Wife's weight gain and dieting efforts?

Question

My wife is 23 and has gained about 40lbs since we started dating 6 years ago. She's 5'3 and has gone from 140lbs to 180lbs. I love it. Call me weird, but the weight and wouldn't mind (actually, would like) if she gained more.

Obviously this could be as destructive as a husband telling his wife he'd like to see her lose weight... if not more so. I don't ever bring up her weight, but she knows what I like. We have talked about it in the past and she gets the hint when we make love and I kiss her forming double chin and play with her stomach.

I've noticed her trying to diet every few months, but she never makes much progress. She usually quits after a month or two. Obviously this doesn't bother me that much with my taste, but I feel a bit guilty.

Would you ladies have a tough time losing weight if you knew your significant other actually loved it? Should I do anything to try to help her lose, if that's what she wants? Or should I not even bring it up? Just let things lie?

I guess another question--or perhaps clarification--is whether it is probable that my wife is going to have trouble losing weight because of my preference?

How would you ladies feel if you were in this situation? What implications would it have? How would you like for your husband to handle it?

Answer 1

Its harder to lose weight if the person you are with seems comfortable with the way you are. the typical reason for diets is insecurity with yourself or your partner. I think its sweet that you like her heavier though, you dont hear that often.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think that it is great that you accept her and even enjoy her as she is and dont dwell on the past. However yes you should support her in whatever it is she wants to do with her body. It is also great that you dont bring her weight up at all. Sometimes when a woman gains weight she feels less feminine despite your every effort to support and enjoy her gain. It is just a girl thing. I know it holds true for me and I am sure it does her too. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

lol. I was a little confused. When you were talking about kissing her forming double chin and playing with her stomach I thought maybe you were being sarcastic.....but apparently you are serious, lol.

It's great that you are okay with her chances. Struggling with weight is, sadly, something that all women are all too familiar with. I just keep thinking....you 'play' with her stomach when you are making love......that MIGHT make her feel a little self-consious.

I know when my husband is all rubbin on my spots that i'm insecure about I get all of these crazy thoughts like 'ew, is he noticing my nasty cottage cheese thighs' or whatever, lol. Chances are, he isn't bothered by it, because if he was, he'd stop.....but it is just something that tortures us women, lol. And having those thoughts during sex.....that would be awkward, lol.

Anywho, I would honestly say to just not say anything about her weight.....EVER. Of course, remind her that you think she's sexy, just help her feel confident! This is kinda sad, but a woman's confidence has pretty much EVERYTHING to do with what her man tells her. You tell her she's beautiful, you tell her she's sexy, and you mean it.....then she'll be extremely confident, and might not worry about her silly diets anymore!!

And if she isn't really sticking with her diets....then I wouldn't even worry about it. Sounds like everything is okay to me, lol.

Answer 5

I recently gave birth, so I'm still working to lose the pregnancy weight. My husband is the same as you - he says he's happy with my body even though it's bigger. Honestly, in the back of my mind, I think he must be joking. I don't know if it helps or hinders the weight loss efforts, though. SHE needs to be comfortable with her body, too. So support her if losing weight is important to her.

Answer 6

The important thing is health, yeah you may like the squishy wobble but you want her to be around for a while right? Don't think of weight think of health! Healthy does not have to be rake thin but 5'3 180 is not healthy!

Answer 7

Being over weight is very bad for one's health. Causes a lot of problems. Heart, lungs, joints all take a toll. Also shortens life span. Want her around for a while, take her for long walks, swimming, dancing. Don't mention weight though. Find low calorie receipts and ask her to prepare them for your meals.

Answer 8

Sorry dude, you can like em big if u want GL with that, but i wouldn't care if u left i would NEVER keep or gain more weight for you or the man on the moon!!!

Answer 9

How about if you don't say anything one way or another about her weight, and just let her be ? It's her body, let her decide at what weight she will or won't be. She has to decide at what weight she will be most comfortable and healthy. You should be loving her, no matter what her weight.