Not that I have a problem with it, but why should I as a single person feel sorry for them?
2007-06-05 10:54:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Feeling sorry, that denotes a need for you to comfort them in some way. While this may sound cold...why bother? Unless maybe it was someone you knew and cared about - is it really of any importance?
Everyone has a choice to make. including the people getting a divorce...its their choice - for whatever reason they used - its their choice and therefore their own rewards or consequences.
No, I wouldnt feel sorry for her or her family because she made that choice. So long as I have no emotional connection involved I woudlnt feel sorry for anyone doing anything. And even then it would be in question.
2007-06-07 15:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by jimkearney746 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel sorry for divorced women with kids at all. Chances are, she got the kids, the house, more than half the assets, and the lion's share of hubby's future income for the next nearly 20 years. And chances are, she'll poison his kids against him whether he's a good parent or not.
They are by and large a selfish, controlling, feminist, entitled lot - and they get no sympathy from me. Increasingly men are refusing to tie the knot for this very reason - and for good reason. There's too much free sex available, and finaicnal ruin is almost certain (67%) for the guy.
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2007-06-05 11:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the process of a divorce after 30 years of marriage, to a man that I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. He had an affair with the company tramp, affair is now over. I don't want anybody to feel sorry for me, I have a job making about 3 times less than he does, as well as a son who lives with me, I am learning to stand on my own two feet which was tough after being married since I was 17, so I am feeling proud of what I have accomplished, all my bills are paid and I am beginning to feel like I am going to survive, I wasn't sure for awhile, but thanks to my son, parents and friends, I am going to make it on my own. So you don't have to feel sorry for anyone who is divorced, but before you judge maybe you should know the circumstances of the divorce, that goes for man or woman.
2007-06-05 15:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I didn't know I was supposed to feel sorry for them! ;-) In the vast majority of divorces, neither party is 100% blameless for the separation, so why would we just pity the woman?
Any time a close friend breaks up (whether married, cohabitating, or just dating), we sympathize with their pain. But I don't agree that divorced women should be put on some sort of higher "poor me" pedestal.
2007-06-05 11:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard that we are supposed to feel for for divorced women without children. Maybe that goes back to days before most women had jobs.
But its harder to raise children on your own. Granted, there are probably some women who do not deserve to be felt sorry for, but all in all I think think single women with children who are successful in their jobs as well as at home are the busting their butts and deserve recognition...not necessarily to be felt sorry for. I think this goes for not just women, but men as well. However since most children are with their mother more the "single mom" is the one we talk about.
2007-06-05 11:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not required to feel sorry for them.
Just try to have a little compassion because for a lot of people the struggle to survive is sometimes very hard.
2007-06-05 12:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by mrpeachycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said you're supposed to feel sorry for them? I don't feel any sorrier for them than divorced men with kids...which isn't much at all. Guess it depends on if they got totally screwed over in their marriage or not...
2007-06-05 10:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by Luvitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't supposed to feel sorry for them and actually a strong women wouldn't want you to feel sorry for her.
2007-06-05 11:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe us single women with kids dont WANT to be felt sorry for. I for one want to be viewed as a strong independent woman who is also a great mother and can take care of her own.
2007-06-05 11:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you get the idea you were supposed to feel sorry for them? You sound bitter about something. Why?
2007-06-05 12:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋