Well I have been seperated from my husband for while and was hoping to work things out and he was telling me this seperation was temporary,he is in the milatary and is stationed at his base,while I have been staying with family,well he told me I should stay with them to save money,Well little did I know he wanted to save that money for a divorce and had been planning this for months,Today he sent me a text pic of the divorce papers, he is saying he owes me nothing at all finacially,I am still stung and in shock at his cruel behavior,oh yea he also included with the divorce pics a message about how much hotter his girl friend is than me,My question is what can I do about this now,I am scared and do not know what to do,I tried to call his sergent but he was cold and basically told me he can't do anything about him wanting a divorce,also I do not have a job and no way to get around so I am stuck,any advice,info.Thanks
2007-06-05 10:07:45 · 10 answers · asked by kikidee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What a freakin loser!!!!!
This is best for you, believe me. Walk away and when you are ready to start dating again, you'll be in a better position to find a real man, with whom you can spend the rest of your life. Not some immature little boy.
Good luck!
2007-06-05 10:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by SmartAce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he did was cruel, selfish, and hurtful... but unfortunately, perfectly legal. He has the right to plan and prepare for divorce without informing you, and there's no law against infidelity. The sargeant is correct, it is none of his business or responsibility if one of his soldiers requests a divorce.
But that doesn't mean you just have to take it, or that you can't fight back. Depending on the state you live in, you may be entitled to community property (the joint assets of the married couple are equally divided in divorce; in others words, you'd get half of everything he has). If your state doesn't offer community property, you may still be entitled to alimony, so he'd have to give you some financial support while you look for a job.
Pick up the phone book and look up the pages for Divorce Lawyers. Most will you give a free initial consultation to discuss your case - you may want to meet with four or five lawyers before you find one that suits you. I'm pretty confident that most of them will be able to secure you some sort of financial support from your heartless ex.
Meanwhile, focus on the future. Start building plans to find a job and a place to live (preferably near your family, not his).
2007-06-05 10:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like youre not going to have much of a choice here except to answer his request and counter sue him for everything youre legally entitled to.Now he can say all he wants and unless you agree or sign anything from him the Judge will decide who gets what.Theres a real good chance youll get spousal support here. His Sgt was right in that there is nothing he can do about it,none of his business
2007-06-05 10:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to get a lawyer a.s.a.p. He actually did you A favor by sending you A picture. If they have not sent you papers then he really ended up helping you. The law is made up so that it's not one sided, you still have A chance to fight. Talk to your lawyer so you can see what he can do for you to protect yourself and get all you have coming. So chin up you have not lost yet.I'm also sure that your not the only one this has happened to, find out if there is A group of ex-wife's of men in the military to talk to that have gone thru the same thing's you are. Fight, fight, fight.
2007-06-05 14:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by frank1631 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all call a lawyer. With out a lawyer you are screwed. Do not show weakness it is like blood in the water for a shark. You need to be a tough as nails. Look like you are enjoying pinning is A$$ to the floor and kicking him! Get a job. If you are living with your folks I am sure they will help you get on your feet.
2007-06-05 10:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by Willie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now that he's filed for divorce, unfortunately, there's nothing you can do about it. so get yourself a lawyer IMMEDIATELY. or you can always get legal aid. do some research online, or go to the court and get more info.
as for the msg about 'how much hotter his g/f is than you', that was uncalled for. isn't if funny how men think they can easily divorce us just because they hv someone?! and yes, i am speaking from personal experience. although my hubby has mentioned divorce several times before, coincidentally, he only pushed for it now that he found someone new.
2007-06-05 11:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something went wrong for him to want a separation. So you knew it could go either way. He has filed for divorce. And you are with your family. Its time to support yourself now. Get a job and grow up. You shouldnt depend on a man for anything.
2007-06-05 10:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You've been dumped.
Get ahold of as much money that you can, empty the bank accounts, and get a lawyer.
2007-06-05 10:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter what your intitled to half. keep the mail and get a lawyer. Sounds like he was an officer but not a gentleman....
2007-06-05 10:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Louie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the text and get a lawyer...if he was the only one working he owes you something.
2007-06-05 10:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋