My daughter has told me that my wife had been cheating on me for the past 4 months. Finally this time, my daughter reported that they had courted as she witnessed some of the incident from afar.
This fiend that I am referring to was in bed with my wife last weekend. I was on a business trip you see, therefore I would imagine that my wife had planned this in advance.
It turns out the fiend is the black postman that delivers mail to our house every wednesday and saturday mornings.
What should I do?
My eyes are red.
2007-06-01 08:57:28 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
since u are the PERFECT gentlemen you deserve so much better! i thinku should confront her about it and if she is let her explain and make ur dissision from there...good luck\
2007-06-01 09:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry..but after reading this..my impression is simple. This is a fictional (made up story). The use of certain phrases and words makes it ring as though the bell has cracked and cannot chime true. "..the fiend..." what person uses a term like that in a case such as this? Perhaps your avatar has something to do with that.. what was the point of mentioning the supposed skin color of the 'postman' unless it is a subtle attempt to elicit even more 'sympathy?' Sorry if I'm wrong, but I really don't think I am. There is no sympathy or advice from this end.
2007-06-01 09:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife if she's happy in your relationship. See if you have been missing something in her life and what could motivate her to doing so without telling her.
Then decide if you want/can stay with her and try and get things right, fix whatever the trouble was, put your relationship back on the right track.
Then decide if you can :
- simply ask her, if she has been cheating, in the most calm and relaxed manner. -> and then talk about things, and decide if this marriage can be saved
- live, love and forget
If after that she goes on lying to you... then I suggest you consider moving away for a bit.
All I'm saying is, marriage is hard, people cheat (doesn't mean it's right), forgiveness can happen, things can be saved. It depends of you and her. Try or don't try. the decision is yours.
2007-06-01 09:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by chocolateknight69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old your daughter is or why she would even say such a thing. Even if it is true your wife and daughter must not have such a great relationship. Rather then speak to your child about your marriage why are you not speaking to your wife. In your eyes your wife is guilty with out even doing any investigation. Before you act do some research. I don't know your wife but I don't think she would be stupid enough to let her daughter see her.
2007-06-01 09:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! for me i'll have to find out first, there are lots of ways to find out if its true or not..... find it out urself first, unless ur contented with what ur daughter has told u. Cause if u confront her, definitely she will deny, but if u catch her right there, then ... thats it. U can plan it by telling her u'll be on a business trip again on a certain date, then on that date, after a few hours after leaving ur house, u can go back, and surprise them, or u can ask the help of ur daughter to play detectives... gud luck...
2007-06-01 09:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by eigger57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of his color, I think that you should re valuate the situation if you can forgive and forget then maybe you two can work out your problems if not though I think that you should leave. Confront her and mention that you know don't through your daughter under the bus that might cause tension between them and your daughter does not need those problems. If your wife admits or denies you are the one that needs to make that decision if you should remain in a relationship where she can't be honest and faithful!
2007-06-01 09:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by ASHES 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make another business trip out but this time, have a hidden cam so you have something as a prove. Also, get a private investigator to take photos of your wife and her lover. Once you have that, confront her about it. See what she has to say. Depends on what you want. if you want to work it out, see a counsellor, if not, get a lawyer. DO your homework as you dont want to get screwed by her financially.
2007-06-01 09:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by SG GAL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it time for some family to come and visit for a while. Say its for a visit, but actually have them there for help with the kids until things are settled. Go to the bank and transfer all the money to a new separate private account that is in your name only. Change your direct deposit to the new acct. Cancel ALL credit cards. Change the locks and kick her butt to the street.
2007-06-01 10:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have to go through this :(
I don't know what you SHOULD do. But I would consider this marriage to be over. I dont think i can ever forgive my spouse for cheating on me and in my own house. If you really love her, try to work things out with her, but it will be hard to since she has already ruined your trust in her. I really don't know what else to tell you except to love yourself and live for your daughter. Good Luck.
2007-06-01 09:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by 2 cute 4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave Her...this is a No Win situation for you! No matter what recourse you take,you'll always be wrong...because she is Female and the "fiend" is Black! Got any friend's who want to form a Lynch Mob??? But don't do anything drastic personally!
2007-06-01 09:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The postman always rings twice.... Sounds like your wife is having a ball while you are busy working. Maybe its time to fill for divorce!! Besides, they say once you go black you never go back!
2007-06-01 09:02:09 · answer #11 · answered by marisanj 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋