Marriage & Divorce - 5 June 2007

My wife is seeking custody of our two teenage children (15 & 13) I think they might want to live with me. I tell them all the time that both of us love them very much and that they will be able to spend as much time with either parent as they want no matter where they live. My wife wants them to live with her for obvious reasons not just the child support, however she is counting on that; but I think the kids want to live with me. I know the courts take their wishes into consideration, and both of us are equally capable of taking good care of our kids. We both love them very very much and we both want them to live with us. Any help with this?

2007-06-05 11:49:53 · 8 answers · asked by da_catcar 1

They don't have a custody order she just wont let him see the kids. They want to see there father.

2007-06-05 11:48:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-05 11:47:18 · 24 answers · asked by Mandy Blue 1

....for a cat, Everything I learned about men I learned from my dog, Dating mating and manhandling, Every man I love is either married gay or dead, How to train a man, When momma ain't happy ain't nobody happy.
These are just a sampling of the books available to women about men. I tried very hard to find comparably misogynistic books about women, but had little luck.

How would women feel if they saw books with titles like these?:

-Feminists that aren't suitable for dating and how to spot them.

-Yes, all women are crazy (when it comes to communicating with their man).

-The man's guide to PMS.

-Signs and symptoms of a high-maintenance woman.

-Can you afford her?

2007-06-05 11:21:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

for example:

What happened, how did it start?

Was it with the same person each time?

Did your online affair carry into real life?

Did it ruin your marriage, or was it kept secret?

How many times?

2007-06-05 11:20:46 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

5 years ago, we decided to marry. Two years ago, we got our marriage license.

We were madly in love, and we went through so much to get together. We married against our parents wishes, and I haven't spoken to my father in almost 2 years.

But now, I feel nothing. Whenever we spend a week or two together, we spend most of our time fighting. I no longer see her as the beautiful person (in body, mind, and spirit) that I used to see. We don't get along, we have nothing in common, and we don't even share the same interests and goals in life. I honestly don't remember why I wanted her so much, except that I was happy when I was with her, but that's gone now, and I see no reason for us to be together.

I told her this, and she did not take it well. She says that I ruined her life. What can I do? Can I just leave without any "real" reason?

But can I live forever like this? Yet, if I leave, how can I ever trust myself to be with another woman? Won't I just hurt another person?

2007-06-05 11:14:28 · 22 answers · asked by Yes 3

I lived with a guy for 13 years who was not nice to me. He did drugs and sometimes slapped me around. When I left him my parents were very angry at me. We are Spanish and this is something you don't do. I have met a very nice man who is good to me and my childern. But still my parents are urging me to return with my "husband". My whole family tends to agree with them. What do you think? I really love the guy I am with. But I love my family too. I really do not want to choose.

2007-06-05 10:58:29 · 39 answers · asked by Chantal 1

I have many little things that I want to thank my boyfriend for. (like not bring up things I do wrong, and the great support he gives me, making me feel beautiful even at my flawful moments) I try not to get to mushy about it, and I haven't thanked him for awhile because I know that if I do it the way I want to I would scare him away. I just want to say OMG I LOVE YOU SOOOO MUCH AND THANK YOU FOR THIS THIS AND THIS and hug him and hold him forever... but that's the crazy way, and I don't want to over do it. How can I really show him that he is the greatest boyfriend a girl could ever have without being an "over do it,clingy,emotional" girlfriend?

2007-06-05 10:56:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Not that I have a problem with it, but why should I as a single person feel sorry for them?

2007-06-05 10:54:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my wife have been married for ten years for the most part it has been good, about five years ago we found out she has muscular dystrophy she has gotten so weak that normal everyday task take forever and has became to much to bear at times, my back kills me from lifting her so much, I don't want to go anywhere or do anything with her or my daughter because of how hard things are, my family or hers is no help to me either I have begged God for help but I get no answers is there anyone who can please help me or tell me what to do?

2007-06-05 10:50:43 · 11 answers · asked by Daniel S 1

we have been arguing all weekend on sunday evening things settled down.
one of the main items we argued about was the fact of her using money for what ever she wanted including lending to friends.
i stated that i was now going to take care of the family finances
well today i find out she has gone behind my back and bought a pram without discussion.
and has paid for it
even after we had argued about this on saturday night( we have four prams already)
what do you think

2007-06-05 10:35:31 · 13 answers · asked by mr doubtful 1

2007-06-05 10:33:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out a $500,000 cabin with $100,000 in furniture {owned by Michelle and acquired during the marriage} was not covered by the pre-nup and would be considered marital property and covered by the fifty-fifty bargaining line. Only I filed in another province and settled there and not here and their rules are different from here.

2007-06-05 10:33:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Most of the time I am a secure, well adjusted person. I have been married 20+ years. But sometimes I find myself depending on him for my happiness. If he is in a bad mood, I want to find out why, and I feed off his bad mood and get depressed myself, because he is so distracted. If he is not paying enough attention to me, doesn't call, fails to notice something nice I've done, I start feeling insecure again, doubting his love etc. Then I will go for a spell and feel fine, but it all seems to be in his reaction to me. How can I break out of this cycle and be more secure?

2007-06-05 10:28:21 · 18 answers · asked by casey308 2

2007-06-05 10:25:36 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a wife of going on 7 years, and My question is to the husbands out there who are happily married: Name some things your wife does that keep you happy and satisfied (not just in the bedroom answers please). Thanks in advance!

2007-06-05 10:21:35 · 12 answers · asked by Drisana R 2

this girl had the baby and ran off he lived with me untill he was 3 and then i let him live with his grandma and she never even visited him. and we he was 6 they sent me a bill for 10grand,I told the judge that she never took care of the kid what am i paying her for he said''send your money or go to prison''now he is 9 and she has been in prison for2 years for robbin a BP and they still want me to pay her !!! they treat me like a lyar and are destroying my life why do i have to by her oxycottins and crack because she had a baby 10 years ago that she hasnt seen scince////am i the bad guy just cuz i am a man ?I am married with 3 kids an cant aford a lawyer I will be livin in a box soon what can i do???

2007-06-05 10:14:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well I have been seperated from my husband for while and was hoping to work things out and he was telling me this seperation was temporary,he is in the milatary and is stationed at his base,while I have been staying with family,well he told me I should stay with them to save money,Well little did I know he wanted to save that money for a divorce and had been planning this for months,Today he sent me a text pic of the divorce papers, he is saying he owes me nothing at all finacially,I am still stung and in shock at his cruel behavior,oh yea he also included with the divorce pics a message about how much hotter his girl friend is than me,My question is what can I do about this now,I am scared and do not know what to do,I tried to call his sergent but he was cold and basically told me he can't do anything about him wanting a divorce,also I do not have a job and no way to get around so I am stuck,any advice,info.Thanks

2007-06-05 10:07:45 · 10 answers · asked by kikidee 2

Can taking a break in your marriage ever end up back in "happily ever after"?

2007-06-05 09:53:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a court order that gives my ex every other weekend, 1/2 summer, 1 week at Christmas with our 8 yo daughter. My ex has since moved out of state so obviously cannot have her every other weekend. Our daughter has since been diagnosed with ADHD, Dyslexia and fine motor skills disability. She is reading at a first grade level and is going in to 3rd grade. The school has requested she attend summer school for 5 weeks during summer break. My ex is demanding that I now allow him to have her for the whole summer. I have reiterated how important it is for her to go to summer school as her disabilities are having an effect on her confidence & self esteem, but he is threatening to take me back to court to force my hand. Can someone tell me if an ex-parte hearing would help my cause before he does the same. Also, can he request an ex-parte hearing in his state CO even though our initial order is in CA? Would I get equal rights to 1/2 the summer to enjoy with her?

2007-06-05 09:47:10 · 4 answers · asked by Kelly A 1

I am trying to help my older brother who is going through a terrible time. He has been married for 40 years, (has grown children and grandchildren) basically in a very unhappy marriage. However, his wife is the type that would never leave him and my brother is the type who will put up with anything in order to keep the peace. She is very manipulative and vindictive and it will be horrible when and if this divorce comes about. But, my brother has met somebody, and they love each other and have so much in common and so much enjoyment together. He is afraid to take the first step and tell his wife so he has been talking to me. What should he do first, talk to his kids, try a separation, talking to his wife first would be out of the question as she will just go ballistic. His main concern, I believe, is the fact that he feels he will be letting everybody down (his family, friends, etc) and that his wife, at first, will be unhappy. Any ideas on how this could be made less painful?

2007-06-05 09:43:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need to move forward in my life now that I am Divorced Recently!!!Not my fault ( my Wife ran off with a Turkish Bloke While on Holiday) As happens!! Am 50 Tall slim ,Fit< GSOH!! Big Family Spread around UK! Also need a good diet Idea to pick me up out of this Hole!!

2007-06-05 09:34:28 · 23 answers · asked by bornagainandy 2

I am married to a wonderful man and we have a 3 year old daughter.
But the thing is I have really big trust & jealousy issues. So much that I feel it's come close to ruining our marriage.
I know he's a good man and has never given me reason to think he would cheat on me or otherwise.
but I feel in my heart that I'm just lying to myself.
the way I think is that ppl can keep secrets so what if everything he does is just a lie?
is there a way to get over this?
suggestions would be greatly appreciated :)

2007-06-05 09:21:03 · 19 answers · asked by preggo&luvinit 3

a bisexual

2007-06-05 09:20:22 · 17 answers · asked by Here kitty kitty 5

2007-06-05 09:17:43 · 10 answers · asked by dvoraksaltillo 1

OK, my ex and I broke up a bit back. She doesn't have a drivers lience due to the two DWI's she got two years ago in rapid succestion, yet she still drives around like it didn't matter. She is even suposed to have one of those breathalizer things on the car that you have to blow into to get the car to start, but again she has not gone to take her classes, she has not had the breath thingie installed and still drives around...
>:)
I am thinking really evil thoughts about calling and reporting her to the police....
Please tell me to let it go and just move on...
Please let me know that THINKING about it is OK, but DOING it is just wrong....

2007-06-05 09:17:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been officially divorced since Sept. I met someone in Jan and we are talking about getting married. He wants to do it before he leaves on deployment. Everyone in my family wants me to wait and slow down. They all believe it is too soon. I believe there is no timeline for life. What should I do?

2007-06-05 09:00:59 · 26 answers · asked by BLG 1

i am from another country and i had a short term fling with a married man who i met at though a friend, i was living with some people who later lost their apartment, i had no money and no where to go, this man took me to his home with his wife and children to stay over night. He told his wife that I was from the church and had no where to go for the night. She is a christians and she did allow me to stay one night. Later to get a phone call that she knew i had been with her husband...

2007-06-05 09:00:12 · 17 answers · asked by ubetalkin 2

i have 2 girls,the older one love me tooooo much ,and wants to spend more time with me,but the problem is my wife,she is gilous but ilove her also.
help me.

2007-06-05 08:54:49 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-05 08:49:51 · 21 answers · asked by gypsey 3