A newly wed husband doing nude webcam chatting, asking them to meet for fun. He admits in chats he is sleeping around. He has job stability issues. waiting for immigration to come to US.
He is saying what he wrote about sleeping around in chats is just a fantasy, false and fake, and that he is committed. Should he be believed?
He describes the sleeping encounters in detail in the chats. so, could it be a fantasy?
btw, Divorce papers are filed.
Wife is disturbed as he is blaming her and giving excuses that he did in frustration plus there is no apology from him.
Would you give him a chance and still save the marriage?
He is waiting for immigration.
2007-06-03 15:38:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
4 words... LIFE IS TOO SHORT!! The future only holds mountains of trust issues... not something worth dealing with. Leave or tell her to leave, whatever and screw the blame game. No actions ever deserve that type of reaction period.
2007-06-03 15:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save Marriage? Maybe. Believe him? No.
It sounds like he keeps a lot of secrets which means "too many". I wouldn't believe him at all & if there is any planning on saving the marriage I would be on guard until I had reason to trust this man again. Any person who blames another person for "THEIR" behavior is phoney & it's a way to keep the distressed person down right where they want you. Be careful or you could be dealing with his type for a long time. Do what's healing for you right now & as far as he goes, I would'nt even show signs for "hope" to him right now so he can understand what it's like to "not know" or to "believe" if there is hope or not. It's wrong what he is doing or your instincts would'nt tell you that something is wrong. Go with your gut because it will always tell you whats right.
2007-06-03 15:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by BG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on the computer and go to "On line infidelity" there is a lot of information about it there. What he is doing is infidelity. Even if he never actually touches them in real life. They always do try to blame their spouses, but they are the ones doing the bad behavior, so it doesn't make any sense how they can blame you. They are just trying to ease their guilty selfs by saying it is your fault they did it. BS. Read up on narcissistic personality disorders, exhibitionism. He can not be trusted and will break your heart. He has no respect for you at all or he would never be involved in such bad behavior. Cyber sex is adultery.
2007-06-03 15:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, without a doubt---save yourself for marriage. Your question is kinda a trick questions because you should wait for the right person to come along, and then marry. My wife and I saved ourselves for each other, and we have a super strong bond and marriage. We have been together for 10 years now and going strong. Trust me, it is so awesome being able to share that one experience with your spouse. That is what family and bonding is all about.
2016-04-01 00:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not communicating with you, you need to get him talking. yes I would consider it a form of cheating, its a common problem now a days. If you want to save the maiiage you need to get him talking, obviously there is something he is getting from the chats thats not what he gets from you...
This is hard to answer because we only see one side.
2007-06-03 16:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hell no i wouldn't believe him or try to save the marriage. i love the fact hat he is saying that he lies about cheating while he chats even though naked chatting on the internet is cheating. what a retard.
2007-06-03 15:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Get out and away and, maybe give a call to Immigration if he gets mean.
2007-06-03 15:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by isis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT the kind of guy America needs more of (unless he already has a job lined up in politics).
2007-06-03 15:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by Yesugi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Id continue with the divorce.
2007-06-03 15:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by I ? Colbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he should be in sex therapy. I don't think he deserves a chance until he sees a professional.
2007-06-03 15:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋