Marriage & Divorce - 3 June 2007

I have a sister living with us. she helps us in all our home duties even cooking &cleaning. but he says I spent most of my time with her and didn't give him any attention. so she must leave. whenever we fight before we used to talk and finish by ourselves. currently as the fight arises he asks me whether i need a divorce or not. but i used to say no, why do you ask me this question rather we should talk and correct our mistakes. now i felt that it may be the solution & raised it. he have also beaten me three times & also had an accident on my teeth & hand. what i fear now is that he always appologizes but makes the same mistake & i hate to handle the same faults now & then. He also told me that I have wasted his time. so how can i maintain it? I am so much worried. for the past 2 yrs of our marriage we have fights. I haven't told this to my parents b/se i was feeling that i am protecting him & he also used to say not to tell them. this becomes a headache for them. what can i do?

2007-06-03 18:49:43 · 8 answers · asked by elsabeth a 1

He has had several "relationships" with women online. He is very romantic and charming. Women love that. Sometimes they send him cards and letters by snail mail. He has even received gifts from them in the mail. We have only been married 4 years. He used to be romantic and charming with me but not anymore and I don't know what happened. He tries to hide these women but I know he has had at least 3 relationships in the past year. What can I do?

2007-06-03 18:44:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

how can I really get to know how and or even who I am as aperson , I dont even know if I like myself !

2007-06-03 17:59:50 · 6 answers · asked by deeromper 2

My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. We split up about 9 months mainly due to communication issues. We just got back together. While we were split up we were both seeing other people. Now on top of the communication problem we also have a trust issue. Please help!

2007-06-03 17:49:51 · 23 answers · asked by amanda c 2

but she don't know swiming. Where she can wear two piece without doing swiming

2007-06-03 17:38:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-03 17:20:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband had an affair and is still seeing this woman who after i told her found out he was married and we lived together and we have 3 kids together (not his biological kids but he has raised them he is their daddy and they are his kids) and he moved out but still saw the kids and we even were spending time together, i was hoping to try to salvage our marriage but she got nosey and got his password and read some emails i sent him and found out he was still in our lives but she still wants him and since she doesn't trust him she told him he can't see his kids because that means seeing me. he told me he misses them and they cry for him is there any way this can work out? our kids are suffering he does come see them a few days a week but its a secret and they deserve better than that. any suggestions please its painful for all of us

2007-06-03 17:15:44 · 20 answers · asked by lily 2

wind up getting togheter again in 5 years and both gotten fatter, uglier, and older, do u think ti would change thier feelings for each other when they meet?

2007-06-03 16:15:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-03 16:09:25 · 40 answers · asked by Dave 1

2007-06-03 16:05:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

You are just no longer attracted to your wife? I cheated on my wife, we seperated and we decided to get back together, but I have realized I am just no longer attracted to her. She has gained alot of weight after being pregnant with our second child (who passed away) and she has not made any attempt to lose weight. She does not keep her hair fixed all the time and sometimes she just lays around the house in sweatpants. I made a vow to stay with her forever and I want to do that, but I can not make love to her. Touching her and seeing her nude makes me sick to my stomach.

What should I do?

She weighs like 250#, she never wears makeup unless we go to church, she doesn't shave her legs on a regular basis. I love her as a person but how can I go the rest of my life without having my physical needs met?

2007-06-03 16:02:11 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is 23 and has gained about 40lbs since we started dating 6 years ago. She's 5'3 and has gone from 140lbs to 180lbs. I love it. Call me weird, but the weight and wouldn't mind (actually, would like) if she gained more.

Obviously this could be as destructive as a husband telling his wife he'd like to see her lose weight... if not more so. I don't ever bring up her weight, but she knows what I like. We have talked about it in the past and she gets the hint when we make love and I kiss her forming double chin and play with her stomach.

I've noticed her trying to diet every few months, but she never makes much progress. She usually quits after a month or two. Obviously this doesn't bother me that much with my taste, but I feel a bit guilty.

Would you ladies have a tough time losing weight if you knew your significant other actually loved it? Should I do anything to try to help her lose, if that's what she wants? Or should I not even bring it up? Just let things lie?

2007-06-03 15:48:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

It would be ok if he played an hour or two a day, but he plays about 5-6 hours after work and about 10-15 hours on the weekend. I am getting tired of talking to the back of his head!

2007-06-03 15:45:04 · 19 answers · asked by TBECK 4

A newly wed husband doing nude webcam chatting, asking them to meet for fun. He admits in chats he is sleeping around. He has job stability issues. waiting for immigration to come to US.
He is saying what he wrote about sleeping around in chats is just a fantasy, false and fake, and that he is committed. Should he be believed?
He describes the sleeping encounters in detail in the chats. so, could it be a fantasy?

btw, Divorce papers are filed.
Wife is disturbed as he is blaming her and giving excuses that he did in frustration plus there is no apology from him.

Would you give him a chance and still save the marriage?
He is waiting for immigration.

2007-06-03 15:38:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im recently divorced my exwife basically lies about everything where how do you find a faithfull women besides church.... she cheated and would lie about everything and I mean everything...where do i find a good woman now that my preception is there all sluts???and I know their all not

2007-06-03 15:26:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-03 15:19:34 · 11 answers · asked by Diane L 1

I read some of my wife's e-mails and I really regret doing that now.

First of all I know I'm a scumbag for violating her privacy. I've been having some trust issues and I guess I thought I would go looking for proof. Found none, except an e-mail folder "MIML" possibly abbreviated for "Men in my life" because they seemed to be e-mails from ex-lovers and guys she dated before. These e-mails were dated before we got together. E-mails from one particular guy stuck out because they were going back and forth about the sex they were going to have and that they eventually had. He even sent a pic of his penis in one, in the e-mails she had called him BD and after seeing the pic I found out why.

I know this happened way before us and I have no reason to mistrust my wife anymore but I'm trying to get what I read and saw out of my head but I'm meeting with serious difficulty.
I know I'm a jerk and I deserve this but please somebody tell me what I can do to get over this!!

2007-06-03 15:12:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are the biggest concerns in a Mothers eye when her daughter is in a relationship? A relationship that is serious and wanting to get married...

2007-06-03 14:11:26 · 11 answers · asked by Bubba 1

2007-06-03 14:10:57 · 9 answers · asked by dizzyfish118 2

Ive been married for only 4 monthes and want to find out how i get freed without going through a whole divorce process

2007-06-03 14:02:05 · 10 answers · asked by curious 1

Is it Wrong to remarry after the Death of a wife or Husband

2007-06-03 13:33:25 · 39 answers · asked by Casey 1

2007-06-03 13:31:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you've fallen out of love with your spouse, is that a just reason to get divorced? After all... God will forgive. True or false? Would God really want you to live your life unhappy? I believe all marriages can be saved... but I also believe you have to really want to save them. What if your heart's just not there anymore?

2007-06-03 13:29:50 · 10 answers · asked by Cali654 1

I have a 17 year old daughter. She does not want to visit her father in CT on weekends anymore. She does care for her father but she has so much going on at her home in Mass now that it's difficult to miss work when she mostly works on the weekends.

2007-06-03 13:29:03 · 20 answers · asked by Sharon C 1

Why is it the only guy who loves me, I don't love them. And the people I love don't love me :-( I'll never understand it

2007-06-03 13:12:08 · 19 answers · asked by Vixx 2

I have been living with a guy that I really love for 3 years and we have known each other for 6 years. He says he loves me all the time and that he wants to get married. He is a great guy in a lot of ways. But he hasn't gotten me a ring or made any plans with me. He makes excusses about not having enough money. I need to know how long I should wait or how do I know if hes not really serious.

2007-06-03 12:56:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-03 12:55:41 · 40 answers · asked by B d 2

2007-06-03 12:55:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Every one of my friends have gotten married. Now I never hear anything from them. I understand that priorities change when you tie the knot, but can they not find five minutes out of the day to at least call and say hello?

2007-06-03 12:53:47 · 11 answers · asked by posttk421 3

When things aren't going well, I often feel feelings of absolute hatred towards my spouse. I feel as though I hate everything to do with him. I have never felt this way before. When things are good I feel positive feelings but those times are becoming more and more scarce. Is this normal - can anyone help me?

2007-06-03 12:49:23 · 23 answers · asked by emmablue32 1