2007-06-03 22:19:17 · 14 answers · asked by five eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went through that 2 years ago, and yeah it really hurts. I was in denial for about 5 months, and then I had to do something, so I moved out. Even after that I couldn't even bare the thought that she could be having an affair, but she was. Typically if one of the two are saying that he/she just "doesn't love the other anymore" that love that they once had has gone somewhere. And, usually it goes to another somebody. I know how much that sucks to hear but face up to it and prepare yourself for your kids, they will be just as hurt as you are ! You HAVE to be there for them. When you have secured their emotions then take some time to recover your self. Don't jump into another relationship. Your kids need all the time in the world to recover. Experts say 1-3 years on average ! Oh yeah, most importantly I got through it with Jesus Christ as my strength, and am now happily re married to the most beautiful wonderful woman in the world ! God bless and be strong .
2007-06-04 00:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jayson L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just HATE men who do things like this? Of course you won't forget it, and I don't think you should. He was an utter rat to spring this on you when he knows he is in no position to do anything about it. And even though you didn't have sex with him, he IS cheating on his wife and playing games with you, as well. He doesn't deserve you, dearie. You are a decent woman, and his behavior says he doesn't understand that at all - or worse, doesn't care. I wouldn't reply to his texts/calls/letters/emails, etc. I wouldn't ever communicate with him in any way. A lifetime of pain over one man is more than enough. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Good luck.
2016-05-20 23:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that... we all would like to think that our marriage will last forever... but unfortunately... sometimes they do come to an end for whatever reason. My advice to you would be to just pray for the strength to carry on... accept the fact that it is over and move on. There is life after a broken marriage... I know that it may be hard with children involved but you will still be in their lives. If you still want to work at it... then ask her what changed... and what can you do to alter the situation if anything. Good Luck!
2007-06-03 22:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your wife no longer loves you, have you asked her why the feelings have gone? if she really doesn't love you then there is not alot that you can do, you have two children and if the marriage is over then you have to make it easy on them, they would rather have two parents that get on but are apart than two parents together but fight all the time, so if your marriage is dead try and arrange the split amicably for the sake of your children.
2007-06-04 00:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids would be happier with a Mum & Dad who arent together but happy, than be with parents who are together for the sake of the kids and have them argue all the time.
Whatever happens, happend for a reason - your kids are the most important thing here.
Good Luck x
2007-06-03 22:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by MinibabeUK73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is saying she has o love for u, than u can't make her love u, best to distance yourself from her, and wait and see what happens, but if she doesn't change her tune, it is always best to get out of the relationship than to try to change someones mind, it always hurts when a marriage, especially with children comes to an end, u could ask her if she were willing to go to couples counseling with u before making any major decisions.
2007-06-04 00:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the crowd, my friend. Step up to the plate and be the best father you can be. You ain't gonna have a handle of this love stuff because there is no logic in it.
2007-06-03 22:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have thought about that before you got married and had kids hahaha now you pay the price.
2007-06-03 22:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are always asking themselves if they are still in love. They change their mind about it cause they are always thinking emotionally.
Make a decision to pursue or quit. Only you can decide if it is worth it.
2007-06-03 22:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then face up to it like a man and make a new future for yourself. If your wife has said it's over, then it is over.
2007-06-03 22:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by Robin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋