a question about child support?

Question

i never regretted my dissciousin to do this.. but i read on here and here other people now sometimes i wonder if i was wrong.. my bf ex gf told him she would take more child support if she could.. and i hear other women say the same thing.. but i gave my ex a 40% reduction in child support.. he has to live as well and he will go in half with me if our child need something...was i being stupid..should i have taken him to the cleaners..is that what having children and being a coustiodal parent all about..or are people like that because most people want give the extras when a child needs it..and do you consider me lucky because my ex would.. i know i consider myself to be lucky to have one that would help with the extras..but it is in the divorce that he do so

oops sorry i hope you could read this.. i really should have did the spell check.. but i forgot

no hex his admount was suppose to be 85 and i told the courts 50 would be ok.. we both made the same admount

Answer 1

I think you owe it to your childrend to make sur e you live in a decent (not decadent) house in a safe neighborhood. If you need to suppliment your money with some from your ex - then do so. If the above is taken care of; then I think you are person of good character not to "take him to the cleaners"

Surely the problems were mutual & you both have some blame - so as long as pays some each month & then does pitch in for big things .... I say you ARE lucky & don't ruin it by being nasty just for extra money.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Well criminal attorney, stick to the criminals and leave family law to those who know the statutes.

FIRST OF ALL, child support is NOT based on the income of both parents in all states. Neither is it ONLY based on the income of the parents in some states such as Missouri, which bases child support on the RESOURCES available to both parents.

What this has meant for several cases whereby one or the other parent remarries is that the total amount of assets (including that which is available from the new partner) can be used to calculate child support.

In the case at hand, the only thing that would in your case be stupid (your words) is if you did this while a current child support order was issued for a different amount.

If there is a current child support order in force, then your ex is in civil contempt of that order. And you placed him in that position.

So, is there a current order or are you talking about only asking for a certain amount to be ordered?

Answer 3

Yes I thank you are lucky in being able to tell the ex that the kid needs something and he goes in half with you. As for the other people on here, there is probably just different circumstances. Like if the divorce was over just not getting along anymore and it is mutual thing then I think that would be different. Now as for a cheating husband and revengeful wife there might be a need for her to teach him a lesson. If everything is working out for you then continue on as you are. Good luck.

Answer 4

In the matter of child support, it is always important to think about the good of the children. It is admirable that you thought of him, giving him that reduction. I did not take my ex husband to the cleaner's either. He has struggled and is getting rather behind, after losing a couple of jobs, but he is stabilizing. I see it more from the viewpoint, it is for the good of the children that they have a chance to spend time with their father. If he were trying to avoid paying because he could care less about the children, it would be one thing. But since we are both struggling, I think it is better to not try and punch him further down. This is not a war. You create your battlefield, or you wave the flag of peace. There is no crime in opting for a peaceful happier solution for the good of the children.

Answer 5

I am not entirely clear where you are getting you information. The spirit of child support is based on the incomes of both parents. Each state has calculations to make this determination. If one parent earns more then child is entitled to an increase in support. Nothing about child support has to do with parents taking anyone to the cleaners. It has to do with what level one or the other parent have in financial ability to support. I admire your attitude and wish more parents would have their child's best interest in mind when they start spouting off about this.

Answer 6

I never changed our child support order although I could have used an extra $200.00 each month, that would have taken care of 1/3 of all of the bills regarding my daughter's care and feeding, which is how child support is calculated. The reason I never changed it was because my ex was/is responsible for all of her medical/dental needs as well as her college tuition and books.

Answer 7

i think you are a great person for reducing your ex's child support! That's FAR more then I'm willing to do .. then again, had he not left me for another woman, I may not be so bitter. And besides, so far there hasn't been a court date for separation and child support (another 5-6 weeks away ... aarg!) and in the last month, I have gotten a total of $108 from him for our 2-year-old daughter ... and HE KNOWS how expensive diapers and pull-ups are! So, he makes his own bed, he's gonna have to lay in it.

Again, you're great for what YOU did!

Answer 8

You are lucky because my ex is not paying anything as hewas meant to prior to getting a benefit.

Answer 9

I think that you are being a considerate human being..... i am sure that you will have a better relationship with him by doing so by showing him that you are not vindictive.