2007-06-03 19:00:41 · 15 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you do is entirely up to what you want to do. Loving someone other than your husband is not necessarily bad, it depends entirely on what she did about loving this person. Loving from a distance without contact is one thing whereas having a full blown affair is something entirely different.
You cannot be responsible for her feelings or control them so the fact that she does not feel sorry or guilty may be just because she does not think that she has done anything bad.
Reality is that if you cannot agree on where these boundaries exist between what you both want and should both do it is probably better to seperate. You do need a common framework that you can both understand and agree. If to her a marriage is only a financial agreement but for you it is a sexual contract there will always be problems. If you can agree what the contract means and what the boundaries of behaviour are it can still work.
2007-06-03 19:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well more information than just the question would be helpful.
1) Was she having a sexual relationship with this married man?
2) How did you find out about the relationship?
3) Were your wife and you married at the time, or was this before your marriage?
If the answer to 1 is "yes" and the answer to 3 is "We were married" then the answer to YOUR question is: You get a divorce. If she's not sorry for what she did, then she's going to do it again. Kick her butt out, and salvage the rest of your life.
2007-06-04 02:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not make anyone be sorry. Plus why would you be sorry for loving someone. Even if he is happily married, love is love and one can not control there feelings only their actions. If she is married to you and is in love with someones else, then all you can do is leave her. There is nothing you can do to make her be sorry or not love someone.
Best of luck. if you want more of an answer you are going to need to explain more to us
2007-06-04 02:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask this before? Or was that someone else?
When you say "loved" do you mean that she had sex with him? Or that she had a crush on him? Were you with her at the time? If she had an affair with someone who was married, even if it was before you, AND she hasn't learned that's wrong, she may be more likely to cheat. If it was a crush, don't worry about it.
2007-06-04 02:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a divorce, she totally disrespect your marrigae vows. and as for the happily marry man , if he
was so happy he would not be with your wife. but you
need to pack her bags, and since she so in love with
this man , i would say you can have her.like yesterday
why you playing .
2007-06-04 02:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if she were sorry, would it change how you feel about her?
You cannot make people do ANYTHING, especially love you or forget an old love. If she loves you now, that is all that matters.
2007-06-04 03:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is not remorseful than there is not much u can do about it, if your not the one she loves, its no use to try and change what isn't, distance yourself, get out of the marriage, and move on, why create more heartache for yourself than u already have.
2007-06-04 07:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is right .
When she love a
happily married man ,
that's her husband,
it is you .
good luck....
2007-06-04 02:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jacky.- the "INDIAN". 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Push her off the Hoover Dam.
2007-06-04 02:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if a cheater does not feel grief about thep ain they caused then they are useless as a future mate.
2007-06-04 02:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋