However, lately a certain girl from my past has been on my mind. I find myself thinking about her quite often. So often in fact that I almost feel ashamed. There never was any kind of an intimate relationship between us. I am totally devoted to my wife and have no intentions of straying but I am still haunted by her memory. I feel like, well, I miss her and have a strong sense of urgency to find her. Is this wrong or should I just let it go? And if so suggestions would be deeply appreciated.
2007-06-01 21:33:23 · 12 answers · asked by Scooter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the nice things from the past is the fact we idealize it, and that's fine.. but just let it be there were it belongs. there's nothing like the nostalgia, like when you listen to the radio and some song takes you to those days. just enjoy the feeling and don't try to catch the past. there's only ghost there and is up to you keep it like a nice discolored picture or having it as a haunting guilt following you.
is nice to remember but is better live today
good luck!!!
2007-06-01 21:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Gustavo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everytime you think of that girl, think of what you have NOW. Think of your wife and the love you share and your beautiful children and how blessed you are. Dwell on that and eventually your family will be priority in your mind.
I think we all disgress and slip into the past every once in a while but it only becomes a problem if we don't control it. We can dip our toes in the memory pool occasionally but we shouldn't be wading or swimming in it too long.
Send her a romantic card with a coupon for the two of you to go out and have dinner together, just the two of you for a night out.
Sit down and plan a surprise weekend for you and your wife to get away and don't let her know where you are going until you get there.
Never leave her without looking in her eyes and telling her how much you love her
Never go to bed angry and apologize and make up no matter who may have started things, Keep peace in the family and be the leader in keeping your family happy.
Leave her little notes from your heart or love poems around the house so she will find them when you are gone (my husband has done this from time to time and it is so touching to get those ~ and I do that with his lunch or put them in his wallet for him to find later)
You will do ok if you make up your mind to change and keep your thoughts in the present. God bless you
2007-06-01 22:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Memories are sometimes better at that...a memory. The more you dwell on the past,the more it will destroy your future. Can you and your wife talk about this? that may help too. I am sure she wonders about someone in her past, and with that being said....how would that make YOU feel, not only as a man, but about your marriage, if the shoe was on the other foot?
2007-06-01 22:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 09:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by courteau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found an old boyfriend. He is married. I have met his wife. There is also another one that I wonder about too, but I don't know where he is now. I think of these two from my past from time to time, but it is only wondering how they are and what they are doing. There is nothing romantic between us.
2007-06-01 21:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by Aliz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is wrong. You already know that. You promised to be faithful to your wife when you married her. Contacting your old gf would be infidelity. Best to stay as far away from those thoughts as you can get, unless you want to ruin your marriage.
2007-06-01 21:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 17yrs and sometimes i still think off my past so all i can say i think its natural but you just need to push it aside don't go trying to find her
it comes down to " the one that got away"
she could be happily married by now
it will pass
2007-06-01 21:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by looseunit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember your family FIRST
think about your beautiful childrens
2007-06-01 22:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by mtm640 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be with your family. Forget the girl.
2007-06-01 21:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by exo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it happens you can find her but try not to get intimate
2007-06-01 21:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋