2007-06-05 21:41:44 · 25 answers · asked by Eric Inri 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you necessarily dump your single friends when you get married. But the hard truth is you'll have more in common with your married friends, and may find that activities with them are more conducive to good relations at home.
The same thing happens when you have babies. You don't want to lose your childless friends, but the friends with kids are more tolerant of your children, and more understanding of the new things that interest you.
2007-06-05 21:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by Dianne A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a married person should have friends that respect the fact they are married wether they are single or married themselves. Married friends do not necessarily make better friends because not all marriages are healthy. If you have friends that were there before you got married, they should understand that your priorites are now on another level and that you can no longer entertain some of the things you used to participate in as a single person with no commitment. If they cannot understand that then you need to make some difficult choices as to what is really important to you. A friend will be able to come to terms with that.
2007-06-06 04:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by ToniaB72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think once people marry, they have a tendency to do things with other married couples so even though you might still have single friends, you just don't have as much in common with them now that your life has changed so you end up doing more with married people.
Some friends are close and remain friends regardless of anyone's marital status but most go another direction which is part of life because people's interest/work/friends take them a different direction.
2007-06-06 05:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone has insecurity issues. My ex was like this and he didn't like me going out with my friends. I don't believe it will really make a difference if they were married. Once he said "single people do single people things" whatever that may be. He was the most insecure person in this world. He made my life miserable. If you have genuinely great friends keep them. Life is so hard and we all need these people and if your partner has a problem with it, that is an issue they need to work on because it is normal and human to meet great people no matter what stage they are in their life. Finding a friend, a true friend is rare and when you have them you shouldn't just give them up because of your partner.
2007-06-06 04:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these days it doesnt even matter anymore.. most couples when u get older will become that way, it depends on ur age too and where u live.. I heard that in Florida if you arent married under 20 thats so unusual and weird to floridans but in RI, so many people are married for the wrong reasons and dont even stay together.. anyhoo it doesnt matter and if u do have a lot of married friends then cool
2007-06-06 04:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by starconfusionco1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's seems that a lot of times it works out that way. Often becuase Friends normally progress together. So eventually it comes around that the "group" is either married or otherwise hooked. But after several years I still have a lot of single friends, mainly becuase they were friends prior to and true friendship is what is important.
2007-06-06 08:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by yo_dre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not a measurement of your status to have married friends only club. All your friends will remain whether you're married or not. Not all of you will marry at once that's why it's inevitable you will have single friends. One way or another, you'll meet new people maybe at work, gym or social events and eventually become friends with them, but you can't choose to have married friends alone.
2007-06-06 04:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by leelee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, or my husband and I are doing something wrong. We know six married couples, and that is my friend from high school and her husband, and our former office manager and his wife (also their daughter and her new husband), my husband's best friend and his wife and my niece and her husband. The fifth couple is our son and daughter-in-law.
But we socialize with few of these couples. The friends, maybe once a year or less, my niece and son regularly. The manager and the manager's daughter, annually...or less.
Some of the guys my spouse works with are married, too.. But we don't socialize with them either.
Everyone else we know is single. These are the people we see regularly. Quite a few of them are family members.
God bless you.
Hope I helped.
2007-06-06 04:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they are supposed to have the same friends they had before they got married whether their friends are married or not.
2007-06-06 04:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. It just happens that other married people have more in common than do non-married people.
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2007-06-06 19:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋