he is a really bad father and barely see his child. he got me a mothers day gift but also up and left me and my daughter at 7 months pregnant. do i bother to get him a gift? if your answers yes, what would you get him?
2007-06-01 16:08:44 · 23 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also... he up and left for a 17yr old girl!
2007-06-01 16:09:28 · update #1
his daughter is NOW only 3 months old
2007-06-01 16:26:23 · update #2
I don't think he deserves anything. He sure didn't give it second thought when he left & didn't look back. IF he's going to be picking up your child, I think he should be grateful he's spending time w/his child. If he says anything, his gift is the opportunity to spend time w/the child he choose to leave behind! If you want to teach the child manners, depending on their age, they could make a card w/their hand print on it.
2007-06-01 16:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sue C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if there is any hope of salvaging a relationship between your daughter and her father, then yes, I would get him a gift. Father's Day isn't about your feelings toward him, it's about your daughter's feelings toward him.
I know it's hard, but be the bigger person and get him something nice. As for what to get- let me say this: my mom was a horrible person and an even worse parent, but my dad, who raised us, always bought a nice gift for my brother and I to give her for her birthday, Mother's Day, etc. I respect him SO much for doing that.
Try something useful, like a new coffee maker etc. Or the photo suggestion was good - put a picture of your daughter in a nice frame and give that to him.
2007-06-01 16:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know if you should get him a gift for father's day, but you should teach your child to give gifts on special occasions. This would seem to be one of those times when your child should be giving him a gift or recognizing him politely. You don't say how old your child is, but if s/he knows how to use a crayon, s/he could make dad a card.
2007-06-01 16:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you are not obligated to give him a gift, He is not your father. IF your children ask to get him a gift, you can help them select soemthing that is within your budget to give the him. I would do this in respect of the children and to save their self esteem and make sure that they had the opportunity to give him something. I would not accept a gift from him on mother's day unless it is a gift he took your and his children to buy for you. In other owrds, I think it is appropriate for the gifts to come from thte kids in the interrest of the kids having gifts for their parents. You are under no boligation to give him a gift just becuase he is the sperm donor. Children might pick things from toys to games to candy or movies for their dad. Don't you buy him a thing.
2007-06-01 16:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he up and left you for a 17 yr old, have his hind end arrested for statutory rape. Once he's classified as a pedophile, you won't have to worry about your kids visiting him, as he probably won't be allowed around them. See how long he's been sleeping with the 17 yr old. If it started when she was 15, boy can you nail his hind end to the wall. It's questionable if it was 16 or 17, but check into it anyway. As far as a gift, you can encourage your kid(s) to make something for him. But ONLY if they want to make him something. But as far as a gift from you, I wouldn't bother, except to maybe get him a toad and tell him it's symbolic:)
2007-06-01 16:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point I would leave it up to your children, they are the reason he is a father. If they really have nothing to do with him, then i would leave it alone. I also think if he is a bad father and has nothing to do for your child, you should just celebrate being the main provider. That takes a lot of courage and you deserve a gold star.
2007-06-01 16:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he deserves a fathers day gift if he just up and left you and his child..and for a 17 year old?!
2007-06-01 16:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are under no obligation to do this but for the sake and well being of your child, i believe you should. not a gift from you, but take your child out and let your child select a fathers day gift.
regardless of what your relationship is with him, he is still the father and you should make your child feel good by allowing him/her to get something special for fathers day.
best of luck
2007-06-01 16:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by chantel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how old your daughter is. If she is old enough to understand, let her pick it out and give it to him. Otherwise, I really think it will be seen as something other than you are intending. It may make him think you are wanting him back. Proceed with caution. One rule of thumb is "If it ends up hurting the child, then it's not a good idea".
2007-06-01 16:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by blutoadmirer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get my husband a Father's Day gift because he is not my father. Come on, he sounds like a turd, why should your daughter give him one? As a prize for abandonment? But, if you don't want to be bitter about the whole situation and be big about it, sure, buy him one.
2007-06-01 16:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by nwrs03 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋