Marriage & Divorce - 1 June 2007

2007-06-01 23:45:56 · 41 answers · asked by rohit sbitoo 1

What am I doing wrong? I feel I am loosing my husband of 14 years. He is not talking and come home only to change his cloths, he is avoiding any contacts, and now is gone in unknown direction. We have 2 kids, 11 and 9 y.o. and I don’t want them to feel that we have problems. My husband is a really easy-going person overall. he has lots of interests and trying to enjoy his life. Home routine is not his strong side. So sometime he gets over my limits (I am really patient), and when I am telling this to him, he runs away and got really upset/pissed. Last time he started to discuss very personal things in public, I felt humiliated and told him later. We were arguing and he run away. It’s been a week already. I thought I have to be firm by setting some limits (I was really uncomfortable that time) But it’s been a week already and I am in panic. Usually I am the person who is looking for resolution of the conflict no matter who was wrong. But now he is not giving this chance to me.

2007-06-01 23:34:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-01 23:05:38 · 30 answers · asked by velmurugan r 1

it is ok we care for each other in our own way and it more a duty than anything as there is no sex anymore we have saperate rooms as I dont even want him to touch me as he is not looking after himself I dont fancy him any more he has erection problems and that is just one of the problems,
I want to be hugged, kissed and have sex and yearn for that part of life
I found someone that will give me that but dont want to upset my hubby in any way shape or form,i dont feel quilty at all as i have a life and my hubbys selfishness that i need that life
my dilemma is i am married .

2007-06-01 21:36:20 · 8 answers · asked by jeya2c 1

However, lately a certain girl from my past has been on my mind. I find myself thinking about her quite often. So often in fact that I almost feel ashamed. There never was any kind of an intimate relationship between us. I am totally devoted to my wife and have no intentions of straying but I am still haunted by her memory. I feel like, well, I miss her and have a strong sense of urgency to find her. Is this wrong or should I just let it go? And if so suggestions would be deeply appreciated.

2007-06-01 21:33:23 · 12 answers · asked by Scooter 1

I have been married for 5 years, I have two children by a previous marriage. My husband is leaving, he is adamant that he loves me deeply, the sole reason he is going is what he considers to be the intolerable behaviour of my children. He gets upset about them having untidy bedrooms or having to ask them more than once to do chores. In the past I have tried to talk with him about management/difficulties with the children but he has always completley frozen me out saying he can't talk it makes him too angry and sometimes hasn't spoken for days when he has been upset. I have become emotionally drained and given up trying to talk to him. I feel that our different attitudes towards the children has led to irreconcilable difficulties and now his leaving is something of a relief. So why do I feel such a failure. I feel I have tried really hard only to be abandoned. I feel I am a bad mother and a useless wife. I don't understand what is going on in my head. Help

2007-06-01 21:02:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

To be owned and controlled by a woman? Is this what you call fun?

Somebody always getting bent becuase:

1. You check out other women
2. You would like a little variety after say...20 years of same ol same ol sex
3. Plenty of hot single women dig married guys
4. The wife gets bent about everything.

So tell me again why I would ever want to get married? It seems like nothing but a drag to me....pure hassle. NO FUN.

2007-06-01 20:31:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

He stop paying attention to me about one year already no intamacy between us until i discover he was into heavy porno when i asked him he just picked up and left i have not heard from him since it going to be 3 months. I still love him but i feel abondend and rejected. I wonder and hope if he will ever come back and ask for forgiveness and then i ask my self if i should forgive

2007-06-01 20:07:55 · 16 answers · asked by karen c 2

Is this Normal??.. I even fantasize two girls and me in the bedroom!???please answer me there.dont laugh.

2007-06-01 19:47:29 · 22 answers · asked by mybonky2000 2

My husband who use to be the best guy in the world started drinking just months after i found out i had cancer. It really hurted me to see him not come home from work smiling and telling jokes but instead drunk and angry. we have three kids and it's really hard to explain to my daughter why he's so different now. I confronted him tonight when he finally came home, we got in fight and he slammed me against the wall and left. What should i do now? i don't think i can take it anymore but i still love him! Help?

2007-06-01 19:34:03 · 27 answers · asked by puppylove 1

to explain the best I can. Details would fill volumes. My fiance and I are having trouble. It's not like us to act like this. I know planning a wedding is stressful but that's not it. I have an abnormaly high level of stress right now (financial, DMV, work, boards, medical(skydive crash), moving and more. I just moved myself into the new house (until married). Last night we had an "argument". Truth is I wasn't arguing at all. I wanted to find out what bothered her to help fix it. She said I was blaming her for not renting a truck for the move. I couldn't care less about the truck. I found another way. I told her many times I wasn't blaming her for anything. She drove off despite my attemps to flash her over to talk. She avoided my calls all day. I don't even know what I "did". I can't concentrate on the other issues bc I can only think of her. Can I just show up at her house?Theres not much to work with I really want to resolve this. I am trying to be a good husband

2007-06-01 19:32:05 · 11 answers · asked by whatever 2

Okay, so lets say thease two just got married, guy doesnt want kids..but he's not extrodanarily firm about this want.. the girl REALLY REALLY wants kids...What happens? should they?

2007-06-01 19:17:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband comes home every other day from work and drinks 12 pack of beer and plays and talks with women friends he meets on game sites. He knows that the drinking is affecting the relationship because we have many disscusions over this. He says he is going to do what he wants to do. I just feel that this is taking away from us and I am am about to leave him over this. I don't like that he is talking to women on these game sites ...when he could be talking and spending quality time with me. I am asking this question for my sister and she is here and wanting some advice.

2007-06-01 18:47:28 · 19 answers · asked by Lindsey 4

While my hub & I were out w/ friends, he asked me a couple times to dance, & I turned him down. I'm pregnant, so I was the only sober one & not having near as much fun as everyone else (even though I was trying to fake it). Plus earlier I got hit in the ankle by a dang pool ball (lol).

This skanky girl was totally getting on my nerves, playing the "drunk, stupid, oops my boobs are hanging out" role. All over everybody. Next thing I know my hub is dancing with her! I was mad, and a tad embarrassed. But I tried to play it off and just give him a "that's not cool" look. A hint. Apparently he didn't pick up on it, cause he kept dancing w/ her. I ended up storming out like a 12 yr old.

I know he didn't have any intentions of cheating on me or anything like that, but it still upset me for some reason. Have I turned into the over-dramatic, crazy jealous wife? Or maybe it was because he recently told me he likes going to bars because all the women flirt w/ him? Maybe I was out of line?

2007-06-01 18:40:17 · 16 answers · asked by Lyndsey G 3

2007-06-01 18:18:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

To me love is fore a moment. when we are just kind and in passion.

2007-06-01 18:13:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

within the past few weeks, my parents have been more and more awkward around each other. dad now says he no longer loves mom and he wants to go out and be on his own (divorce). he still wants to be friends, but no longer sees her as a lover. dad thinks mom is avoiding all of this and mom believes that dad is just having issues. dad says he has made up his mind and just does not know when he will tell her all this, nothing is going to change with him. mom stopped going to marriage counseling cause 'dad is the one with the problem' and it seems as though she is waiting for a miracle to happen to fix their marriage. dad asked if i could talk to mom about everything, but i feel as though that is not my place. after 25 years of marriage, you would think that they would know that they have to talk with each other to work everything out, and not use their children as messengers. i don't know what to do or what to say. my younger teenage sisters are getting upset with all this. any advice?

2007-06-01 17:57:09 · 12 answers · asked by just an ordinary girl 1

can someone get a restraining order if they have screenshots of comments from myspace harassing someone?

2007-06-01 17:23:31 · 7 answers · asked by Caleb P 2

My job eats my energy plus I have a 2 hour plus commute and parking issues on top of it. I financially support my parents, and am the key wage earner in my home. I'm so tired and so unhappy. I could deal with it if I had my husbands support but he doesn't care. Truly. He makes an effort for friends & strangers but not for me. He won't participate in household decision making, I pay all bills, sort out all problems. he writes 1 cheque to offset bills. I feel so isolated & alone. To socialize I count on my friends. If we go on holiday its because I make the arrangements and pay for it. He doesnt invest the time to please me with a plan. Everything seems like a hassle to him. It hurts. He does chores so not all evil, but its like he does them to have an excuse not to spend time with me. I can't discuss with him as he physically leaves if I try to open a discussion. We've only been married since 2003. I can't make him participate in the marriage and sick of asking.Time to moveon?

2007-06-01 17:06:12 · 21 answers · asked by LINDA W 2

we just had oue third child and he has really become more verbally abusive

2007-06-01 17:03:40 · 15 answers · asked by tashiba p 1

I don't mean anything particularly kinky, just run of the mill regular stuff between married folk.

2007-06-01 16:54:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a mormon and have been through the Temple and received my Endowments. Her is my Question when say you and your mormon wife are married and want to have sex do you take off your garments "LDS Sacred Clothing" or do you leave them on???????????

2007-06-01 16:43:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife went from Mother Theresa to T-Rex in abut 20 seconds tonight.

2007-06-01 16:25:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend is in the process of building a house. Both her and her husband's name are on it; I think also her parents are as well. So far, her husband has not contributed anything towards it because he doesnt want it.
Their marriage is rocky, and she asked me today if when the house is done does he have any rights to it if they end up in a divorce.
I told her it doesnt matter how much he has contributed, his name is on the house and legally he has rights towards it (or monetary compensation for his half) in the settlement.
Her friends at her work have told her the opposite, that he has no rights to it as he hasn't put anything towards it.

My understanding is unless she can prove their money has always been seperate even during the marriage (which even then is not a guarantee of a ruling in her favor) because the law would consider all money they earned as joint... the only option she has is to get him to take his name off the deed before a divorce.
Is there any other options?

2007-06-01 16:21:19 · 11 answers · asked by cheryl d 2

he is a really bad father and barely see his child. he got me a mothers day gift but also up and left me and my daughter at 7 months pregnant. do i bother to get him a gift? if your answers yes, what would you get him?

2007-06-01 16:08:44 · 23 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

2007-06-01 15:54:57 · 33 answers · asked by amw11380 1

Ladies, what is one thing a man can do, or say that will make you feel more appreciated and loved?

2007-06-01 15:27:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't understand how/why marriage is something that isn't taken serious. I am on this website often and I read time and time again...just get a divorce. I think in some cases it is valid...but just because they are in a fight or the sex isn't like it was in the beginning they should walk out and never look back... Anyone else out there that won't give up that easy?

2007-06-01 15:24:43 · 23 answers · asked by mom of two 2

My ex husband is ordered to pay child support and now i find out he quit his job. He started truck driving and hasn't said a word to me about his child support payments. One was due this week, our son doesn't want me to go forward by talking to my attorney because the state his dad lives in pulls their drivers lic till the amout owed is paid. What would you do? I need the money but dont want my son mad...

2007-06-01 15:22:13 · 22 answers · asked by Don't make me beg!!! 3

Well I know how to please my woman but I want to be able to please her better.
We have been together for 8 years and it's starting to get same ol' same ol'.

2007-06-01 15:13:01 · 25 answers · asked by Big Daddy 1