I have a sister living with us. she helps us in all our home duties even cooking &cleaning. but he says I spent most of my time with her and didn't give him any attention. so she must leave. whenever we fight before we used to talk and finish by ourselves. currently as the fight arises he asks me whether i need a divorce or not. but i used to say no, why do you ask me this question rather we should talk and correct our mistakes. now i felt that it may be the solution & raised it. he have also beaten me three times & also had an accident on my teeth & hand. what i fear now is that he always appologizes but makes the same mistake & i hate to handle the same faults now & then. He also told me that I have wasted his time. so how can i maintain it? I am so much worried. for the past 2 yrs of our marriage we have fights. I haven't told this to my parents b/se i was feeling that i am protecting him & he also used to say not to tell them. this becomes a headache for them. what can i do?
2007-06-03 18:49:43 · 8 answers · asked by elsabeth a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, abuse is grounds for a divorce. And if he wont hit you with your sister there, then I understand why you like having her so close. Your husband sounds like a POS, and I bet you can find someone better than what you have after you get him out of your life. So, talk with your parents. Let them help you leave him.
2007-06-03 18:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say stay in the relationship and work it out, up until the point I read that he has beaten you. After reading that I came to the thought that you need to leave him as soon as possible. There's no need for you to be in a relationship that gives you more headache, hurt, and pain, than pleasure. A relationship is suppose to be a joyful experience. Yeah, you're gonna have your hard times but it shouldn't be to the point where you constantly feel low and everyday is argument. You deserve better than that, better then him, and you deserve a better marriage. If you can't see that, then there's no helping you or the situation. And trust me everyone is going to say the same thing to you. You need to leave him, rebuild your self-esteem, and try to move on with your life. Because life is too short to be in a miserable relationship.
2007-06-04 02:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the abusive marriage/relationship. Don't wait until it gets so bad that you are injured for life or worse yet killed. There are hundreds of thousands of battered women...who waited hoping the situation would get better and not realizing that it was getting a little worse each time! Some are crippled, some never lived, but died at the hands of the man they loved. It's horrible and pathetic. Get some help and get out of harm's way!
2007-06-08 01:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by Gipper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DO NOT HAVE A MARRIAGE, YOU HAVE AN ABUSER AND HIS VICTIM. You need to plan to move with your sister in your own place. DO NOT TELL HIM. Do it as soon as possible, because the next time he beats you, there is no guarantee that you will get up.
Stop caring about him and his problems, unless you want to continue to be unhappy. NO ONE SHOULD TRY TO ISOLATE YOU FROM YOUR PARENTS. HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU...YOU ARE HIS ENABLER TO DO ALL HE DOES.
Sneak away, without warning him, and file for a divorce. Go to a Woman's Hospice for domestic violence, if you have one in your town. They will house you till you get on your feet. DON'T WAIT TILL HE BEATS YOU AGAIN. DO IT RIGHT AWAY.
ONLY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS. GO SEEK IT! WAKE UP TO LIFE!
2007-06-04 04:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is getting tired of having a permanant house guest. Last summer we had 3 friends of my step-kids living with us and It was like a circus here. Ask your sister if she can move back in with your parents. Tell her that you and your husband need some time to be alone. Also try marriage counseling.
2007-06-04 01:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a divorce. Never let any man hit you. Tell your parents so they can help you.
2007-06-04 01:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need a divorce you have to get one, if he is abusing
you that truly a ground to get out, that all that matter is your
safety, you should have been gone. he does not need you
he want to keep you in place so that he can do what he want
to emotionally physical, time to get out.
2007-06-04 01:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he beat you its definately time to get out and away from him no one deserves that kind of treatment.
2007-06-04 01:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by badd_eclipse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋