He has had several "relationships" with women online. He is very romantic and charming. Women love that. Sometimes they send him cards and letters by snail mail. He has even received gifts from them in the mail. We have only been married 4 years. He used to be romantic and charming with me but not anymore and I don't know what happened. He tries to hide these women but I know he has had at least 3 relationships in the past year. What can I do?
2007-06-03 18:44:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Emotional affairs are still affairs. It's your call on what you want to do with your relationship. But if he gives romantic attention away so easily, how can you be certain he hasn't been doing the same physically as well?
2007-06-03 18:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Koosher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Four years and infidelity already? Since you say he is no longer romantic with you, I think you need to consider the possibility (I'm sorry to say) that he may not love you anymore. But anyway, you should let him know that you know about his little secrets that were not so well kept.
1. If you are forgiving, then ask that he not continue this, and try to work things out.
2. If you don't tolerate his extramarital affairs, then get a divorce.
But also.. could it be that your marriage has lost its passion? He might be setting everything up to get you jealous because he wants you to want him again. If he were having secret affairs, I would hope he isn't stupid enough to have women send him stuff to your home address where you'd find it.
2007-06-03 18:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Chocolate_on_the_Moon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somehow he thinks that he can get away with this..you aren't going to put up too much of a fuss. If your Husband has to go online to have "relationships" with other women.. then obviously he isn't getting what he needs at home. (not blaming you for that by any means) Or,he is just a straight up jerk. Sit down with him and discuss the fact that what he is doing is very disrespectful not only to you but the marriage. If he refuses to stop having relations online.. then leave him. You are better off with out him. Never settle for less in your relationship. He should be putting forth his effort just like you are to have a happy and healthy marriage.
2007-06-03 18:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by Christine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him this is not gonna work! Tell him you know about all these other women. It might be "harmless" since it's online, but you don't know if he's meeting up with these women when you're not around. As long as he is keeping this, this is doing injustice to you and your marriage.
If he's not romantic anymore and is having online relationships, he might be in this because he likes the feeling of being in new relationships. You might want to spice up the relationship. Go to a marriage counselor. However, if you think this is not going to work between the two of you, divorce him. Don't let yourself be a doormat.
If you feel this is not going to work,
2007-06-03 18:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man jesse,from your other posts I can see how upset you are about this,does he know that your so hurt.What I think personally is that he is just curious not cheating.You stated that he is a pretty good guy,Im sure that he will get the hint now.Outside of the computer incident has he given you any reason not to trust him.Knowing what you know now can you look back and see any signs that he is having an affair.If not then he just screwed up,he was looking at other chicks.
2016-05-20 23:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is cheating on you? Even if he isn't have sexual relationships with these women. You don't state if he is or isnt', But he is CHEATING! He either needs to stop and you need get marriage therapy or you need to geat a divorce. No one, male or femail deserves to be cheated on. I am so sorry! I really hope things work out fo you!
There is nothing you can do to make this stop he as to want to! Don't let there be excuses, he married you and cheating isn't an option!
Good luck!
2007-06-03 18:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He is disrespecting you. If his internet ladies are more important than his wife then he can go and have that on his own. I am sure you did nothing to make him start having relationships with these women. He just wants to be a cheat. Good luck to you!
2007-06-03 19:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose to be his doormat or you can stand up for yourself. Tell him to quit the relationships and to go to counseling with you or else you walk out of that door. They are sending each other gifts! Secretly! Wow.
2007-06-03 19:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him......my husband was doing the same thing. I finally asked him if this woman was worth it. I gave my husband 1 hour to get rid of all his online wh%^es. I can't recomend that I did it because I had nothing left to lose. I just thank god it worked.
2007-06-03 18:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him that you consider this cheating, because he's taking time and energy away from your marriage. If he wants this marriage to continue, he needs to stop now.
If he doesn't, and doesn't straighten out at home, I'm sorry, but you'll have to consider divorce.
Just because he's not being physically intimate with these women, doesn't mean its still not cheating.
2007-06-03 18:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋