Marriage & Divorce - 5 June 2007

We have been broken up for a few weeks. She broke up with me and told me it was my fault and had made me feel like crap sence then. Now I find out that she did in fact leace me for another man. How do I deal with that? I just feel... empty but full of rage...

2007-06-05 23:55:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a terrible childhood with my parents' attention always towards my younger brother, if i asked for a pencil i was made to wait till they thought it was ok for me to have a pencil but if my brother had to ask for a spanner though he was just a tiny tot it was given to him!! bcoz of this i think i fell in love with the first man i came across in life and married him who made my life more miserable always having his way knowing i had no avenues to run to. my parents have never stood by me on the contrary they have always ridiculed me even my husband does exactly the opposite of what i would like him to do and keeps telling me to go away even after 30+ years. I have no children. Friends i do not trust becos they have just used us and thrown us in the past. my parents are dependent on me and live with us after my brother's untimely death so today if i walk out my parents will suffer at the hands of my husband.. dont know wht to do. dont want to commit suicide. r these my past karmas??

2007-06-05 23:47:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

prevent any conflict with our children. I erally love my wife and our children but her husband is making us stressed. My mother in law, his mum, also takes his side. My my wifes parents and my parents stay out of it. please help.

2007-06-05 22:54:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

What's more effective? a) Show your partner that you really care a lot, that you feel jealous when HE's flirting with someone, and show that you're hurt when he does wrong or... b) Pretend that you dont care even if he's flirting with other girls, pretend that im not affected.. that i have no insecurities??..What do u think will work the best? Coz in my past i had relationships, i had problems about jealousy...some man doesnt like jealous girl, some thinks they can dominant you when they see that youre affected... Advice pls. whats the best to do? to keep him and make myself precious to him? thanks a lot!

2007-06-05 22:38:22 · 8 answers · asked by bluestardustglitter 1

2007-06-05 21:41:44 · 25 answers · asked by Eric Inri 6

I have been low key about the emailing. She has been open about it & has always been a fantastic wife & mother. Nonetheless, sometimes I feel he is "fishing" in my waters and small windows of insecurity (such as would she have been happier with him), irrationally come to me. He has told her that the biggest mistake he ever made was breaking off their engagement.

He lives 2,000 miles away & that distance has provided a buffer zone, however last fall he was an hour or so away & wanted her to visit him. I told her that I trusted her, but was not as sure about trusting him & that I would feel more comfortable if he came to our home if he wanted to see her (and meet me.)

He did not want to do that but they continue to chat monthly.

I know this because she shares some of her discussions with me.

I have told her that sometimes this on line reunion wierds me out but that I am not going to stomp my feet and demand that she banish him fom all contact.

What do you think?

2007-06-05 21:15:59 · 24 answers · asked by Raintrain 2

I am a woman,58yrs married,no children,no attractive .I help my husband in our business which is doing ok. He is quite fond of one of my friends of around 50 and waits for her .He tries sex with me on day she visits.Other days he is not interested and is irritated if I suggest it.What could be the reason?

2007-06-05 21:13:29 · 13 answers · asked by saina 2

I have been diagnosed with depression. My marriage is under stress. I don't feel happy with my marriage, and I feel as though it may have something to do with my depression. I just don't know. We have nothing in common and don't have a good bond at all. He is a great guy, but I just don't feel that connected to him. My depression is taking its toll on me and it is a struggle to stay alive some days. Lucky for my 6yr old son. He is my reason to keep going somedays. Do you think that a poor bond with my husband is making me depressed. We are off to round two of marriage counselling and I just don't think its gonna work. We just don't talk, and I am a huge talker. I live in a remote town and am quite lonely. I don't have a great friendship with hubby so I feel even more alone. He insists everything is fine. I just feel so lost. We just went away for the w/end and hardly spoke, he just can't keep a conversation going and I find it very boring. I wonder if my depression is from trying to

2007-06-05 20:34:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel like he will never want to be close. I don't expect alot. The most hurtful thing he said once was that he didn't think he could get the same level of enjoyment from a relationship as he does from video games, or other hobbies. So, most of the time I feel like I'm last on his list. I hate it! I feel like he's so immature, I don't know how to help the situation. Whenever I talk to him about my feelings I just get more upset. I think it really hurts his ego that I am basically telling him he's not fulfilling my needs.

2007-06-05 20:33:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am confused right now, I have lost 70000/- Rs. in share market, the money was saved by my wife for our future. She does not know of the loss, shall I tell her or opt for some other way???

2007-06-05 20:12:27 · 21 answers · asked by petson_nick 2

2007-06-05 20:07:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-05 19:42:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-05 18:36:33 · 10 answers · asked by Vv 2

I am married to an addict. We have been through the iraq war, and many other deployments. He is not addicted to a plathora of drugs and has been stealing from our family and friends. He is in a drug treatment facility but does not seem like he is up for the help. He is trying to get on the methadone program and talking about how he COULD get drugs up there if he wanted. What do I do? We have 2 kids 8, and 20 months.

2007-06-05 18:12:23 · 12 answers · asked by help_for_u&me 1

I am just stuck in a rut after all this happened. I haven't left the house in a week, im lonely, im stuck in a pool self-pity unable to think of anything else. I just can't look anyone in the eye anymore I feel like everyone that sees me can just tell like it's written on my face or something. Even when I do meet women I don't know what to say or do and it quickly just gets awkward. To make matters worse my neighbor is my wifes best friend and she hangs out over there all the time which just makes it awkward. I am just so lonely. I spend all day with our kids, I take them to work with me, i do everything since she left and it's getting harder and harder to just go on everyday. My mom says to let her or my mother-in-law take them so I can have a break but then when I do I just can't handle them not being here and I end up hurting worse for it. I don't know how much longer i can take this, im overwhlmed, im hurting, and i hate to admit that I often think about suicide. what do i do?

2007-06-05 17:49:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

The wife of a guy at work want's a divorce (he's a great guy, excellent job, etc.) She says she doesn't feel anything for him anymore, after 13 yrs. of marriage. Considering over half of marriages end in divorce, what's a mans incentive to get married, he'll end up paying alimony and or child support......

2007-06-05 17:44:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are informally separated and we have a house together. I moved out of the house a few months age, but I still pay my share of mortgage. I noticed that he brings his GF to the house when our son and I are not home.

Can I ask for police restrain to stop her coming to our house when I am away?

2007-06-05 17:41:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anne A 1

keep it legal, i do have two little girls

2007-06-05 17:32:41 · 8 answers · asked by nudreams2006 2

i am 49, and he's 66. we've been married for 4 years, and he's tried to adjust to a marital situation, but can't. he did not tell me he was impotent before we were married, which has been hell to endure (the "what's wrong with me?" syndrome lasted the 1st 3 years for me)..he finally admitted he's had this problem since in his 20's. don't suggest viagra (he hates sex). i just found out on memorial day that all his war stories, medals, navy seal, wounds and purple heart were all lies. (he was storekeeper, not special forces operative, never even went to vietnam). he's also told ridiculous stories to everyone he knows about his different music recording offers and friendships with movie stars and singers. he told me that he wrote buddy holly's first hit! (now, i know they were all lies). he was diagnosed bipolar 2 months ago and sees a doc.

how wrong would it be if i were to get out of this mess i'm in? am i obligated to live in this forever?

2007-06-05 17:30:04 · 17 answers · asked by diamond heart 4

what could he be doing he has avoided his family is doing things out of the ordinary such as altering his paycheck buying a new vehicle behind my back staying gone for two to 3 days at a time quiting his 2nd part time job just all kinds of weird things

2007-06-05 17:24:01 · 30 answers · asked by Robert S. L 2

Telling your family and friends every detail about what your spouse says about them.Telling them every detail about what goes on in your home...

2007-06-05 17:16:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

We fight ten times more and ten times worse whenever he spends time alone with her...She always seems to be in a better mood when this goes on too.

2007-06-05 17:13:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

to work for some arrogant as*hole and you get holidays off.

2007-06-05 17:08:42 · 17 answers · asked by mercedesofladies36 2

Does age really matter when it comes to falling in love? Can you really be too young to fall in love? My teacher is a junior high sweetheart. Her and her hubby got together when they were 13 & 14. Now she is in her 50's & they are STILL happily married! Meanwhile, a 30 year old could get married to somebody else the same age as well & they could get a divorce within 5 years. So...does age REALLY matter? This question has been bugging me & other young people for years!

2007-06-05 17:03:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Tommrow is my 9th wedding anniversary and I am on Bed Rest with our 3rd baby! I need some ideas on what I can do with No $$ ( as I can't work from the couch LOL) and being on Bed Rest. Nothing dirty, I already know those ideas! Seriously, my husband is a great Man who has been taking care of me and our kids. Usually I go all out with Limos etc.. but this year I can't your ideas are appreicated!!

2007-06-05 17:03:01 · 5 answers · asked by Rosie 4

she says if we are just friends for a bit then we can go back - I love her and don't wish to lose her but I am angry at being made a fool of and being lied to - this is at least the 2nd time

2007-06-05 17:01:54 · 16 answers · asked by thamilton164 2

2007-06-05 16:59:34 · 20 answers · asked by thamilton164 2

Her mom is dating a guy she's known for only a year. He was married but shortly after he was cheating on his wife with her mom, going on vacations and everything together. My friend is 19 and she has 2 younger twin brothers that are 7. Well just recently, like one night her mom broke the news that she's moving in with him. He also has kids of his own and has them over sometimes. Well my friend is in college and is worried about moving in with this man her mom just forced on her and her brothers. What should she do? He's always over their house telling the twins what to do and her mom just goes along with what he says to them. My friend really doesn't know what to do. So what do you think she should do with her living arrangements or how should she stop this from happening?

2007-06-05 16:48:45 · 10 answers · asked by lilkitt 3

I just graduated high school and am heading off to college. Ive always wanted to be frat boy and i got a couple bids and stuff. recently...i just went to vegas...and i saw the most beaauuuttttiiiifffuuuullll girl. i started to talk to her...turned out she is a topless dancer, married, with 3 babies, and a beautiful family.

I realized that i really want to succeed and do well in my life...marry someone beautiful...who wants to raise a beautiful family with me...all of sudden...the frat life is not as appealling to me but i still want to have party and have fun.

should i join one?

2007-06-05 16:47:34 · 9 answers · asked by varsfootball44 1

we are a couple having a baby, our friends lost their job and home and asked us for shelter. we said okay, they said that they would help us out with baby and house chores.
as the owners and providers should we pay for their stay?

2007-06-05 16:46:12 · 8 answers · asked by k10394 2