The wife of a guy at work want's a divorce (he's a great guy, excellent job, etc.) She says she doesn't feel anything for him anymore, after 13 yrs. of marriage. Considering over half of marriages end in divorce, what's a mans incentive to get married, he'll end up paying alimony and or child support......
2007-06-05 17:44:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The courts are stacked against men when it comes to custody and whatnot. But I still think men are romantics and fall in love and want children, just like women.
2007-06-05 17:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are not the guy at work. There are no guarantees. But you shouldn't let that stop you. Let your courtship be long, ask a lot of questions, find out her values, her interests and her plans for the future, tell her yours see if you might be a match. When you do get married, be giving, loving and kind to each other. There will be a lot of trails and tribulations along the way and it will take co operation from both sides to make it work. There are more marriages out there that last until death do us part than you think. Who ever told you 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce is full of it.
2007-06-05 18:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, you will still pay child support even if you never were married, so that is not a factor. Next, it is unlikely you will pay much or any alimony unless you were sole bread winner.
There are many reasons to get married, even tax benefits if you want to go that route, but the main consideration is your personal Belief System.
A Christian and many other beliefs have it written into their book of life or rules that you are supposed to get married and stay married.
So it is the culture and personal choices that break that and create the ridiculous percentages of divorces, but that is still not the way it is meant to be, depending on your beliefs of course.
Some other intangibles are the message you send to your Children about the sacredness of family and marriage and being a honorable man and not bailing out and all that.
If you want to use your friend as our case study, it is her choice to not feel anything anymore, and he is likely equally to blame as he probably does not do the things he used to do to turn her on. She could feel for him again and he could be a more romantic and exciting guy again, it all goes back to those choices I was earlier typing about.
I Pray this Serves well.
2007-06-05 17:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Viking Brethren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You're guaranteed rights to any children from the marriage. If you have children with a woman you're NOT married too, you have NO rights by default to them. The woman can take your child(ren) and leave anytime to anywhere she pleases
2. You're children carry on your last name and family legacy. Without marriage you're just a 'baby daddy'. And only when you're NOT married are you liable for child support.
3. In case of death, your wife has rights to your inheritance. Most guys in love want to know there girl is taken care of if they die suddenly. If you're just in love and one of you dies, the other person doesn't get anything...it all goes to the state.
4. Married men live longer, happier, healthier lives than their single counterparts. Thats disputable of course, but study after study says the same thing.
I think if you never want kids, marriage is 50/50 for a guy. But if you do ever want kids, marriage is usually the best option.
2007-06-05 18:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I firmly believe in the institution of marriage. However, having lived through the child support hell myself, I'll never do it again, and I counseled my teenage son against it as well. Which broke my heart. But it is where we have been pushed.
To answer your question, maybe to a young idealistic person, well... it's an ideal. But having gone through it... I haven't a clue why one would.
2007-06-05 18:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by howtoms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my husband that same question. It was shortly after we had started 'courting', if you will, and I wanted to find out his heart in the matter of marriage. Here is what he said and here is what I'll never forget:
"Well... (long pause).. I can't think of anything better in life than coming home to a woman who loves me so much she would marry me and promise to not only be with me for the rest of her entire life, but to be with me during the good and hard times... (another long pause - I remember those pauses well!) To be supported, to be respected, to have my own family, to make our own traditions. To come home from a long day at work to my beautiful bride eagerly awaiting my return. I actually can't wait for marriage."
(Makes me blush)
2007-06-05 18:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by Concordance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...do you plan on having a girlfriend? do you plan on getting her pregnant? Do you want a baby momma or a wife? I guess do what works for you. I don't think it has to do what century we are living in, some things in life never change. One of them being the relationship between a man and woman. Other than morals, marriage can make sense financially, gives a sense of security especially to the woman, health, social security, and other benefits. Do what works for you.
2016-05-17 21:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey read the stats on divorces today
but life is all about taking risk's and dealiong with all the things with those risk good or bad
i may be divorced and paying child support but i got my boy outa it and i wouldnt trade that for anything
2007-06-05 17:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by rage6996 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married men live longer and have more sex. lf you're scared of alimony and money issues do a prenuptual agreement.
2007-06-05 17:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did it twice. Everytime I try to get out they pull u back in. Like the Jews say, "Never Again"
2007-06-05 18:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Vegas Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋