i'm 16 wanting to get marry to 23 do i have to have both of my parents to sign or is it one ok?

Answer 1

If you love him and he loves you , then wait, you are going to end up having this man sent to jail. Yes your parents could sign depending in what state you live in but why would you want to? you are a young lady not a woman, and something is wrong with this picture, a grown man with a teenager, nothing good can come of this, why the rush, why cant you wait a couple of years, a piece of paper wont keep you together, make or break your love or relationship, why not wait?

Answer 2

o my gosh... i can't tell you how much i am concerned. 13 years ago i was in your shoes... i was 15 and the guy that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with was 22. both of my parents had to sign for me to marry and looking back now i can't imagine what they were thinking. i was a child and he was a grown man. well i married him and 2 months later i was pregnant. he made me so many promises and i felt so safe with him. by the time i was 16 i had a baby boy and i was all alone... broken promises and empty dreams. i know that nothing i am going to say will change your mind because 13 years no one could change mine. you think that you are in love and he is going to provide for you, keep you safe, and you are going to just be happy being his wife. and also let me guess you also can't wait to have a baby with him. it is okay to want these things in your life and it perfectly normal, but why now. you have the rest of your life ahead of you and if you do this kiss your own future goodbye. you will spend the next few years alone taking care of a baby. and you will be alone... he will leave he is a grown man and he will soon realize that he doesn't want the responability of raising you into an adult. i really don't want to sound mean or cruel it's just that i know i have been there and right now you are thinking what do i know this guy that you are in love with is the best guy ever and he is nothing like this he would never leave you all alone because you have no doupt that he loves you as much as you love him. and what about school... let me tell you i promised my parents i wouldn't quit and he even told them that he would make sure that i finished school. well i did quit i never went to highschool and i didn't even get a ged untill i was 20. you will have to work fast food just to put diapers on your baby. and child support what a laugh if you get any at all you will have to fight it in court every other month as he will quit job after job running from it untill he gets a cash job that you can't touch... i had to live in goverment housing for the first year of my son's life drawing welfare and that is not something that i am proud of. and not to mention all the other loosers that you will end up letting into your life just trying to find your child a daddy. i am now 29 years old married with 3 children and it has been a long hard road to get my life in order and have some stability. if i even thought that a grown person in their 20's was looking at my 15 or 16 year old child he or she would be in jail or have a bullet in the head... please really think about this... hopefully your parents are smarter than mine were and will never let you go through with this.

Answer 3

Being a parent of a teen, you may not want thear this. Marrying a 23 year old is a bad idea. You need to finish school first. Go to college. That way if your marriage doesnt work then you have something to fall back on. It was tuff for me having a baby at 18, right out of high school I didnt go to college with my friends and had to wait 10 years later to start college. My baby came first.

the answer to your question, you need both parents to sign off to emancipate you. It is not permission to get married, it is permission to be an adult too...

Answer 4

Your question raises many issues, the least important of which is finding out how you can do an end run around your parents and get married against their counsel.

The law around parental consent is about a lot more than just creating an obstacle for a creative-thinking 16 year old girl. Having said that, I will spare you the lecture you doubtless anticipate about a making a mistake. You would only answer "but we love each other!", as if that would solve the issue. Love is an essential ingredient in any happy marriage, but it is not enough in and of itself. I have no doubt that you think you love this guy, and maybe he even loves you, but love by itself is a long way short of what is required for a lifelong relationship to work. I'm old-fashioned enough, and Christian enough, to say that nobody has any business getting married UNLESS there is at least an initial intention for it to last a lifetime.

I do not mean this in the least bit disrespectfully, but the fact remains that a typical 16 yr old is not at the same maturity level as a typical 23 yr old. There is a distinct possibility that your fiance is not as mature as you think. If he were, he would not be looking at a 16 yr old. How good will he be at the responsiblity of maybe working at a job he hates because a baby is hungry, and going to work every day until something better comes along? Have you thought about that? Have you asked him?

Will he love you and respect when you want to better yourself, maybe by staying in school to get a well-paid or skilled or professional job?

Does he want to hang out with your sixteen year old friends? If not, you will be cut off from them. If he does, I would look very suspiciously at any 23 yr old who prefers the company of 16yr teens to those his own age.

If your fiance has the maturity level of a 23 yr old, your marriage is doomed. You might think you have that same maturity level, but you don't. Soon or later, he will tire of your relative immaturity. Sorry, but it's true.

If your fiance doesn't have the maturity level of a 23 yr old, your marriage is doomed in that case also.

No doubt many people will answer your question to advise you not to marry this guy--at least not yet. Why don't you wait for a few years, and see what it looks like then/ You two could still be bf/gf in the meantime.

I'm not even talking about all the fun and the travel and the carefree youth that you will surrender by getting married to young--to anybody.

I don't give advice. I point out options. Your options are to find out the hard way or the easy way that marriage at this point is doomed.

The easy way is to listen to your mum and your dad and the other answerers and me, and step away from the idea of marriage at this point.

The hard way to find out is a few years from now--a baby or two and a divorce and a wasted youth later.

There is another possibility that I should at least mention. You know, many pimps lure young girls into prostitution by aiming at a young girl with low self-esteem, and flattering them with "love", gifts, and promises of marriage.

Finally, how long have you known this guy, and have you introduced him to your parents? If he makes excuses and finds reasons not to meet them, head for the hills! If he is evasive about his background or income source, head for the hills!

Hell, head for the hills anyway!

Answer 5

You are not making a right choice, girl. You'll be happier if you get married when you become a woman. You are still a teenager. You should enjoy your golden years before you jump into a whole different life. Marriage is something you want to keep forever and it's just not a piece of marriage paper. Take it easy. Enjoy your teenage life now.

Answer 6

you don't. you take a step back and realize that you've got to grow up a little before you get married. If you're planning on spending your lives together, what does it matter if you get married now, or in a couple of years???

if you're really in love, then it can wait.

Answer 7

Slow down! You're too young. Wait and see if you still want to get married when you turn 18. If you do, then do it.

Answer 8

Depends where you live. Check your state (if in the USA) by following link.
http://www.usmarriagelaws.com/

Concerning statutory rape...please follow link to establish age of consent. 36 states the age of consent is 16 (USA only) http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm

Answer 9

Please think about it. I got engaged at age 17 and got married at age 18 and its not that I regret it but I wish I wouldve waited more. Life is too short and marriage isn't what it seems. It's very very hard, it takes a lot of work and patience. Please please pleeeaaasseeeee think about it, its a huge step to take. You're very young to get married. I can't help but tell you to please really think about it.

Answer 10

I HAVE A 16 YR OLD DAUGHTER ALSO...THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL AS HER MOTHER (AND HER FATHER WOULDN'T EITHER) LET HER DATE A 23 YR OLD LET ALONE MARRY THEM. YOU HAVE ALREADY HEARD MANY SAY YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG...SWEETHEART YOU ARE STILL JUST A BABY!! WAIT WAIT WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!