Can taking a break in your marriage ever end up back in "happily ever after"?
2007-06-05 09:53:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it can. My husband and I split for a few months. During that time he and I started to talk more about what is going wrong in our marriage and how to fix it. After all we do have two children together. However that is not the reason why we are still together. After realizing that it wasn't just his fault nor my fault but both of our faults. If we would have talked since day one we would have never split for those few months. He made the first move. Just like he did along time ago when we were dating. We act like high school lovers at time. Always on the phone when we can't see each other. Sending love text on our phone. We even try to find away to have some one watch our kids at least once or twice a month for date night.
So yes, it can lead back to fixing the marriage. However you both have to want the same thing. If he wants her and she wants him and are willing to move on and get pass the stupid meaningless fights and remember how much you truly mean to each other you should be fine.
A friend once told me"Never let your mind rule your heart!"
Which means, don't think about the what ifs, think about the here and now and the love of your life. Don't let your mind tell your heart your almost in love. Make your heart tell your mind that you ARE IN LOVE!
2007-06-05 10:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by kandyrain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine didn't, if you're taking a poll, but it all depends on the reason for the separation and how hard the couple wants to work at getting back together. The statistics say that 80% of couples separate for a short period of time through the duration of their marriage. With that being said, 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Does this answer your question? So, I'd say that approximately 30% get back together...
2007-06-05 10:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it can, but it rarely does. Usually a separation is simply the beginning of the end, but the couple isn't emotionally ready to finalize the breakup yet.
Interestingly, when I divorced my first husband a few people criticized me for not first doing a "trial separation" . . . I thought this was pretty weird since the marriage was very much over, and we'd tried years of counseling. But it does seem like a very popular interim step these days!
2007-06-05 12:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because separating is the wrong thing to do how do you work on your marriage when you away from each other. Instead they should be seeing a marriage councilor and getting help. Once you separate and your away from your spouse then the door opens up to cheating. That's why 78% of couples who separate get divorced. I read an article on this several months ago........
2007-06-05 10:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by miester44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does, IF both parties work at it. If one does not, then there is no hope. But watch for the counselors that just are not good. If either one of you is truly uncomfortable then that is not the right person to be seeing. It might take seeing two or three different counselors to find the right one. If you get past #3, then the uncomfortable one is probably making excuses and just really doesn't want to try. At which point you need to go your own way.
2016-04-01 04:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a mental thing. When a couple is "on a break" they don't have to deal with all of the emotions that come along with a divorce. It is sometimes hard to except that a marriage is over. Taking a break can soften the blow, make it easier to move on once its all said and done.
2007-06-05 10:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Avery's_Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IMO in marriage there shouldn't be such a thing as "seperated" or a break. Let's be realistic here...how is distancing yourself going to repair your marriage? Distance is just an "excuse" to give the other partner "space" to do his /her thing...which ever that is? Who ever brought it up...should be questioned as in "why do you feel you need space"? Then if there is kids involved it will be much harder for them as well...is it really worth it...?
Have you both tried everything? Communication? Understanding? Compromising? Changes on both sides?
Good luck!
2007-06-05 10:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I did separate from my with, but I called it kicked her out and I did bang a few while we were separated. Some how we ended you back together and she is much more loving and I'm not. Grant you I was very loving before and now I'm not.
2007-06-05 10:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope!!!
How are you going to work on anything when you're away from each other?
How are you going to learn how to tolerate what you don't like when your not around what needs to be tolerated?
How are you going to learn to give, when there is no one there to give to?
How are you going to learn how to share in the responsibility when all you have to worry about is yourself?
How are you going to learn how to be a team, when there's only one player?
"happily ever after" is your fairytale. Get rid of that expectation and join us in the real world.
2007-06-05 14:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally after a separation the couple realizes that they can leave without each other and it goes South from there.
2007-06-05 10:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋