Marriage & Divorce - 5 June 2007

My husband is always watching porn I have asked him to stop and have explain to him that it really upset me and how bad it makes me feel

2007-06-05 05:39:00 · 48 answers · asked by girl confussed 1

My boyfriend (now husband) have been together for about 4 years. I've stuck by his side although he's cheated numerous times. Got a girl pregnant and been abusive towards me. But now I have a 5 month old son by him and I know things can't keep going on like this. He's been physically abusive and emotionally abusive the pass 2 years and I've even had to get a protective order against him. He doesn't help with the baby so I put him on child support a couple of weeks ago. But even though he's abusive and a complete jerk I can't seem to let my feelings for him go. I still love him but I know the best thing for me and my child would be to let him go. Now there's a rumor going around town that he slept with a 16 year old girl (whom he thought was 20) he's 21. And I just don't know what to do.

2007-06-05 05:31:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Did it work? What did you talk about? What came out in the sessions? Did it help to solve or patch your problems?

2007-06-05 05:28:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Your ex turns into a little bug right before your eyes, what would you do?

2007-06-05 05:26:33 · 10 answers · asked by ripstang3000 3

Causes problems. For one she will goto bars and have drinks whereas i dont feel comfortable doing it. Her friends are non-christian and live a life as such so I dont feel right hanging with them. It causes arguments and I end up starting most of them!
It bothers me when she goes out. I am into family and family things. She seems into just going out and doing things she likes. As a christian, how do I just love on her without letting emotions get involved when her friends call to do something.?
I feel like I may be pushing her away. But it just bothers me so seeing her want to go out.

2007-06-05 05:26:31 · 13 answers · asked by WWJD 2

but i want to go back to school










his anwser is" we will see." " what about the kids he says" he controls me with money i want to buy a shirt " no don't you think you have enough clothes." I don't know if i can take it much longer. i know married couples should compromise and give sometime. but he is a flirtateous hypocrite who has a cave man attitude when it comes to marriage. People say oh you have a good marriage. yeah as long as things are going his way. God forbid i go to school anyway he would throw a fit. like i said before overall its an ok married i guess but these issues kill the core of me. they make me want to scream. what do i say or what actions do i need to take to make him less controlling. although i want a divorce he won't give me one and i don't work and have no way to pay for a lawyer or even the filing fees. he won't go to counselling... i have four kids and my heart says he is a good father shut up and live don't break your kids hearts

2007-06-05 05:20:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother had a boyfriend for 12 years. He just died. Together they had a landcontract for property that still isnt paid off, along with 2 vechiles that both their names are on that still arent paid off, He has a 17 year old daughter from an ex mariage. The ex wife is now saying that all those assests(which are all in his and my mothers name) belong to the daughter. My mother and him worked together for years to aquire these things. My question is: Does the daughter have a right to all these assests that are also my mothers?

2007-06-05 05:12:36 · 13 answers · asked by Jaclyn B 2

2007-06-05 05:06:37 · 13 answers · asked by bimshire 1

2007-06-05 04:59:53 · 8 answers · asked by angeladavis211 1

I saw this question earlier where some nut was angry that her family won't give her money because they over exetended themselves, didn't save, and were now broke.

Is it cool to ask family for money when the reason you are broke is because you tried to be a big shot and it blew up in you face?

2007-06-05 04:55:34 · 17 answers · asked by Steve J 2

If said matter of factly, those are the facts, particularly when I hear that he has made up lies about me.

2007-06-05 04:52:07 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am still getting calls from co-workers of my husband inviting us as a family to functions. I am also getting calls from people he has known several years inviting us to their summer homes for a weekend. How can people not know? What do I tell them? He left me for a colleague and someone they know. How could they not know?

2007-06-05 04:44:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 48 year old wife has ALS, also known as Lou Gerhigs Disease, for over seven years. Things are getting real tough now. She still talks but all her other movements are pretty much gone. Latley she has become more and more demanding and downright mean! I fully understand what she's going through and all the meds are not helping. She also keeps demanding to be put into nursing home. I married her for better and for worse. I cannot let her into a place like that. She doesn't understand that we take care of her much better than a home could, During the day we have hospice come in. Then our 19 year old takes over until I get home. Everyday now she cries and says she can't go on. She constantly asks me to give her all her oxy-cordone at once to end it. If it weren't for my daughters, I would help her leave. But it I did that, my kids would lose both parents. Me to jail and mom to god. We both now know that Kervorkian was really a caring man.
Sorry for the ramble, I just needed to vent...

2007-06-05 04:41:28 · 19 answers · asked by Donald D 2

My wife asked that, in lieu of buying her an expensive gift, that I give one of her boys a big chunk of cash for college. I still want to get her something. I am taking her on a trip, but want to get her something she can hold in her hands, but is not terribly expensive.

She is pretty, looks much younger than 50, slender, athletic and very feminine. She also will not tell me what she wants for a gift, or implies that she doesn't want anything, which I assume is not true.

Why do women not want to tell you what they want for a gift? My first wife was the same way. I wouldn't hesitate if somebody asked me that question! Why do I have to figure it out?????? Help!!!!!!!

2007-06-05 04:38:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well one of his long time friends came into town and he went out w/ him and more of their other friends. I don't trip off that, if anything I encourage him to hang out w/ his buddies. All I ask is that he keep in touch w/ me because I worry about him drinking and driving. Well I text him about 11:30pm to let me know when he is on his way home so I can expect him, So I fell asleep and woke up at 4am to find him still not home(which is not like him) So I started to feel sick and worried. I called and called w/ no answer. Finally calls back a lil b4 5am and says he's ok and he feels he has done nothing wrong. Now I am not mad cuz I think he was out cheating or anything, I am mad cuz he had me worried and up when had to get up at 5:45 for work. How do I address this? Is he taking advantage of my niceness?

2007-06-05 04:33:20 · 15 answers · asked by giggly33 2

Women...should I be angry if my husband goes to Hooters? They are having a party for a co-worker there and he feels obligated to go. We have never went to those kinds of places at all (although he did before me) I don't like the idea of him going and said that...he thinks I'm wrong and over reacting and made me out to be some kind of nagging wife. I just don't like the idea...I'm a mother of 2..toddler and newborn. I am here at home all day taking care of our babies and our home while he is out google eyeing other women?? Am I wrong?

2007-06-05 04:29:48 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been seperated since Nov. 06. Having 2 kids together and 12 years of history I think its foolish for us not to try and reconsile our differences. We have tried with some success, but she says she doesnt "feel the passion" anymore. She says that she loves me, and doesnt want to be w/o me. She has me come over all the time, even gets angry if I dont come over, spend days doing things together, I have even spent the night several times. I have done everything I can think of. Flowers, spontanious "adventures", show up unexpected with wine, etc. But nothing seems to work. She wants me to do all the things a husband does, fix things, help with kids, take trips, mow the lawn.....But she doesnt want me to be her partner.
The mixed messages that she sends me really has me at the breaking point. Should I pack up and move on or keep trying?

2007-06-05 04:23:11 · 11 answers · asked by Matt C 2

my marriage has been rocky for years. I have two children and a husband who drinks a 12pack a day and can be verbally abusive to me and my oldest son 11yrs. My son has recently been hurting himself after his dad berates him. I need to let you know taht we are lving with my in-laws because we sold our house, because we were in financial difficulty and trying to recover from that. My husbnd won't listen and thinks we can buy a mobile home and put it on his parents property but I don't think we can make the payments and want to continue trying to pay off and save. We got into debt over the past 5 years, I went through a real tough time with my job and then losing my dad and didn't work becuase I was so depressed and couldn't get out of bed, so I quit my job after two years of struggle and then for two years stayed home with a daycare, which then added more stress to the family, so of course to my husband we are broke because of me.

2007-06-05 04:16:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-05 04:09:18 · 44 answers · asked by Proud mother! 6

Recently, my huband & I both lost our jobs.
My husband's company shut down, we were tied up in legal matters with that for weeks, & I was forced to look for a better job in my field to make up for the loss in his pay. Most people don't realize that the application process at established companies for professional jobs is at least 3 weeks. Employment is down in our town, & at the end of that month I was out of a job, too, w/ no new work.
This situation is so uncharacteristic for us. Family usually comes to us for favors & money, etc. They shamelessly ask for hundreds of dollars assuming we have lots of $$ because we keep our house clean & don't complain to everyone about money matters.
Now that we're in need, everyone has scattered. We discreetly asked for help, but no one really responded. Our utilities were due to be cut off this week. We asked everyone if they'd pitch in a little, but they all were suddenly broke. We had to accept $$ from our 70 year old grandparents. That hurt.

2007-06-05 04:03:54 · 25 answers · asked by Fathiya 3

2007-06-05 04:03:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

always masturbating why????? i don't like it when he does that but he dosen't seem to understand how i feel can you guys give me advice.. Thanks So Much..

2007-06-05 03:58:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was 26, I met a guy, it was great. I had been with a few guys but I fell head over heals in love with this one. He was married but both were really unhappy. They divorced soon after we met, but it wasn't b/c of me. His ex was a nice person & knew I wasn't the reason for their divorce.

4 yrs later, this guy & I get married. I did it b/c I thought it was time but I wasn't really in love anymore. I felt trapped & fell into deep depression. I wasn't in love & wanted a divorce. After 2 yrs, we filed for divorce.

Yet the divorce hurt, felt rejected, felt bad abt myself. I hardly contacted him once we broke up.

One of the things he said that sticks in my brain was "I'm probably the only one who would have wanted/married you". He didn't want me anymore but why would someone say such a mean thing to another? I wasn't asking him back. It's been 14 yrs & I still think of that comment. It hurt so deep. Is it true that some people just aren't "marriage" material

2007-06-05 03:56:47 · 32 answers · asked by Sunny 3

Hey, I'm just feeling kind of crummy lately. Right or wrong, this is how I am feeling.. Maybe you can shed some light for me...Just a quick run down of what is on my mind:
You came to bed late Thusday night just to sit in the living room and watch tv with matt (son).Friday, you knew it was the night before I was leaving for 2 daya and I told you I was going to bed around 10 - 10:30 (at 9pm). You stayed up till almost midnight (made me feel unloved). Saturday you woke up and left (paint job), knowing that I was leaving and traveling with my kids you put you phone in your car and didn't check it until 5pm. You also tell me later that you went to bed around 10 and didn't stay up to watch TV on a saturday night with matt.Sunday - you still haven't made any attempt to text me or call on your own... Monday - still, no text, etc... I get home at 11:30 - you don't come home till after 4:30... We both are busy, but you start a movie before i get home and watch it till midnight (i am sad)

2007-06-05 03:56:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-05 03:55:38 · 3 answers · asked by zls_1984 1

If your wife/husband or gf/bf did not have a job and could not pay his or her bills or anything else and you had to pay for everything and was trying to get something but it was taking for ever would you leave?

2007-06-05 03:50:48 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

esp. in time of crisis and differences?

2007-06-05 03:50:09 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have left India many years ago. Lost all connections in India

2007-06-05 03:48:27 · 10 answers · asked by Hi There 1

He hides his porn, gets update messages, doesn't make love, wants me to initiate always & is one of those lay there & do nothing guys while you do all the work. Yet he treats me like a queen otherwise. He doesn't go out- just goes to internet skin sites- may be doing some online dating???? Now gets violent when I bring the hiding up. But doesn't hit me- just tears up stuff. I am fed up as a woman & frustrated. We have been married for over 19 years. I am not unattractive or a prude. I have been very patient. But.......now what? Does anyone know what the sassy connection is? It seems to be a private connection. He claims though it is on his computer that he doesn't ???? He is being a #1 jerk. and AAA h***o. Right now I am elsewhere and not home. Not in a hurry to go back. Is he hopeless? I have prayed for answers- tried to talk to him & he only says he is doing nothing!!!????? I don't want to live like this.

2007-06-05 03:42:15 · 11 answers · asked by nolongeractive 2

Long story short. I was divorced in Jan. As part of the divorce I wanted to sell and get my 50% and so that we could move on our separate ways. He convinced me not to, that he wanted our 2 girls to live in the house they have known and that he would pay 50% of mortgage plus child support. We would sell the house in 9 yrs when my little one turns 18... I said ok. I was reluctant, but because I would have exclusive use of the house I said ok. All this is in the divorice decree. Now, he "changed" his mind, he wants to sell the house. Now I don't want to, I'm comfortable. He's taking me to court to change the decree. I'm thinking of justing giving in, other than my girls I don't want anymore connections with him. And I don't want to pay for another lawyer but at the same time dont want to give into him because I know it's a control issue. I really don't want to move, I love my house.

2007-06-05 03:41:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous