I had a terrible childhood with my parents' attention always towards my younger brother, if i asked for a pencil i was made to wait till they thought it was ok for me to have a pencil but if my brother had to ask for a spanner though he was just a tiny tot it was given to him!! bcoz of this i think i fell in love with the first man i came across in life and married him who made my life more miserable always having his way knowing i had no avenues to run to. my parents have never stood by me on the contrary they have always ridiculed me even my husband does exactly the opposite of what i would like him to do and keeps telling me to go away even after 30+ years. I have no children. Friends i do not trust becos they have just used us and thrown us in the past. my parents are dependent on me and live with us after my brother's untimely death so today if i walk out my parents will suffer at the hands of my husband.. dont know wht to do. dont want to commit suicide. r these my past karmas??
2007-06-05 23:47:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1.) Throw the boyfriend/thing out
2.) Talk to your parents, brother is dead, so should be able to resolve some issues
3.) Some will say get counseling but hold your ground, you have no kids so nothing to stick around either but this is where you make your stand: Face all your past demons not with anger but with understanding. It's the past, S**t Happens and it happened to you but you aren't going to take it anymore.
Throw the guy out by any means possible, cops, whatever.
Confront your parents about the past, if they are resistant, then just flat out tell them then DROP IT. Its a new life starting today. Do what you know is right and live how you know its right, the rest will fall into place. Sitting around feeling awful over your past isnt going to change anything.
P.S. Lose the 'friends' too, start over. If once the smoke clears its just you and your parents, so be it then.
2007-06-05 23:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same boat as you with regards to my parents, and my first husband, so know what you are going through. Today my mother is an old lady, and cannot see that I have issues about the past! I have confronted her about all the issues, but she, unfortunately, cannot see that there is any validity to them. I have not allowed her to move in with me, as this would just compound the problems. I have learned to forgive her however, and still talk to her from time to time. The only way I found to get out feeling as if the world was against me was to realize that it was NOT my fault that my parents did not know how to show love, and to move on. I do believe that your friends ( like some of mine in the past) used you because they knew that you were an easy target. I no longer have friends like that in my life, because I have realized that I need to be with people who love me for WHO I am, not what I can do for them. I really feel for you, this is not going to be an easy time for you, but if you need to talk to someone who does understand, please e mail me. Perhaps I can give you a bit of emotional support.
2007-06-06 07:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,according to the law of Reincarnation you are paying for your past sins but donot get depressed!
In this age of darkness you should seek Gods blessing and your life will become peaceful and you shall be happy.Just chant the Hare Krsna Mantra and all your worries will be over!
Hare Krsna Hare krsna krsna krsna hare hare hare rama hare rama rama rama hare hare.
goodluck
2007-06-06 07:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by devi s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you. In fact you are great.
But I'm sure God will make it up for you.
You can't leave because of your parents, I admit. Believe me, one day you will be paid, generously paid.
Always sat to yourself: Tomorrow is another day. God help you.
By the way having no children is good for you for the time being.
2007-06-06 06:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by hy003002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋