Marriage and Divorce?

Question

does anyone else find it offending/ironic that these 2 are lumped together?

To those that think marriage and divorce are like peanut butter and jelly I am sorry you feel that way. To me this is like filling out your newborn's birth certificate, turning over the paper, and filling out the death certificate on the back.

Answer 1

Yes! They really should have their own sections. People in one situation or the other usually dont have much to say about the oppposite option.

Answer 2

Actually Michael what I find offensive is that this section has very little to do with Marriage and much to do with divorce. I would say 98% divorce to 2% marriage. It is sad to think that people think like the person above who said, you can't have divorce without marriage. Those two verbs (yes Marriage is an action and so is divorce) should not be linked in this one category.

Answer 3

It once again depends upon the circumstances. Marriage works for some people, and some people get along fine until they get married and it all falls apart. The irony is that one does not connect with the other unless they do not get along. Marriage can work, but it takes work to make it work. You cannot dwell on the past, compare your significant other to someone else, or spend your time with your friends, for it will surely fall apart. If you work hard at marriage, it can work. It depends upon the reason for divorce.

Answer 4

I think people are getting married for the wrong reasons or even the "right" reasons far too soon before they know they can accept the things that arent so dreamy and oh-so perfect. Its what you are when the dramatics fade a little bit that will determine the stength of the relationship.

Answer 5

I love marriage, but I love divorce more.

Here's what I mean: we marry for the right reasons, and something goes wrong. What do we do?

If there was no divorce, we'd suffer, that's what.

Divorce is a mercy killing. It's the natural opposite to marriage. They go together like ebony and ivory. It makes people work harder at marriage.

Might as well be offended at the sun for taking the moon's place.

Answer 6

Maybe it's because the #1 piece of relationship advice given on YA M&D is "Kick 'em to the curb!" and "Divorce their worthless ***!".

Although I would find the humor appropriately dark if they added the word "then" in the description and added a "d" to the end.

Answer 7

giggle

If you can figure out the first, you can avoid the second, I guess.

To the person who said that over 90% of the questions here are about divorce, few about marriage, if you aren't having serious problems in your marriage, you aren't likely to post here.

BTW, Miss Manners once got a letter that included this statement "This is a first marriage for both of us."

Wow! THAT's optimism.

Then there was Will Geer (grampa on the Waltons) who, in response to people talking about their "first wife" etc., called his wife his "best wife."

Answer 8

Ironic? Yes. Offending? No. You're not the first person to feel this way, tho - this question crops up here with regularity.

Answer 9

Yes - I do - I can never figure out why people insist that they go hand in hand. In my opinion they never should.

Marriage is a wonderful CEREMONY that represents the commitment already established by two persons.

Divorce is the action (in most cases) of two people who have no desire to commit to one another.

Therefor they are seperate!

Answer 10

NO its appropriate although its kind of sad that over 60% of marriages in the US are ended with divorce.