it is ok we care for each other in our own way and it more a duty than anything as there is no sex anymore we have saperate rooms as I dont even want him to touch me as he is not looking after himself I dont fancy him any more he has erection problems and that is just one of the problems,
I want to be hugged, kissed and have sex and yearn for that part of life
I found someone that will give me that but dont want to upset my hubby in any way shape or form,i dont feel quilty at all as i have a life and my hubbys selfishness that i need that life
my dilemma is i am married .
2007-06-01 21:36:20 · 8 answers · asked by jeya2c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess from the way u put it, u dont fancy your husband anymore. It is up to u how u want to lead you life. U have to think about it and decide. Others can only give advises.
2007-06-01 21:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is right, you are a married woman. Do you recall your wedding vows. Maybe you ought to go over them again. You sealed your fate the day you said them. Remember something like 'for better or worse', 'richer or poorer', in 'sickness and in health' until death do us part?
If you have sex with this other guy, you will be committing adultery. You have free will so you can choose to do that, but you can not choose the consequences and the consequences for adultery are dire. You don't want to go there. Even thinking about it is walking on dangerous ground. I suggest you check your bible about this, your very soul is in danger.
2007-06-02 05:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest....your husband is just the way you wanted him to be....while he was developing these habit of nastiness, you allowed him to go unchallenged......that made you feel safe because he wasn't trying to look good for nobody else....he was coming home to you....now he don't even look good to you and you don't know how to change him back......so you're confused.....See men are simple, they will be anything that their woman wants when he is in love.......Have you confronted your hubby! The most sexy aspect of any relationship is intimacy and the ability to communicate. Your relationship is what you make it. Have you tried to put any spice in your relationship? Have you offered affection? The point is your hubby can and will conform if he has incentive and from what I can tell you aren't giving him any. Which leads me to wonder - How have you changed? You say your Hubby is selfish- Are You? It seems that way.
2007-06-02 05:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by cilverpenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be selfish but it sounds like you are, too. If you two have a problem, you need to sit down and discuss them, not go out and commit adultery.
If you need counseling, get it but don't make excuses so you can do what you want and blame him for everything and try to look so innocent ~ that is childish. You can't be totally blameless in the way your relationship has gone.
There is never an excuse for committing adultery and one day you will have to answer to God for that.
2007-06-02 04:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband make u happy at all? this is just one of the ? u must answer 4 yourself.
i would hate not even having someone to hug or hold that's like one of the easy perks of marriage
2007-06-02 04:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by G O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell me again why people ever want to get married? I'm all ears dum dums.
Even after 22 years the women will get the URGE to BREED and ram a rod in the lady parts.
By the way....don't listen to that bible thumper below...religious freak!
2007-06-02 04:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
married 25 years similar situation emailme for how i handle it
2007-06-02 12:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it, you want it and I think you should have it, so enjoy.
2007-06-02 05:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋