I need to move forward in my life now that I am Divorced Recently!!!Not my fault ( my Wife ran off with a Turkish Bloke While on Holiday) As happens!! Am 50 Tall slim ,Fit< GSOH!! Big Family Spread around UK! Also need a good diet Idea to pick me up out of this Hole!!
2007-06-05 09:34:28 · 23 answers · asked by bornagainandy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so, i guess what you're saying is that you're drinking away your current feelings of depression. Well, if you are prone to be a drinker to begin with, you'll need some therapy and I guess AA is a good start.
otherwise, you need to just pick yourself up and clean up your act and leave the booze alone. Your a big boy now, no woman can make you an alcoholic if you dont want to be!
2007-06-05 09:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously recognize that you have a drinking problem. You can't get help unless you are willing to help yourself. Drinking to some, is like smoking. Its addictive, but you can stop if you truly wanted to. Join a gym and work it out. Everybody feels better after a workout. So if you keep yourself busy, then alcohol won't be the only thing you think about. Divorce happens....it either makes you or breaks you. And so far, its breaking you and getting the best of you. If thats how you want life to be, then let it. But if you want a better life for yourself, then you need to put your past behind you and look towards the future. Good luck.
2007-06-05 09:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you're drinking to hide the pain. AA is a good idea--it won't be as bad as you might think.
Also, do consider meeting people again. That in itself can help you occupy less time with more negative vices.
Check your area for singles meeting, check your paper if they have a classifieds section for dating or just begin doing things you like doing and you will probably meet people who share common interests.
It may not seem like it right now but it really will get better. You can now decide how you want to live the 2nd half of your life with new choices.
2007-06-05 09:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Denise T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to AA. And no, it is not a religous front. I have attended a few AA meetings (just b/c I was curious, not b/c am alcoholic) & it was amazing. It's like free therapy! You'll meet other people whose lives have been turned upside down & you'll realize how lucky you are compared to these people. It could be a revelation. You should try it, you've got nothing to lose.
Also, if I may add... there are some seriously good looking people who attended the meetings (at least at the AA I went to)...
2007-06-05 09:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever have a healing ministries team come to your hometown please go. I was addicted to cigarettes for the last 12+ yrs. Well I was at one of these and I was smoking I was talking to some of the people there and well said I have been wanting to quit for months needless to say I got prayer and got stripped of the addiction it has been over a week now and cant even stand the smell of them it makes me want to gag. I feel great and I do not think I will ever smoke again.
Find help in God only prayer and willpower can help you overcome an addiction. Remember this if you are a Believer in God and Satan. It is addictions that Satan uses to control and screw up our lives he uses mind control to get us to do things we know are wrong that lead us down a path to personal ruin. I think you need to consider giving it up completely you have a serious addiction to alcohol and just cutting back will not help you in the long run. You have lost you wife and are now single and alone find a church and find god. Talk to him and ask for his help to overcome this burden.
God Bless.
2007-06-05 09:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I got sober almost 9 years ago in AA, so I can certainly recommend that. The other stuff will work out if you can stop killing yourself with the booze.
Oh, by the way AA is not BS nor is it a religious front. If it was BS, I wouldn't be sober, and if it was a religious front, I wouldn't be in it, because I am not religious at all!
2007-06-05 12:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first think that the drinking is not the problem i drink and people are so quick to blame it on the drinking i am not in denial and furthermore i tested out my philosophy..i remained sober while pretending to drink just to prove that my actions were from me and not the alcohol the so if you drink to forget that she left "DONT"you will only remember more ..now there are allot of ways to move on ..and just to remind you and to make a point your wife didnt just surprise you and left ,,she probably had been trying to get your attention and tell you something ,well shes gone and good ridance but back to you "join a support group or start a poker night at your place get involved with people that you know and do fun things i really dont think you miss your wife i think you just need to get motivated....good luck
2007-06-05 10:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohlism is a disease that needs to be taken care of. the guy has to certainly need to quit however. it incredibly is finished with the aid of rehab accompanied by utilising AA conferences something of his life. provided that he's a Diabetic and has already lost a leg, the probabilities of him having extra extreme scientific problems will develop with each and every day that he beverages. Smoking is likewise a perpetrator. he's not thinking approximately everybody else. His disease controls his behaviors, he's not intentionally attempting to harm you or everybody else. you ought to rally including different contributors of your loved ones and artwork on an intervention. in the journey that your uncle is going to proceed to exist, then he needs help. He won't be able to do it on his very own.
2017-01-10 14:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to change people,places and things. First you are drinking for a reason. Deal with the situation instead of drinking your sorrows. i know that you just got divorce but that is not your fault. Her lost. Keep yourself busy. you don't want to be someone that is going to cheat on you do you? Then get yourself together and don't let her get the best of you.Good luck..
2007-06-05 09:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by vivi010571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i did instead of aa is keeping a glass of water, koolaid , juice etc. in hands at all times. i would constanly drink it to go through the motions of drinking alcohol. next if i would get a bad urge i would take off walking and keep walking until i wore myself out. it takes time and the want to quit or at least cut drinking i half. i did it na dit worked.
2007-06-05 10:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by isabellekateystar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋