Marriage & Divorce - 3 June 2007

My partner and I.. well we plan on getting married. There was no formal proposal or antyhing but it was just a given sort of thing that we are ending up together.
Last night He was talking to his little brother who is overseas whom i havent met. He mentioned that "when we get married, he is going to be my best man." the said something a bout "see im saying that as a given, thats how much faith I have in us"

we are madly in love but Im kinda confused as so where this puts us in our relationship. How long do you think there will be between now, and a formal prososal - if there will be at all? Just any sorta opinions lol would be nice. Im just curious is all :)

2007-06-03 23:40:10 · 7 answers · asked by KS 4

2007-06-03 23:35:07 · 18 answers · asked by Pete N 2

2007-06-03 23:33:21 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have lost interest in sex or perhaps I simply no longer fancy my husband!!! Anyone else has this problem? We have 2 small kids and are happy otherwise but I simply have no interest in sex with him. Is this a sign that the relationship is over? Is there a remedy to this? I do not wish to leave him but would prefer to try and find a solution... Please do not send me any useless replies. This is a serious matter and I am in need of advice! Thanks

2007-06-03 23:24:58 · 46 answers · asked by Stephanie C 3

2007-06-03 23:24:29 · 7 answers · asked by Shelly V 1

my husband im happy with that but family not what should i do?i"d rather it came and went without a fuss,,i dont want to broadcast the fact im 40!!!!!!

2007-06-03 23:03:18 · 13 answers · asked by gemini40 1

It has been 3 yrs since we got married. I am a field worker & lived most of my time away from my home. she lives with her friend working as if it is her own home. now I am home to live with her but b/se of our repeated fights she finally decides a divorce. I remember that I have beaten her twice. She is saying 'I can't believe you b/se you appologized many times & you are on the same route'. I tried to convince her but she refused. I heard that also she is sick of a headache. I don't even want her friend to live with us b/se she becomes our barrier. what i feel now is that I need my wife but she doesn't believe me. And I love to make love to her twice atleast once a day but she lost interest on it b/se she says I am running for sex than love. I really need help.

2007-06-03 23:00:45 · 10 answers · asked by Chelefe 1

My dad has just decided to leave my mum, she is 53 and works part time due to health problems, he was in full time work and they rented privatley as they lost their home many years ago.
The problem now is my mum (on her part time wage) cannot afford rented property, not even a one bed room, she will of course look for full time work but this wont happen over night, I live too far away for her to stay with me and do not have the money to help her out., We are also not in a position to get a loan etc. She is on the waiting list for the council but this again wont come up over night - what can she do? is their any help she can get?
Its a terribley sad situation so only serious answers please - I really need some advice.
Thanks

2007-06-03 22:57:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-03 22:49:12 · 13 answers · asked by Shelly V 1

we have a joint mortgage, 3 young children and I don't work, what are my rights. He wants to sell the house, where are me and the kids supposed to go?

2007-06-03 22:46:51 · 23 answers · asked by tassintwo 3

My wife left me Dec. and took our 5 kids with her. We must be separated for a year before we can get divorced in Aust. In Feb. she met an American man online, and is planning on going to America in Aug. to sleep with him. She has no set plans for after then; just says that she wants to spend the rest of her life with him. I am seeing a psychologist who tells me that I should continue to treat her lovingly, without forcing her to make any decisions. I am to avoid trying to stop her, but also am not supposed to help her fulfill her plan by watching the kids while she is gone. (we currently have shared care; week on, week off) I have told her that I love her, and will continue to love her no matter what she does to hurt me. The psychologist believes this is the best approach. Other women that I talk to tell me that this is wrong. They say I am giving her a free ride to have an affair; and that she's using me. I'd like to tell her to 'f' off, but don't wanna lose her forever. help our kids

2007-06-03 22:43:46 · 11 answers · asked by bg4gb 4

i have asked so many questions in the last week that most of you probably know my situation. but here it is in brief for those of you that don't.
I have recently split from nearly a 10yr relationship. we have a daughter of 2.Me and my daughter are currently living with my pearents (hoping to get my own place in 2 wks) which is fine until the days when my pearents goes to work and my ex has our daughter over night i wake up and feel lost not knowing what to do. i have plenty of ideas housework, wash the car etc but cant get the enthusasium to acctually do it. my mind just gets to thinking about the split the future and everything else in between. so then i start feeling depressed thinking this it my future and how crap its going to be evan thou i know its not yesterday i was fine and happy and positive its the days on my own does it become easier? will i get used to it? does anyone have any tips ?

2007-06-03 22:25:03 · 10 answers · asked by kitty4 2

2007-06-03 22:19:17 · 14 answers · asked by five eyes 1

I am due to do my ,driving test soon but my hubby says i cant drive his car when i pass. Do you think he is being unfair? Tell me what you think please.

2007-06-03 21:52:59 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

Married for 2 years. Husband never wanted or wants sex. He is such a kind, peaceful man and loving, but he doesn't hug me, kiss me, touch me or wants sex. Whenever we talk about it, he says I'm thinking about everything else and I'm so worried. So sex is the last thing in my mind. But I love you very much.

From the day one of our marriage, we have been very broke, between jobs, never enough money. So he says he is thinking about money all the time. and also his parents are very old (65 yrs), and he is always worried about their health.

He doesn't believe in councling, so that option is closed to us. I have a feeling that this problem may continue to exist for the rest of our life as problems never go away.

I don't know if I should continue to wait and struggle to see maybe he changes when the life is totally settled down which may never takes place, continue living like flatmates,,,,

Or I shall break the holiness bonding of marriage to find passion elsewhere?

2007-06-03 21:32:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

In every single pass relationship I have never been the one to brake it off and leave.I was always left being in love with them.I see that most people change how they feel toward one another after they start to have a lot of problems. Lot's of arguing ,saying and doing bad things to each other.I can have a hundred arguments, be treated badly.And my loyalty,devotion and love will not falter a bit.I now no why. I have this mothering thing about me. That if you do something wrong I don't get mad I try to teach you what's right.So therefor like a mother does I forgive with unconditional love.And my love is never effected I've pride myself for being a really understanding person.But let's face it . I'm really a fool.My husband of five years has been treating me really badly. Doing everything to me he could think of that makes me mad.Because he doesn't really want to be married to me any more.Am I the only fool out there ?

2007-06-03 21:28:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

how do you get over the embarrassment of going to the bathroom (ya know...go poop) while theyre around?

2007-06-03 21:16:21 · 19 answers · asked by Jew_Juice 4

I know my husband loves me; he tells me all the time that I'm beautiful and that he likes me for me. But tonight before bed he very gingerly tried to tell me that:

1) he doesn't know how to bring up this topic without it going bad (because every time we have these talks I can't help but get upset, hurt and self-conscious)

2) he would really love it if I could lose a few pounds before our vacation... and wishes I'd be more self-motivated to do so instead of relying on him to make us exercise.

I know he has the best intentions -- and I am totally willing to try harder and to do it for him because I do love him -- but I can't help but feel hurt! Because it just tells me that when he looks at me, he's thinking, "sigh, I wish she'd lose weight." It makes me want to hide away and not be vulnerable for him anymore.

Husbands - how do you wish your wife would react? Wives - what do you say to this?? How can I react in an receptive way?

Right now I'm just not talking to him...

2007-06-03 20:58:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

a. 5
b. 10.
c. 100
d. all of the above
e. a and c only

2007-06-03 20:10:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm the responsible type and wouln't want some chick infecting me with her virus.

2007-06-03 19:58:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Every time my husband and I get into any kind of disagreement it always turns into a fight. He packs up and leave and always goes to his brothers house.Bad mouths me really badly.Because he seems to need to have people feel sorry for him. He does things like yell at me really loud if I say something he doesn't like in front my grandchildren, or his son who visits us.If I say please don't yell the kids are here . He'll yell even more.And when I tell him to stop he starts saying terrible things like,he needs know whats going on,he needs to know that we're going to get a divorce.Or this. One day we were at his sons house and were in an disagreement I was keeping it low.We were discussing something about finances.
and how he broke a promise. He yells" At least I wasn't spending money on drugs.( I'm a recovering addict )I tell him to keep it down his son is down stares. He say really loud, he needs to know whats going on,that you were a drug addict.What kind of behavior is this ?

2007-06-03 19:48:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've had this argument b4 but my husband obviously has a short memory. I've just had a baby & at home on maternity leave & my husband has been home on parental leave & using a lot of the time to do renovations around the home. I have NO problem with any of that as he's doing a wonderful job around the house & I'm taking care of the baby & inside the home. I always comment about what a great job he's doing & how the latest improvement looks great, however, he undervalues the work I do inside the home & this has caused me to go on strike again. I did this a few months ago and he seemed to get the picture after about a week. The house was disgusting without me keeping it tidy & there was no food in the house or clean clothes. He's obviously got a short memory because here we go again. Yep, I'm on strike again as I really need him to understand that my work inside the home is what I'm good at & all the handyman stuff he's good at and enjoys and together we make a great team. Ideas?

2007-06-03 19:44:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 23, male, in love to someone. Can I now marry? I run my family's business and got a nice income.

2007-06-03 19:30:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-03 19:13:05 · 14 answers · asked by unratedgirl 1

"Danny" is five years old and lives with my in-laws. "Danny's" mom and my husband were previously married, however, "Danny" is not my husband's son. My husband is the only father "danny" has ever known. The situation is quite different. When "danny" and my husband divoreced "danny" stayed at my in-laws and has lived with them ever since then. My husband and I are very active in his life and I care for him as if he were my own. It breaks my heart that his real mother only sees him when she has time for him...she does not visit his school, take him to school or pick him up, does not call to speak with him, doesn't buy his clothes, shoes, school supplies, nothing. She's been picking him up on weeks lately, but as always in short lived. She's not abusive and not completely neglectful. I just don't understand why she doesn't let my husband or his parents adopt him. My husband and I would be more than glad to have him, but "danny's" mom would not ever let it happen. What can I do?

2007-06-03 19:08:08 · 15 answers · asked by jonandjenmac 1

2007-06-03 19:01:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-03 19:00:41 · 15 answers · asked by havah 2

My husband constantly puts his family above me and I'm sick and tired of it. It's like I don't exsist. He doesn't seem to understand that I go above everyone, how can I let him know that without a fight. I've tried speaking to him and it doesn't work. Any suggestions?

2007-06-03 18:57:03 · 14 answers · asked by Lily 2

I put my husband out and he left with the rent money and now I am going to get kicked out our house. I kicked him out because he was abusive but should I ask him for the money. I hate having to suck up to him

2007-06-03 18:56:10 · 7 answers · asked by shelly 1

my husband use to wnt me all the time but lately he wont touch me barely kisseses me and doesnt say i love you that much i brought it up to him that i wanted him he just says he is tired or has things on his mind he sends me on errons then he leaves and is gone when i get home what can be going on

2007-06-03 18:53:15 · 21 answers · asked by renee b 1