How can I hide my non-virgin status from my husband after marriage????

Answer 1

Don't allow him to do sex with you till the day you start your monthly menstrual period, the day it start let him do it. He'll won't come to know if blood is because of rupturing of your hymen or because of your monthly periods. This way you will be able to hide your non-virgin status.

Answer 2

I agree with that person who said that the past should remain that way. It's very idealistic to tell ur partners everything and hope they'll be ok with it. But especially in India, guys as well as girls, don't really want a mate who's had experience even if they have, and even if all is well, one will always wonder if they're good enough for their partner since they weren't the only one who was had. U might want to know about each other's pasts, and think it's all gonna be fine, but there will be times, that those thoughts will come into ur mind and they might be used against u or ur spouse. That's just a road to insecurities that never need be started. U need not know about ur spouses sexual past, and he need not know about urs. Just concentrate on the future u two want with each other. Besides, I think now a days, most Indian men assume that a girl has had atleast a bf, even if no sex happened, and most girls assume their men have had relations atleast once before marriage. But those are just assumptions, no need to make them into facts by admitting things that could cause harm later.

Answer 3

Why would you be marrying someone you can't tell the truth to? This is the question you should be asking us.
Why are you hiding the fact you are not a virgin? Is this so important to your husband to be? If he really loves you this should not be an issue. My advice is, don't hide it....this may cause problems afterwards, honesty issues, etc. How can you have a happy marriage after he finds out you have lied to him from the beginning?

Answer 4

I'm assuming that you're from another country and would be killed or badly ostracized if you told the truth. By any chance, do you have a venerial disease? That would be hard to explain, especially if you are suppose to be a virgin. If you decide to deceive this man and pretend you are a virgin, then bad Karma will probably come upon you and you will end up in divorce or your husband will be unfaithful to you and treat you badly. You could have better Karma if you tell your fiance that you do not wish to marry him because you are afraid to be honest with him. If he asks why, then tell him the truth. If he truly loves you, he will marry you. Otherwise, you will have betrayed him and bad things will happen to you.

Answer 5

Well I can understand this dilemma u r going through...
Though it is very unfortunate that u have to hide it from him.... Breaking of the hymen is a very normal thing so u can tell him that it got broke during any physical activity....
Well these days there are sugeries to have ur virginity physically back.
Pls visit this link:
http://www.revirgination.net/

But if there is any chance of telling him the truth do that ...else u ll live with this burden all ur life..

good luck..

Answer 6

I hope you are an Indian. Where did you get the culture of premarital sex.Ok any way every body have their own secrets. though the either spouse have to be frank with each other, still there is some exceptions.It is not mandatory that the hymen should be in tact till marriages.Nowadays girls do all acts like that of man and there is every possibility of its tearing before the first course. So dont wory about it. The modern man will understand. if he doesnt than explain him.

Answer 7

You can go for a hymen reconstruction operation, with tightening of vaginal muscles. This is the best way out. You will never be asked anything. Another option is stop having sex, even masturbating till the day you are married, abstinence does help a bit to regain lost tightness. You can act as if you are getting pains on ur first night with your husband..... & try to make penetration difficult.

Answer 8

After a year you will be writing back about still loving your ex. and how you want out of the arranged marriage and can't stand his family who you live with.
Now is the time to reconsider because your not off to a good a start.

Answer 9

Give me a break the male double standards kill me. You were married before and he knew this prior. It should be a non issue or it should of been worked out prior to marriage. It kills me when muslim men have sex before marriage and it's ok because one day they decide they want to be religious and grow a beard. Then they judge others when obviously they should not. You did nothing wrong especially being a unknowing revert (anyway you were married). He was born a muslim and always knew what he was doing was wrong.

Answer 10

You can't- and shouldn't. It will come out eventually, and he'll know that your relationship is based on a lie.

I VERY highly suggest confessing this to him before you get married. I'm guessing that you two are religious, so maybe you should seek counseling from your pastor (or whomever is in charge) to help you through the rough spot.

It will be difficult, but believe me, it will be FAR more difficult if he finds out after you're already married.

Answer 11

The hymen of a women gets broken after having s** for the first time. Well physically he wont be able to verify it, but while having s** first time with him, you try to feel more shy and make your every organ grow a bit tight as it would have happened YOUR first time. Its simple, your attitude on the first night can save the truth of your being non-virgin.
But trust me, you should clearify him about your past, only then you would be able to lead a mentally-happy life.