I am due to do my ,driving test soon but my hubby says i cant drive his car when i pass. Do you think he is being unfair? Tell me what you think please.
2007-06-03 21:52:59 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think its very selfish of him.
My wife drives my car and I think its all down to trust.
Tell him to buy you a car seeing as he is so tight!!!.
Good luck with you driving test.
Just a thought, as you are married I am presuming that you bought his car jointly and was under the impression it was meant to be for the family?.
Point of interest, interesting to see how many men say no and women say yes, just noticed a pattern.
2007-06-03 21:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Tooly 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes he is definately being unfair!
If he is so worried about his car couldnt he just sit beside you while you drive for a while (somewhere quiet at first to get used to the feel of the car.) There is a big difference in driving a schools car to one without dual controls Im sure you would be glad of his company as well.
He would probably feel more confident then about you taking it out on your own
2007-06-03 22:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's being unfair but there are ways to get around him. Do you have a friend or realitve whose car you could borrow to take the test? You might be able to rent a car to take the test with, look into that. Also, more importantly, is this a way in which he's trying to control you? I took my driving test after we were married and my husband was my biggest supporter, he even bought me a car to practice and take the test with, then took me out to dinner to celebrate when I passed the test
2007-06-03 22:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you pass a drivers test does not make you a good driver. I dont know what kind of car he has, or if you have a car, but maybe you should talk about getting you an old reliable used car and when you get some experience maybe he will let you drive his.
2007-06-03 22:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Moose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being unfair and knocking your confidence at the same time.
Take one step at a time and pass your test then get your own car then he cannot comment on anything you do.
Men seem to think they are being humourous to talk like this- as though women cannot drive but it is not true. This only says he is putting you down in order to boost himself- so try not to let him get at you and prove him wrong- so on you are stronger than him :-)
Good luck with your test- passing will open up so many opportunities for you -not to mention the freedom- and in your own car who can stop you???????
2007-06-07 09:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mumofthree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical male... Not unfair necessarily, but frustrating.
But think about it... the car must be his most precious acquisition, the one thing he never shared with no one. There is a saying that women are bad drivers, no need to say what sayings are about women just starting driving!! You must have some compassion for him, he could not see his "baby" ruined by anyone!
So, save some money, get yourself a car and enjoy! Safe trips!
2007-06-05 13:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Michaela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn 't trust your driving ability. Or he might be concerned about the increase in his insurance premium. Often though putting a second driver on will lessen the cost Why not get yourself a little run around? My fella bought me a little suzuki alto off ebay for £200 and she is perfect for running around town in. Although to be fair he does let me drive his car too if i need to go long distances.
Perhaps if you suggest that he goes with you for the first few times of driving it u can prove you are a safe driver and can be trusted with his car.
Good luck with your test. x
2007-06-03 22:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on what his reason is for not letting you.
Try asking him, it may be that its a really big car and he feels that you wouldn't be comfortable driving it. Or maybe its a very expensive one, and not only would it bump his insurance up to have you driving it, but he would be worried about you crashing having only just passed your test.
If he is just being awkward, then make him buy you your own car so you don't have to drive his.
2007-06-03 21:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh Jenny, i ran my own driving school for 20 years, i had 12 instructors working for me, it was always a topic of conversation "my hubby won't let me drive" i wouldn't mind betting that he is quite possessive or protective over you, it is quite common that the man does not want the woman to have her freedom, her independance, the man loves to think that he is 'the man' of the family, i doubt if it has anything to do with his car, more to do with your freedom and independance, as a direct answer, yes, he is being unfair. good luck with your test and good luck with your husband.
2007-06-06 23:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hes not he just doesnt want his car wrecked. when i passed my test i bashed my car round and now with experiance i understand your hubby. ask him to get you a cheap run around so you can get experiance on the road on your own and maybe in a year he may let you drive his car.
2007-06-03 22:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋