My husband comes home every other day from work and drinks 12 pack of beer and plays and talks with women friends he meets on game sites. He knows that the drinking is affecting the relationship because we have many disscusions over this. He says he is going to do what he wants to do. I just feel that this is taking away from us and I am am about to leave him over this. I don't like that he is talking to women on these game sites ...when he could be talking and spending quality time with me. I am asking this question for my sister and she is here and wanting some advice.
2007-06-01 18:47:28 · 19 answers · asked by Lindsey 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wake up call time!!!! Been there done that one. My final straw was when he started downloading pics with titles like Doggie Lick, ( yes it was what you are thinking). Kick him out, remove the computer, what ever it takes. Nip it now or it will just get worse.
2007-06-01 18:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Barbie 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Along with the drinking issue...the internet can be a bad thing. I know when I was still with my husband he spent hours on it and got sucked in to all these websites "just talking" with people. It's an addiction like any other. It doesn't sound as if he is willing to discuss these problems since he said he'd do what he wants. If he isn't willing to make changes to save the relationship and it is hurting you, you may suggest at least a separation. Maybe at that point he'll realize how serious you are. But you have to be willing to follow thru. Good luck to you.
2007-06-01 19:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud that she is communicating with him, hes just not listening or doesn't care.
he needs professional help, but it doesn't look like hes going to. He is not interested in her feelings and is getting what he thinks he needs from the games women and beer.
without work on his part , this is going to get worse. I am sorry for my answer , really sorry.... but if he wont get help and is turning to other women, its over...
Based on what you say that's my answer, however there are a lot of great guys out there that would listen and talk with you.
I am also very glad you have a supportive family, that will be your greatest asset
2007-06-01 19:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ken W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in cases like this u should definetly leave, if just for a little while. He knows how you feel yet he continues to do it. That is outright disrepect. How would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot?Sometimes husbands just need a wake up call. If u leave you'd be doing yourself a favor and demanding your respect. You'd be surprised how willing he'll be to comply with you if you arent there. Make him know the diffrence between a cyber ho and a real woman.
2007-06-01 18:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by sylviapinkfabulous 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't look like he will change anytime soon. Tell your sister she's better off being on her own right now. Forget the talks with him b/c they are not working out. Tell her to spend some time away from him until he changes for the better
2007-06-01 19:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really sad. There is no marriage as he has already left it to find company even if it is on game sites. She needs to go into counseling to help her make some changes in her life even if it means leaving him. He has no respect for her or her feelings.
2007-06-01 18:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you do this step by step.
1. Try to talk him that whats his problem and why he is doing this. tell him that his behavior is affecting your's married life and also tell him that u love him so much.
2. Now see his reaction - but ignore him for few days. ( but in above step clear affect of his behavior in ur married life.)
3. I am sure he will change his behavior but it takes time it will be a slow process.
4. if he dosent change himself then you should take some bold step like stop talking with him stop caring him and do thing what you want.
5. see his reaction.
6. I think he will change do these things.
2007-06-01 19:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by aryan181 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find an Al-Anon family support group. It sounds like your husband has a drinking problem. You need to get some support and Al-Anon is a great place for that.
2007-06-01 18:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since he says he is going to do what he wants to do, marriage counseling is out. Leaving him just might be the kick in the dick that he needs if he wants to stay married.
2007-06-01 18:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is set on the "im gonna do what i want" thing then you or your sister should let the husband know that he is gonna loose a wife if he keeps it up if he doesnt care then there is no love and you all shouldnt be together.
2007-06-01 18:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by rgv_playa 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋