we have a joint mortgage, 3 young children and I don't work, what are my rights. He wants to sell the house, where are me and the kids supposed to go?
2007-06-03 22:46:51 · 23 answers · asked by tassintwo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't let him just think he could put you and HIS 3 children in this horrible situation. He can't. Who gives a s---t what he wants to do. These are his responsibilities as a father to also provide for his children.
Why does he want to split up? I can't answer in the "rights" department, but who the hell is he to think he wants to sell the house, take some money and run. HE CAN'T DO THAT! Don't ask him "where are you and kids suppose to go". TELL HIM, YOUR NOT GOING ANYWHERE! You are going to provide for your children in every way you know how and if he is going to be selfish and thinks he could take that away, he will pay for this in the long run.
Get strong. This is only for those children. I wish you all the luck.
2007-06-03 22:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not agree to move out - See a solicitor, you can get legal aid so don't delay. He has a responsibility to the children.
My friend was in the same situation and he had an option to move out and let her and the kids stay there until they are 16, or he could buy her out.
You will need to consider the future ie work etc, but try and secure the home first - the solicitor will be able to tell you the likely hood of you being forced to sell etc
Please try not to worry - you will feel much better after a chat with a solicitor
Good luck
2007-06-03 23:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the marriage is truly over then you need to go to the citizens advice straight away if you don't have the money for a lawyer then you can get legal aid with 3 young children you wont be out on the street but don't leave the family home, this all seems scary at the moment but the help is out there and you will come out of it a stronger person, if the house is in both names then your husband cannot sell it without you and you will be entitled to half so either way you will have some money for a new life, keep your chin up and get the help that you need
2007-06-03 23:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well as it is a joint mortgage - he can't sell - in fact you can make it damned difficult for it to be sold - you also have 3 kids - which he will have to contribute towards - so costing him a whole pile of dosh.
As you are the main carer - it is unlikely that you will be forced to sell immediately - the kids will come first and their needs will be taken into account - i.e. schooling etc. As they are happy that is another string to your bow -
If he decides to move out - you will be entitled to help by way of income support and possibly housing allowance and your council tax will be paid for you.
Whatever you do - DO NOT AGREE TO MOVE OUT and DO NOT agree to sell the house - verbally or otherwise.
Then see a solicitor - as you are not working you will be entitled to LEGAL AID - use it to your advantage.
Email me if you need any more guidance.
2007-06-03 22:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by jamand 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the same as everyone else, take the kids, scam him for as much as you can then live on welfare.
being serious though as its a joint mortgage one of you needs to buy the other out or sell and split the value.
can i also ask why folk are so quick to put blame with the man? we dont know all the circumstances.
i would suggest keep it amicable, no mud slinging or trying to financially ruin him. keep it fair if only for the sake of the children.
ask how you would feel if you wanted out of a relationship and were faced with losing the kids and everything else you have.
you dont stop loving your children when you fall out of love with a partner.
punishing a partner will only sour realtions with the children when they are old enough to hear and understand both sides of the argument.
His duty is to provide fairly for the children, your duty is to allow him to carry on a fatherly role and not take him to the cleaners financially just to get back at him.
good luck and i hope it works out for the best
2007-06-03 22:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cannot just throw you out of the house so do not worry about that. You can lodge a right to live at the prooperty with the Land Registry which will mean he cannot sell it without your say so. Then you need to speak to a solicitor and try and do this an amicably as possible for all your sakes.
2007-06-04 03:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever carried out something to make him do this...spending extremely some funds, not paying charges on time? If not...it form of sounds like your husband is an entire administration freak. he's have been given you stranded in China without job, pregnant and thoroughly based on him for each thing. you could communicate over with him and attempt to appreciate why he's doing this. You agreed to bypass to China with the information that he could assist you and he could honor besides the fact that contract the two certainly one of you made. If it would not paintings out...you ought to come to a decision a thank you to come again to the States. If he needs to be a factor of you and the toddler's life, he will hottail it out of there as immediately as achievable. make particular that he did not take your passport. And if he did not...lock it up someplace secure the place he can not get it.
2016-12-18 13:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get some legal advice.
2. Get a job.
3. Start saving.
4. Selling the house will put a large sum of money in your pocket if you all get a good deal, use that as a spring board to get back on your feet.
2007-06-03 23:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by zeta121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be able to stay in the house untill kids are all over 16,income support should help with mortgage payments( after 6 months) good luck and dont be intimidated into something you dont want
2007-06-04 02:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO! he wants to split up, then release him and be happy. Don't worry b'coz anything you have will be divided equally (50-50), or you might have more than that, for having children. Your children will still get a certain percentage out of the 50% share of your husband.
MOVE ON!!! BE HAPPY!!!
2007-06-04 00:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by dhel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋