Hey, I'm just feeling kind of crummy lately. Right or wrong, this is how I am feeling.. Maybe you can shed some light for me...Just a quick run down of what is on my mind:
You came to bed late Thusday night just to sit in the living room and watch tv with matt (son).Friday, you knew it was the night before I was leaving for 2 daya and I told you I was going to bed around 10 - 10:30 (at 9pm). You stayed up till almost midnight (made me feel unloved). Saturday you woke up and left (paint job), knowing that I was leaving and traveling with my kids you put you phone in your car and didn't check it until 5pm. You also tell me later that you went to bed around 10 and didn't stay up to watch TV on a saturday night with matt.Sunday - you still haven't made any attempt to text me or call on your own... Monday - still, no text, etc... I get home at 11:30 - you don't come home till after 4:30... We both are busy, but you start a movie before i get home and watch it till midnight (i am sad)
2007-06-05 03:56:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are not being a big baby...
there is obviously a problem there and you needed to communicate it to him. Hopefully he will realize how you are feeling and try to make some changes.
2007-06-05 05:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a big baby, actually, you're trying to communicate with him.
Instead of email, next time sit down with him and the movie, when the movie is over/during the movie, start talking to him. See what he says, he may not even realize that you are feeling so lonely. My husband does the same to me, i'll tell him i'm going to bed and he'll say, "i'll be there ina min" and then he doesn't show, I know how you feel, the only way to help the situation is to talk to him straightforward and face to face. Do you have any time together, just the two of you at all? Perhaps now the time is right to create a time for just the two of you before you begin to feel worse. Create a romantic situation, send the kids off to a friends house, and have a quiet dinner together...
Good luck, and I'm sure everyhting will work out for the best!
2007-06-05 11:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by trina_weena 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not being 'a baby' at all. Communication is very important in any relationship, and when it comes to feeling hurt, trying to say the words out loud can be difficult and confusing. By writing him a note you have hopefully let him know that you are somewhat hurt (rightly so in my humble opinion) and that you feel the need to discuss this. Though men seem to have difficulty discussing their feelings (I don't know why other than bred into us) putting thoughts to paper can help keep them focused and on track. It is a great way to open the door to actual discussion. I hope he sees that and will come to you, heart in hand so you both can 'clear the air,' so to speak. (I've used letters and poetry to accomplish this...and not always because of a 'sad thing.')
2007-06-05 11:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not a baby. You probably choose this manner to communicate with him, because this way he will hear you for sure. I also do that, when it;s hard to talk or I want him to know a lot of things that goes through my mind and don't want to be interrupted... It's just a part of the communication we need to have with our spouse.
I hope he gets the message and he will understand that you need his love and attention.
2007-06-05 14:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Michaela 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people cant communicate verbally and prefer to email. I dont think your being a big baby at all. It just seems that you need more attention by his part. Did he read your email already? What did he say?
2007-06-05 11:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Latina4life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I THINK U SHOULD HAVE TALKED TO HIM AND LET HIM NO HOW U FEEL FACE TO FACE... SOME MEN DON'T REALLY HAVE THE FEELINGS THAT THEY WOULD HAVE IF YOU WERE SITTING AND TALKING TO THEM... I THINK SOME MEN MIGHT NEED TIME TO BE ALONE... MY HUSBAND COMES HOME AND I'M IN BED I DON'T SEE HIM ALL DAY BUT HE LIKE TO WATCH TV ALONE SOMETIMES AND RELAX.... THAT'S JUST HOW THEY RELIEF THEIR STRESS....TRUST ME NOTHING TO WORRY BOUT ALL U NEEDED TO DO WAS SIT AND TALK TO HIM AND LET HIM KNOW HOW U FEEL.. OR MAYBE HE HAS SOMETHING THAT HAS BEEN BOTHERING HIM AND HE IS JUST KEEPING IT INSIDE... GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE THINGS WORK OUT FOR YOU.........
2007-06-05 14:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aww, that's so sad! No...you're not a big baby at all. You sound very lost and alone. I hope your husband steps up to the plate and gives you the attention you so badly crave.
My heart goes out to you....good luck, hun. xo
2007-06-05 11:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with letting him know that something is bothering you. Open communication is one of the best things in a relationship
2007-06-05 11:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by elb366 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you don't sound like a baby, but you do, however, sound as though you are feeling neglected. Time to talk instead of sending text and e-mail.
2007-06-05 13:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by MeMe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not being a baby.
You have a relationship, not a room mate.
It is obvious he is ignoring you.
But trust me, you have to have both people involved if you try to put the marriage back together.
2007-06-05 11:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋