2007-06-05 16:59:34 · 20 answers · asked by thamilton164 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you want to stop it and save the marriage, or do you want evidence of the adultery and force the divorce?
That is your final decision
2007-06-05 17:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunitly if its already 2 that point then its probably 2 late. There are several things you could do. Be there for her when she either gets hurt physically or emotionally. That would depend on how much you love her & if you could ever forgive her. Is there kids involved? If so that changes the entire situation. What i would ask myself though if i were you is if you really want 2 be with a woman who would lie & cheat?(STDs?) Chances are you would never trust her again,how could you?So do you want 2 be in a relationship where theres no trust & constant doubt or do you want 2 cut your ties, heal & move on?You are worth more than someone who doesnt respect you much less care about your feelings. And she doesnt or she wouldnt be doing this.
Keeping all evidence you have concerning the affair is very wise advice,especially if there is kids involved.Courts frown HIGHLY on extramarriatal affairs & generally whoever did the cheating ends up *** out and paying child support/alimony.
2007-06-06 21:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by blackrose9902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has a great idea about these things, he thinks it is the Man's responsiblity to keep the marriage together. The fact that she is seeking an online affair might be because of your lack of connection with her, she feels she needs to get it elsewhere. Did she tell you of this affair or did you catch her? If she told you she is most likely looking for you to stop it, she wants you not this internert person. Now that is not to say I agree with her at all, a wife is to love an honor and respect her husband and she has not done that obviously but it is up to you to turn this around. Show her you love her, make her forget all about this other person. My husband and I have found that thru building on our faith in God together we can come thru anything. Best of luck,
2007-06-05 17:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This might not turn out good no matter what you do, but I think what will NOT work is pretending it doesn't exist. Copy off the info, and later find a time to sit her down and talk about. Ask her if she still wants to be married or not. (firm tone but not screaming) If she says yes, insist you both start going to a marriage counselor. There are some problems here that need to be worked out, assuming she wants to stay in the marriage. If you avoid her rather than confront her she will have no respect for you. Get going, and good luck to you.
Kent in SD
2007-06-05 17:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, how do you know she is having an online affair? Second, how do you know she is about to make it "real"? It sounds like you have a serious problem in your relationship. The only thing I can think of is that you have been spying on her, reading her emails or something like that? I think you need to confront her with your feelings, but you need to make sure that you do not do it in such a way as to start a fight, rather you need to tell her that you are worried she is going to do something that will ruin your marriage and you don't want to lose her. There is obviously something missing in your relationship to make her feel like she needs to/or wants to go out and do this.
Like I said...you don't want to start a fight and push her farther away...keep that in mind.
2007-06-05 17:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it takes a lot for a women to cheat, maybe you are not giving her the attention she needs, this is what worked for a friend of mine in the same situation, print the proof just print it all out and then before showing her the proof ask her , Are you cheating on me? wait for the answer if she denys it show her everything and give her a chanc to explain, and go from there, also try going to a psycologyst if you don't know how to cope with this situation they will help you
2007-06-05 17:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Gourmetlicious 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not too sure you can do anything at this point except try to talk to her about marriage counseling. I don't think she would have went looking for love on the net if she was happy in her relationship with you. Seriously consider talking to a Pastor or Minister about this or someone that can be a support to you if she does bail on you. Good Luck.
2007-06-05 17:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Diana C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
does she know you know about the affair?
if so and she still go ahead with her affair, then I would dump her.
if not, I would confront her. Ask her if she wants a divorce. if she said no, tell her to knock off her online crap.
good luck.
2007-06-05 17:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by llanna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cancel all the credit cards, and withdraw all the money out of the accounts and hide them somewhere. She might want to take some stuff on her way out.
If you love her and want the marriage to work you need to discuss it with her and see if there is any way the marriage can be salvaged.
2007-06-05 18:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out the divorce papers...a flap jack can come in handy too if your willing to meet the fu**er on the other end of the screen
2007-06-05 17:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jon B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋