to explain the best I can. Details would fill volumes. My fiance and I are having trouble. It's not like us to act like this. I know planning a wedding is stressful but that's not it. I have an abnormaly high level of stress right now (financial, DMV, work, boards, medical(skydive crash), moving and more. I just moved myself into the new house (until married). Last night we had an "argument". Truth is I wasn't arguing at all. I wanted to find out what bothered her to help fix it. She said I was blaming her for not renting a truck for the move. I couldn't care less about the truck. I found another way. I told her many times I wasn't blaming her for anything. She drove off despite my attemps to flash her over to talk. She avoided my calls all day. I don't even know what I "did". I can't concentrate on the other issues bc I can only think of her. Can I just show up at her house?Theres not much to work with I really want to resolve this. I am trying to be a good husband
2007-06-01 19:32:05 · 11 answers · asked by whatever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude!!! I feel your pain. The best advice I can give you is to stop playing her game. Just give her space and let her work it out. What you are going to come to realize is that women are crazy and will drive you crazy if you let them. I know weddings can be stressful but it is time for her to get her act together. Marriage is hard work and if she can't get together now then it may be in your best interest not to get married. I'll keep you both in my prayers. Peace and God bless.
2007-06-01 20:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
planning a wedding is always, always stressfull!! she feels so much on her shoulders right now which i am sure you also do with all those things over your head! unfortunetly u hurt the ones u love the most whenever u are overwhelmed. just get through it and things should improve. send her flowers with a card saying u understand the stress she is under and you are there for her and what a great job she is doing. throw a little postive and encouragement in the mix right now. for some reason people change when a wedding is being planned maybe has something to do with being a little girl and what you thought along with trying to impress everyone coming but it makes for crazy days and hellish months but in the end it usually works out! good luck and stay strong!
2007-06-02 02:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by goodear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest reverse tactics. You are too needy right now. She has the upper hand. Turn the tables on her. No matter how hard it is to not call her, don't do it. Don't try to find her. Get busy doing something else. Don't be mean just be distant and unconcerned. Believe me she will come around to find out why you are not chasing after her. She will become the insecure one, then you will have the upper hand. It works. Be strong, give it a try you may just be amazed at how well it works.
2007-06-02 02:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is just too much going on for both of you right now.
For today - rest assured that you tried to reach her more than once. She might be feeling smug and not returning your calls because she knows you would not turn your back on the marriage at this point in time. Therefore, I would advise that you wait for her to return your calls. If you did not leave any messages with those calls, then make one more call and leave a message simply stating that you are concerned for her and ask that she return your call.
2007-06-02 03:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for u to do right now is stop and breathe. You need to realize that you are a great catch because with all you have going on you have put it all to the side to focus on your wife. She seems stressed too. The best medicine for her right now is to be left alone. Let her air out and come to u on her own. This may be hard for u to do but it will be worth it because she will communicate better after she has had a chance to sort things out.
2007-06-02 02:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by sylviapinkfabulous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are stressed out,but we women always expect from men to be strong and to fix things,to make everything go away.So be the strong one.Go to her.With a very calm approach,ask her what can you do to help her.Tell her it doesn't have to be this way.You can plan the wedding and have fun with it.Tell her if you stick together,things will be much easier and better.She can also be PMS-ing.Now that one we can't controll.Good luck.
2007-06-02 02:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it was just a really stupid fight and before you two get married , i would sit down and work on these little problems first , you both need to try and work things out and talk about them instead her leaving and not answering you calls .
2007-06-02 02:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by dawn p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahah everyone on their wedding have high stress. but after the wedding is over u will be fine.
but for now..leave amessage for her. she iwll eventually hear it from the phone..and uhm tell her whats been happeneng and what you feel or w.e. yep that's all i can say rite now...
2007-06-02 02:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by Darius C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men never know what they DID.....
But anyways..yea..show up and talk to her and apologize no matter if you know why or not lol
2007-06-02 03:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by ...Tammy... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry but I cannot follow what you are saying.
2007-06-02 02:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋