totally and absolutely Lonely!! I love him and have turned down many opportunities!! Now, I am beginning to wonder why I turned them down! I am tired of being Lonely, but really need laid too!!! Pathetic I know, but True!!
2007-06-02 18:07:51 · 53 answers · asked by jacah5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have talked to him, told him that I am very lonely (several times) and that something has to change. He smiles and says I promise Tomorrow I'll get ya! Well, Tomorrow never happens!! Then the days turn into weeks, weeks, to months, then what?
2007-06-02 19:07:11 · update #1
You're crazy! Talk it out with your husband. By the way well input and funny in a way. HAHAHA!!!!!!!
2007-06-02 18:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not cheat! Don't be stupid! Trucking is long, hard, dangerous and lonely work. If you don't like this arrangement then you need to honest with him about how lonely you are and how much you miss his company. Marriage is about much more than getting laid. That is the least of it and if that is all you want then do your husband a favor and ask him for a divorce so that he is free to find a wife who understands that marriage is a partnership that sometimes involves sacrifice and compromise. Do you really think this current situation entirely makes your husband happy? I imagine it pays the bills. If you don't know how to have this conversation then see a therapist by yourself and figure it out. Cheating is always, always wrong and trust me your friends and family will have judge you.
2007-06-02 18:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my oh my. No don't cheat please. If you feel lonely and you really need to be someone then I suggest you talk to your husband and let him know these things. If it does not work out then maybe you aren't with the right person anymore.
My daddy is a Truck driver. I understand him so much. Driving a truck is not just sitting there like nothing. It is very tiring. They try to do their driving in the night sometimes to avoid traffic. My daddy is a bit extreme. He rather driver all night and day so he can have a few hours to come home and be with family. Unfortunately since he is so so tired all he does is sleep and eat. You have to put yourself in his shoes and really think about what he's going through as well. Talk it out and then make a decision, is not fair for him to be cheated on.
2007-06-02 18:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jeannette R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your relationship, or lack thereof. The temptation to cheat is understandable. We all need intimacy, and it is a very strong craving.
The only problem with cheating is that it really isn't fair to the cheater or whomever she cheats with. Many times, the other person is going to want to develop this relationship further, and you might feel the same way, and that just leaves you feeling frustrated. What you need to do is try to set up some counseling sessions for you and your guy, and go alone if he just won't. Assuming you've told him all this, he could catch up on some sleep after the session.
2007-06-02 18:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bill F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell HIM not US!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you love him you won't cheat. If you don't love him you will. Plain and simple. Don't people know what love is at all. Did you mean your vows, or NOT??? What would you do if your husband was in the military? Or what if you were in an accident and had to spend 6 mo's recovering and could not have sex. What do you think he should do.? OR how about the last couple months of your pregnancy and right after you have a baby? Should he cheat? I mean, he probably would want to get laid. Yes it IS pathetic.
2007-06-02 18:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could greet him at the door with a bottle of champagne and a smile and try to keep him awake a while. See if you can reconnect.Tell him you need some kind of exchange. If he doesn't take the time and have the sense to connect with you then you need to tell him that it is not working for you and make a clean break before you step out on him. Then you will have your self respect and be worthy of the next good things that happen to you.
2007-06-02 18:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I would. He's had fair warning and has chosen to continue neglecting your needs. Invariably, ALL affairs happen because needs go unmet. If you're unwilling or unable to leave the marriage, then an affair might be a viable option for you. You may want to consider WHO you choose as an affair partner. Generally, people who are in the same boat as you are (married, unhappy, unable to leave, etc.) make a better partner than a single person who may start wanting more than you're able to deliver or who may be unstable. Affairs are tricky things. Be careful.
2007-06-03 03:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be committing adultery if you have sex with someone else. Adultery comes with some very nasty consequences. You have free will to choose to committ adultery, but you can not choose the consequences and they are as I said dire. Have you talked to your husband about this problem? Have you told him what you are thinking about doing? Find out what he thinks about it. Maybe he isn't aware of how you feel, who knows maybe he is getting laid on the road and that's why he doesn't have any lovin for you. Only he knows. Talk to him. Let him read what you wrote here, that sums it up pretty good.
2007-06-02 18:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm... no, you shouldn't go ahead and cheat. You should explain to hubby that you need more of his time. Both of you may enjoy the financial benefit of his driving all week, but the marriage is clearly in trouble if you're thinking about cheating.
Another alternative is to purchase some adult toys to keep you entertained when he is away. But bottom line is, if you have to go outside the marriage to have your needs met, you probably shouldn't be married.
And if it was up to him, he'd probably make some compromise in order to keep you satisfied. You owe him a chance to improve the situation before you do something that you can't undo.
2007-06-02 18:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by carolinagirl1174 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're really in the marriage because you love the guy and you've taken your vows seriously, then just masturbate, and perhaps talk to him seriously about a different career option and explain that it's hurting your relationship.
If you're really are set on cheating, get out of the marriage. It'll hurt, it'll be a little extra work, but he doesn't deserve to be crushed by you cheating just because his work schedule doesn't work in your favour. Don't pursue anything until you at least talk to the guy, or call it quits.
That's my 2 cents anyway...
2007-06-02 18:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by beth c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!! Life is full of choices. If you love your husband why would you risk your marriage and your health to be with some other guy. Talk to your husband and see if he can rotate to a local run. Makes less money but he would be home most evenings.
2007-06-02 18:16:01 · answer #11 · answered by Curtis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋