If you've fallen out of love with your spouse, is that a just reason to get divorced? After all... God will forgive. True or false? Would God really want you to live your life unhappy? I believe all marriages can be saved... but I also believe you have to really want to save them. What if your heart's just not there anymore?
2007-06-03 13:29:50 · 10 answers · asked by Cali654 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately falling out of love for your husband is not just cause for divorce. The bible says only in death and infidelity are grounds for divorce. However, God did make us being of choice but we must know that with our decisions comes consequences whether good or bad. God will always forgive but that does not mean that He will remove or keep us from experiencing the consequences of our decisions. And it is true ALL marriages can be saved but it takes two to want it. If your heart is no longer in it...well pray for direction and wait on the Lord and be sure your next step is lead by him. We all deserve happiness but by who's definition...ours or God's. One can find happiness and peace even in the midst of an unwanted marriage. Now if you are in an abusive relationship...by all means leave first and ask questins later. i certainly do not believe that God expects us to remain in an abusive relationship(in these days, that goes both ways). The truth of the matter is that women and families no longer have the covering of the man over us. A man must understand what that truly means ...to cover his wife and family...and it aint from a macho standpoint either. Everything must be in line with Gods will. When it isn't is when we experience problems. But one must ask herself..why is her heart not it? Look at it from both a male as well as a female perspective. How is the communication between you and your husband? What are his feelings or thoughts about you or your marriage? Once you get your answers then your next step is to decide what you are going to do about it ...stay or go....and that is the most difficult part b/c one side means closure but the other is a side that is unknown or experienced. Darn, sometimes i wish we could have our cake and eat it too....LOL
2007-06-04 16:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by divine diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same as you. I don't love my spouse either. I stop loving him years ago. Just stayed for financial reasons and the kids. They're grown now. After 20+ years I don't want to continue to be in a situation that makes me unhappy. Situations have happened that have made me not want to be in this marriage anymore. I've gone through a lot and survived it too. Because I know that there is a better life for me. Sometimes people come into our lives for a season. We may think it's for life but it very well may not be. For those who choose to say in unhealty relationships with no love, more power to them but I am seriously thinking divorce too. We have grown apart over the years. There's no point in being miserable. Marriages can be saved if both people want to save it and are committed to doing so. That's not what I want. I haven't love my husband in years. As a matter of fact we don't even say it anymore. No sense in lying to one another. I believe God will forgive. He does want us to have abundant life and be happy. If you've given all you can and you don't feel the same about your spouse anymore the best thing to do is get out. Again why be miserable trying to stay in it. I'm definitely ready for a change. I bet you are too.
The best if yet to come.
Peace and Love
2007-06-03 14:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by moogles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray, reflect and then confess to your husband. Don't waste your times or his. Sometimes when we confess our desire to end the relationship the answer is clear. For me, I have been married 16 years and I am 34 years old. At 1 time I thought I wanted out but when I took this thought / desire to my husband I realized I only wanted our relationship to change. That may not be your case but either way it will be clear though the discussion with him. If your marriage truly is at the end it is for the benefit of the both of your happiness. God will forgive and life goes on. I'll pray for you both.
2007-06-03 13:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by rsqer0517 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is more than unhappiness, but love is a commitment,yes God will forgive,and it is true He does want us happy,but with Christians ,divorce should never be an option,but to each, his or her own
2007-06-03 13:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by naughtyboi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For this to actually work as in your just unhappy you must be legally seperated for atleast one year in most countries before you can file for divorce. Unless you both want out then talk to a lawyer.
2007-06-03 13:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God wants you to be happy, but he also promised you trials and tribulations (let me know if you know anyone happy through these)!!!
Feelings change, spouses change, lives change, but you have to really believe in MARRIAGE and the vows you took, because those never change, no matter what your going through. I took my vows for GOD, not my spouse. This has allowed me to do everything possible to have a happy marriage, because it's God that I want to please.
We've been married for 18 years!!! and it hasn't been perfect. I love my husband very much, but it's not him I'm committed to, it's the MARRIAGE.
Hang in there.
2007-06-03 15:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There must have been something that fired you up enough to get married in the first place. What was that? Can you get back there and stoke up the embers? I'm not talking just about sex and romance; I'm talking about all the things that attracted you to him. Has he changed that much? Have you?
I'm with the others that suggest counseling first.
2007-06-03 14:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your spouse about the problems. see if he/she will go to counseling with you. if things dont get better i am thinking it is time for divorce. but i also think things do get stale and unless you work on your reationship it is going to fail
2007-06-03 14:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by mi_dad04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe all marriages can be saved, you obviously weren't married to my first husband.
2007-06-03 14:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unhappiness=Counselling
For better or worse...'til death do us part....
2007-06-03 13:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋