2007-06-05 11:47:18 · 24 answers · asked by Mandy Blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Buy houses next door to each other, and let the kids stay with which ever parent they see fit, on any given night. They have the comfort of home, and security of both parents....win-win!
2007-06-05 11:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Screw the therapy. Each of you must do this. Say something nice and sincere to the othe daily to make them feel special and pretty. Over look some faults of the other and let them know what it is that really bothers you so that the other can change a little. Do some things the other wants to you may find more that you like to do together. Go out once a week to have a date. Try new things (more on trying what the other wants to do). If things do not get better then you may need to start thinking about seperation.
2007-06-05 19:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get that sucker to read WITH YOU one book a week on marriage and how to have a great relationship. Come back in 3 months and tell us how desperately in love you guys are with each other.
Trust me! People are stupid because they never ever read a book in their lives. If you guys do what I said I guarantee you two WILL have the best marriage ever. Go to the library and get the best books on the subject. And most important. Don't just read them! ACT ON THEM!!!
Before you say "it doesn't work", ge off your rear end and DO IT! If your husband won't help and read the books with you, get the books and read them yourself. Read at the very least 5 and do everything they say. Then, if it really doesn't work, get rid of that guy for good.
2007-06-07 08:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by no_nick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say why you cannot live together? Is it because you don't get along has something happened to instigate this. You need to talk, find out why you can't get along and address the issues. Otherwise, split - of course you will be miserable apart - you love each other. I would try and work through your differences - if you truely love each other you will want it to work.
2007-06-05 18:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bexs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried going to counseling? How about writing down all the positive qualities that you each have? Write down the reasons why you fell in love. Take a weekend away and go somewhere new. Go somewhere that is so overwhelming that you are too busy sharing the new experience. I had the same issue with my girl. We get away one weekend out of the year with the kids and we just enjoy each other's company. We make it a point not ot fight.
2007-06-05 18:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Big Sam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 look at what u miss when apart + look at what u dislike when together. then work hard at trying 2 learn ways of defusing the bad elements + find happiness in things u both like + NEVER forget that each of u also need your own time space and hobbies without using them 4 argumentative holds over each other. been there got the t-shirt + never been happier with the woman i once hated at times
2007-06-08 17:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen up.
If you want to keep this man and make your marriage work, by separating yourself and making the grave mistake of living apart, (what if he likes it, and in your absence gets on the net, gets a girlfriend?)
YOU ARE MARRIED. make this work, get a hobby or a part time job, so that when you are together, you are relaxed, yet have other fulfilling outlets. Every partnership takes work, adjustment and compromise. If you truly want this to succeed, you will find a way to make it happen.
Good luck, lots of love,
Irene.
2007-06-05 18:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are both in love with the moment. The moment when things are right. When things are wrong, you can't stand each other. You're living for tomorrow, not today. You both hope it will get better, and in your minds' are sure it will, which is why you stay together. Try counseling.
2007-06-05 18:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ducci 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried living in seperate homes & meeting up every other day maybe slowly building up a stable relationship.One day you might get on.My husband & I have always argued we do not let it get in the way.I wish you & your husband all the best secret is compromise without that there is nothing.Good Luck
2007-06-09 10:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to grow up and learn to get along. Both of you need to stop being selfish and start making it work. Just agree to not argue. Start thinking of him more than of yourself. Start looking for the positive things about him. That will give you an attitude change. He will see that and should be inspired to do the same thing.
2007-06-05 19:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples terapy can work a way for you both to compromise and negotiate and sacrifice and give gifts of love to each other
2007-06-06 05:30:40 · answer #11 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋