Marriage & Divorce - 1 June 2007

My fiance paid off his debt(10k) with the bonus(13K) he got from work.Now this makes sence and leaves him with 3k.We have been engaged 2yrs waiting for his money situation to get better so we can get married.He talked about having a cheap wedding/honeymoon(like 5k total) and i told him i would pay for half of everything(which is only fair) so he would not get in debt again.Well instead of saving the 3k for the wedding/honeymoon he went out and spent 2k on a gun(he all rdy has 2) and i feel the other 1k will disapear too.How can he tell me he wants a cheap w/h then go out and spend that kind of money on gun?When we get married we want to get a house/new furniture too.now i have some money but i don't feel i should be the only one paying for everything(wedding/honeymoon/house)I have talked to him about putting money away together for these things but he does not want to.

2007-06-01 09:59:30 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

This guy that I'm dating is always mentioning about his EX...and telling me all kind of stories about her !
He is also ....like cold to me ...not showing too much affection ( but he insists he likes me a lot when I asked him)...
I don't know what to think ?

2007-06-01 09:47:44 · 8 answers · asked by Juliet 5

2007-06-01 09:47:10 · 9 answers · asked by tafaye 1

By "cuckold" I mean you actually play with another man in front of your bf or spouse... where your bf (spouse) is submissive to you and/or does not actually participate but has to watch.

Its a situation where the Woman has her cake and gets to eat it too!

2007-06-01 09:46:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 3 months, but I admit that I love and miss my ex-boyfriend too much. We were together for 4 years, but my ex stalled so much and always postponed our plans for being married, that it was hard to really assume we would ever get married. I was always happy with him,but I just never knew if he would want to.

Well, I moved back to my country because of Visa issues, and starting hanging out with an old friend. After 5 months of dating, he asked me to marry him and I said yes. I really just didnt want to waste anymore of my life being single and "waiting" for my boyfriend to marry me.

Well, I know my ex is devastated (we never officially ended things anywyas, and I feel guilty for this) and he is so depressed and loves me so much. I love him too and miss him, and this is making my marriage so difficult. I am SOOO confused. I think I should have waited for my ex, but the reality is that I am married.
What should I do? Will my feelings change?This is terrible.

2007-06-01 09:44:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its just an idea, but think about it.
If a man or woman have an affair with a married individual that has a family and the marriage is terminated should they not have to pay support for the innocent children to whom family they helped destroy?
What are your thoughts?

2007-06-01 09:26:52 · 21 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

Jeez...this may sound so dumb, but an elderly couple lives next door to us and their daughter (who is our age) brings her son over to be babysat a few times a week. She is an attractive woman...and I asked my husband one day, "Is she a woman you would date should we not be together,"...OKAY I set myself up with that one....and his reply was, WITHOUT hesitation, "Yeah, I'd date her if we weren't together,".....typical implusive response from a male regarding the opposite sex in my opinion. Now, I felt kind of awkward....does he look at her? What does he think? etc. etc.

So, lately, we've been having her son and our son play together when we're all outside at the same time. Now, I just feel wierd...and when they (my husband and this woman) talk, I almost feel defensive or a need to walk away because I get a little uncomfortable.

I do trust my husband, without question,...but still feel awkward...what do you think?

2007-06-01 09:18:06 · 43 answers · asked by Lovin' Life As Mama & Wife 6

We have no kids together but he has 3 that we have 24/7. i just feel like he limited me for the future

2007-06-01 09:15:09 · 31 answers · asked by lilbitevans 2

If you and your husband or BF were invited out on a house boat for the day and after about a half hour everyone was going to the top deck. and there were 12 couples there some you knew and some you didnt. And all the other women started to take there tops off and lay out. What would you do????All the men were looking at you and waiting to see if you were going to join the other women.It happened to us. just wondering what other women would do

2007-06-01 09:10:32 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been married 5 years have to young children with my husband we have been seperated before for 2 years off and on when he left me for a stripper! (ok yes and i went back to him like an idiot) anyhow we just got back together 8 months ago and nothing has changed he comes home everynight at 7am-9am and i am so tired of all of this when i tell him i dont like it he tells me i am not his mother that i am just a nobody. when i call him he tells me not to cause he doesent bother me by calling me he calls me a Bit$$ all the time and has been abusive in the past he says that if i dont leave him alone he will hit me again..we never go anywhere together the last time we went anywhere was out to eat 3 years ago he tells me everything would be fine in this marriage if i would just get over it and understand that he is going to do whatever he wants to do (not to mention he belives a woman should pay all the bills and take care of him)

2007-06-01 09:08:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband have been married for 7 years. We have 2 little girls. I love him with all my heart.....but I feel that I'm not attracted to him. I NEVER initiate sex....even when he asks or hints about it, I dont want it. I dont know why. When we are actually having sex, I enjoy it....he's good at what he does. But for some reason....I dont want it. Is there something wrong with me?? It's really hurting his feelings...I have not told him how I feel, but I think he knows. Is there anything I can do to change the way I feel?

2007-06-01 09:06:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My new bride (8 days ago) will be moving to Florida with me from Louisiana next week. I want to prepare a surprise for her welcoming her to OUR new home. Any ideas on how to make her feel welcome to OUR home?

I will have freshly cut flowers, candles, and the cleaning service will clean it top to bottom (have to do that), but what can I do to personalize her arrival?

2007-06-01 09:03:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

And finding out information that is detrimental to our marriage?

He left his account on and i had suspected he was corresponding with someone as she texts his phone all the time with silly questions like why aren't you calling me and other things a jealous girlfriend would say. I looked in his sent messages and found emails to a woman.
Heres what i found out.
*he left her to marry me
*during our recent separation she was a supportive "girlfriend" online and he visited her. (this part doesn't bother me because we were separated)
*he is continuing to tell her that we are separated and that he visits us on weekends (us is me and the 3 kids) in reality we have been back together and living together since February 2007. the emails are from this last week so these are not emails from before we got back together.
*he is trying to get sent to the east coast on temporary assignments so he can visit her
* she admits that she is in love with him but she has a boyfriend ALSO!

2007-06-01 08:59:48 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter has told me that my wife had been cheating on me for the past 4 months. Finally this time, my daughter reported that they had courted as she witnessed some of the incident from afar.

This fiend that I am referring to was in bed with my wife last weekend. I was on a business trip you see, therefore I would imagine that my wife had planned this in advance.

It turns out the fiend is the black postman that delivers mail to our house every wednesday and saturday mornings.

What should I do?

My eyes are red.

2007-06-01 08:57:28 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

i usually pay the cell phone bill online for my parents and i stumbled on the call logs and saw that she was calling my dad's close friend all the time. she even calls him when me and my sister are in the house and says that its one of her girl friends and then goes to her room. ive always had a weird vibe about him. i know i have to confront her but how should i do it? i'm going off to college in 2 months and i really dont want to see my family break up? and i dont want my little sister to find out about this. is there any chance of my parents surviving this?

2007-06-01 08:40:58 · 31 answers · asked by iceman 1

2007-06-01 08:35:11 · 17 answers · asked by New Moon Daughter 6

My fiance' and I have been together for 11 months. Prior to our relationship he had never met his real mom. I looked her up on the internet and found her and all of sudden she decides she wants to have something to do with him. She left him when he was 2 years old and has had nothing to do with him for 17 years and no she comes into his life and wants to try to be his mom. In my opinion she will never be his mom because she was never there for him. Now all she wants is for him to move to Oklahoma with her (we live in Missouri). I hate her for wanting to take him away from me and she has even bribed him with a cell phone so he'll feel obligated to have to talk to her. She's not the kind of person I would want my kids to call grandma and I even told him that our kids wouldn't call her grandma and that his step mom (the one who raised him) would be the one they call grandma. I'm stuck and I don't know what to do. She means so much to him and I hate her guts. What would you do?

2007-06-01 08:12:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has just finished his job and his collegues have taken him out for drinks. Should I be annoyed that he hasn't invited me out? I'm just sitting here by myself. I would invite him, we only live 10mins walk from where he is. Please tell if I am just being silly!

2007-06-01 08:08:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

(that's a song for those that don't know .. you fill in your own blank) Okay, so my husband left me a month ago today & is already with another girl, who has a track record of going from guy to guy to guy. Her ex-husband has told me before that she is VERY superficial & loves it when guy's spend tons of money on her. Well, I found out he has maxed out his credit card (which had a ZERO balance 3 weeks ago) on taking her out to lunch & dinner, & buying her flowers (yesterday). Now that it's maxed out, he's pretty much BROKE! there's nothing in his bank account, & he has no more credit cards. When him & I were together he bought me extravagant things on special occasions, & I always told him "you didn't have to!" (I REALLY meant it too!!) & when he left, one thing he said he was tired of spending tons of money on me! so why is he being so STUPID & maxing out a credit card on this girl?!?!? Any bets as to how long before she dumps him now that he's broke?

2007-06-01 08:06:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a wife who has been ignoring me when I needed a sholder, she spends all her time talking to her new online friends. Each day when I am really upset I try to get a hug, or some other form of affection from her when she's online. when I do she gets angry and tells me "to stop bugging her". At night when I try to cuddle with her she just pushes me away. I've been upset to the point of before I used to sleep 'oh natural' (not trying to be a perv here.... this is an actual request for help)
now I sleep almost fully clothed because I hate my body. When she needs help or a sholder to cry on I am there for her, but I hate doing it when I get sh*t in return. Am I wrong for feeling that way? What should I do?

2007-06-01 08:05:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anon 2

i have this rash on my leg that wont go away and it gets worse when i shave,i have tried everything.except for the womens shavers that work wit out water.the one i want to try is remington does anyone know if that will work.plz help i would love to where a skirt for my husband.

2007-06-01 07:52:25 · 5 answers · asked by babyphat.1984 2

I asked the question on how to help my brother whose wife is a crap starter to the point he'll probably end up in jail.Most responses I got were to mind my own business and I would probably end up the bad guy. Why are people so afraid to become involved when the situation is hurting someone they love? I already know its a possibility I could come out the loser but I don't care. I love my brother and I'm tired of this ungrateful witch jerking him around.

2007-06-01 07:50:11 · 21 answers · asked by darowdomo 6

him about certain hang-ups (alcohol/drugs/strip clubs/porn) I had due to a past abusive relationship. He accepted that. He has a standing guys night every Thursday which he knows is hard on me (ex would go to bars/clubs after work on Friday and wouldn't home til Sunday) but I'm trying to deal with it. Due to circumstances (my brother passed away, my daughter graduated and I had to have surgery) he hadn't been to guys night in about a month. I know he deserved this night out and I wasn't going to make him feel bad about going. However, he got really wasted and stayed out really late. Flash backs for me!!! He also said some things he wouldn't normally say that were kinda of hurtful to me (negative comments about marriage in general and a reference to his ex-wife). We didn't argue or anything but now it seems as though my guard is up. Just need perspective, should I talk to him about last night or just chalk it up as a well deserved night out and just let it go?

2007-06-01 07:26:22 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband beat me on wensday just because I gave his couzin (female) and brother a ride to some place and i didn't ask for his permision. He went out and got drunk. He came home very angry first he choked me and i pushed him back. Then he punched me several times in me face and stomach. He threatened to kill me and my family. The next day (yesterday) I talked to him. I want to separated and he don't want to his all being nice to me but I no longer want to be with him. Its not the first time he hits me but he had never choked or punch me before. I told him its always the same thing, today I'm thinking of telling him to leave. We have 3 kids 6,4,2. I don't want my daughters to watch all this. I know my life is in danger thats why I want out from this marrage.

2007-06-01 06:57:36 · 34 answers · asked by lupe s 1

2007-06-01 06:54:16 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

...they showed the word with stars*****...so what is "pu$$y"...

2007-06-01 06:53:47 · 18 answers · asked by phantomq8 2

am waiting to be served with papers for divorce married 24 yrs husband wants to only pay alimony for 5 yrs. have an exising mortgage and a 2nd mortgage totaling 90,000 will have to refinace to keep house he feels equity in home is enough to live on and i make half of what he does

2007-06-01 06:51:54 · 13 answers · asked by Lynda C 1

if he's bored with me (which he swears he's not) but if he is i would like to change that but dont know where to start.
i dress sexy and wear makeup all the time. i am skinny and attractive so its not that... i guess i am at a loss when it comes to getting him turned on. so what do i do? obviously besides bring another girl into the bed.

2007-06-01 06:46:04 · 7 answers · asked by girlyfaery 2

My wife stated that I have neglected her emotionally and now I found out she had an affair. Is that justified able?

2007-06-01 06:46:03 · 22 answers · asked by sos 1

does anyone else find it offending/ironic that these 2 are lumped together?

2007-06-01 06:32:35 · 31 answers · asked by Michael B 4