Its just an idea, but think about it.
If a man or woman have an affair with a married individual that has a family and the marriage is terminated should they not have to pay support for the innocent children to whom family they helped destroy?
What are your thoughts?
2007-06-01 09:26:52 · 21 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That actually makes a lot of sense! It all has positive affects for the victim and all the negative affects for the perpetrator. I think all parties responsible for destroying a marriage should compensate the victims which are the kids and the spouse.
2007-06-02 13:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Peter R 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No one can destroy a marriage that doesn't' want to be destroyed. He had these children and he knew it so he will have to pay child support, not the person he left the marriage for that is his responsibility. A marriage is never taken away from anyone 's spouse, that marriage wasn't any good before he met the other person. A marriage can never be destroyed when a man or woman start going out looking for another love than that marriage was already destroyed.
2007-06-01 16:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an interesting idea - the assumption being that the other man/woman knew and had intent to cause financial and emotional harm to the children.
A good concept than to help fund the therapy that the children could use after the destruction of their family.
But unfortunately this idea would mean holding everyone accountable for their actions. And most people would rather just lay blame than say that the children are innocent victims here to the actions of the two adults (whom are suppose to be responsible)
2007-06-01 16:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by tryinghard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not just no but HE77 NO
An outside factor CANNOT destroy a marriage. The marriage has to be screwed up BEFORE the other man/woman enters the picture. He or she may speed up the process, but it's already bad. IF the cheating spouse and the other man/woman get married, believe me they will both feel the effects and affects of child support.
I have heard tales of the spouse that was left sued for breach of contract and sued the "other" person as an accessory but I think that was California.
2007-06-01 16:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Carol D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! They didn't give birth to the children, and they weren't the one who was committed to the marriage. No one can "make" someone else have an affair, the person who broke his/her marriage vows is most to blame for the affair.
In other words, if a single woman starts sleeping with a married man, what she's doing is immoral, but SHE'S not breaking her marriage vows, and she never promised the wife anything. The husband promised his wife to be faithful to her, and he's the only one to blame if he's not.
2007-06-01 16:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Although it kinda makes sense, but it may be hard to prove that the other person knew that his/her lover was in fact married. I know a girl who had a fling with a married man but she didn't even know he was married until his wife showed up on her doorstep.
My friend never felt so bad in her life. Not only did the man she cared about lied to her but she felt awful destroying a marriage and family. But the good thing was the wife divorced her husband and is now good friends with my friend.
So proving it without a certainty of doubt may prove difficult in some cases
2007-06-01 17:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is the person who had the affair just as much at fault as the OM/OW, so is the spouse who didn't cheat. A marriage is not required by law to end when someone cheats! People can and do stay together after affairs. No, the OM/OW is not responsible, because, despite the affair, it's the married couple alone who decide whether or not to divorce.
2007-06-01 16:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if your spouse commits a crime that you had no involvement/idea about should you be held accountable & liable for their crime?
As completely digusting, despicable and deplorable the other man/woman is, you really can't hold them accountable or liable for your spouse cheating on you. I'm sure there are plenty of spouses who have been blatantly tempted by someone and they still refused to cheat on their spouse.
I'll never understand people who find out their spouse was cheating and then they go after and completely put the blame on the other man/woman their spouse was cheating with (unless that other man/woman was someone close to you).
That other man/woman didn't make you any promises, your spouse did and the blame should always lay 100% with the cheating spouse, REGARDLESS if they claim the other person seduced them. Because ultimately the choice to cheat was made by your spouse and no one put a gun to their head and forced them.
2007-06-01 16:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by hw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a wonderful idea. The man my wife had the affair with didn't have to pay a cent for his part in destroying our marriage. I'm not saying it was all his fault, but he should have had to suffer some consequences.
2007-06-01 16:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's one of the most amazing ideas I've heard in a really long time. It would definitely cut down on all the sleeping around. You should find the right person and pursue that! Great idea! Only the people that are in an affair will think it's a bad idea. LOL.
2007-06-01 16:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well..that would only be fair but since the court system in America gives custody of the kids about 95% of the time to women is men that get stuck with the child support payments.
Cheating does not have any bearing in California, and it would not even be considered a reason for any judge. it would just be a simple divorce (irreconcileable differences).
usually the judge determines who the better parent might be and award the custody to him or her.
2007-06-01 16:39:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋