We have been broken up for a few weeks. She broke up with me and told me it was my fault and had made me feel like crap sence then. Now I find out that she did in fact leace me for another man. How do I deal with that? I just feel... empty but full of rage...
2007-06-05 23:55:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apparently she's been planning this for some time, using this as a way to dump you. Maybe you should consider yourself lucky, why would you want someone like this around. Just think of the next guy and what he's going to go through.
I wouldn't get angry over it, I would consider myself lucky and let it go. You'll run into her someday if your in the same crowd, ask her if it was worth it.
2007-06-06 00:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you are angry, but she has done you a favour by getting lost. Good Riddance. Imagine, you dont have to spend one more day with a person that cheats and lies to you. She is someone elses problem now - and dont worry, what goes around comes around. And of course it was your fault.... She tells herself this to justify her behaviour - otherwise she would have to own up to her actions and that would make her bad person. Which in this case she seems to be.
So now you can get on with having a good time. Without the baggage of a cheat weighing you down. You can do better than that... you deserve better than that. Meet someone new, have fun and fall in love again. As the saying goes - aim high and you wont score low. Learn from the experince and move on.
Good luck!
2007-06-06 07:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by madgal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will give you a womans oint of view because I did this to my ex husband. You had to have done something that she felt was inexcusable or you simply weren't compatable but I would guess you did the first...wether you realise it or not.
My ex husband cheated..and I tried to forgive him but ended up just trying to see if anyone else out there was worth my time and sure enough I found comfort in another man...I didn't have sex with the guy until I filed for divorce. But he treated me with respect and that was a deep attraction for me.
You are best to move on and not worry about the what if or anger. Dating is all about finding the right match and this wasn't it so be glad it is done so you can move on and find the girl for you.
2007-06-06 08:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The steps of grievance shows us that in fact it is okay to be angry by this...you will be in denial, angered, sad, but one day you will accept everything that happened and you will realize that its for the better. You will find someone so much better who actually deserves you... Don't worry God will take care of her in the whole "you reap what you sow" deal.
Have a Good day and God Bless
Oh and i have to disagree with the lady above me... I don't care what kind of fantasy world you think we live in, but every relationship has its own set of problems. Everyone argues and has disagreements, but relationships are about being able to come to a mutual agreement (aka give and take) She left him and obviously she will find faults in the guy she left you for also. We will never find a "perfect" match. Unless you abused her in a way or cheated on her then she had no right to do what she did. I did everything possible for my ex (of 4 years) and she left me and said it was my fault, when she was leaving for another guy? Today I have a much much better fiancee that is basically my dream girl, but still point is don't try to emotionally hurt someone and blaim them for you cheating (because emotional cheating with another guy is still cheating weither you had sex or not). You deserve someone better than hurt, and don't agree with its your fault because no one deserves to get cheated on physically or emtionally (there are rare occasions such as abuse and such). You will find someone a lot better just like I did.
2007-06-06 08:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you full of rage? the fact that she broke up with you or because she lied to you?
either way, look at it as a blessing because you don't need a lying b*tch like her.
go work out and get rid of your rage and stress. in a few days / weeks you'll be happy and start looking at women in a positive light once again!
2007-06-06 07:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by brian c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. She wasn't worth it. She is transferring herself onto you and don't let her. And don't ever talk to her again. Hang up on her if she calls. Throw her mail away. Don't take her back ever. Move on. You will get over your rage. She's a *****. Let the next dude deal with her and be happy.
2007-06-06 07:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by zippythewonderslugohio 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well:
look breakups happen and we should respect that!Just get over the pain and know this is a temporray world with temporary love.
Be happy she left you maybe you are not meant to be.
Rage destroys get it out of your system.
goodluck.
2007-06-06 07:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by devi s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad now SHE is someone else's problem.
Look at it that way, think of all her bad qualities like lying to you, most likely cheating on you with that other man, did you really want that????????
2007-06-06 06:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself she's full of crap and that kind of crap you can live just fine without.
2007-06-06 07:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they always blame us when they leave to deflect the blame from their selves. yes u will feel hurt for awhile, and your ego is damaged because of this. the grief process takes time, distance yourself from her, believe me she isn't worth it, she made her choice, let her go, but don't blame yourself for any of this.
2007-06-06 07:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋