Causes problems. For one she will goto bars and have drinks whereas i dont feel comfortable doing it. Her friends are non-christian and live a life as such so I dont feel right hanging with them. It causes arguments and I end up starting most of them!
It bothers me when she goes out. I am into family and family things. She seems into just going out and doing things she likes. As a christian, how do I just love on her without letting emotions get involved when her friends call to do something.?
I feel like I may be pushing her away. But it just bothers me so seeing her want to go out.
2007-06-05 05:26:31 · 13 answers · asked by WWJD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh Jeez, another born again. I alwats said,"show me a born again that doesn't drink and I'll show you ten that do". Chances are she going to get farther and farther apart from you. Eitheer change a little for her cause she won't change for you. Go with her a few times and make the best of it. You don't have to drink, just be there. The walls won't tumble in on you.
2007-06-05 08:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're the one who has these issues, then perhaps you need to find someone else to be with. For many people this isn't an issue. But since it is such a big one for you, I don't think it's fair to be constantly nagging her for simply being who she is. There isn't anything wrong with the life she's living and there isn't anything unChristian about going out with friends or having a drink (Jesus' first miracle was turning water into wine, after all. And he hung out with his friends all the time. And one of them was a whore! So who are we to judge?) But if those things make you uncomfortable for some reason, then move on and let her be with someone who won't always be telling her that she's bad for having different ideas. She deserves better than that and I'm sure there are other women who will share your views.
Good luck.
2007-06-05 12:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's odd that you didn't get together and work this kind of behavior out before you got together and married.
That being said, you may need to get out and go with her. What makes you think Christians can't go out and have fun? Jesus made water into wine. He didn't say "Don't you dare touch that". Go with your wife and have a good time. If you're getting preachy then you're driving her away. If you're going with her and laughing with her then she'll appreciate that you're doing this for her. Then maybe she'll move toward you as well but you can't push it too much.
2007-06-05 13:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a difficult situation! You can love her, but hate her actions and the actions of her friends. I don't think you need to turn your emotions off completely. Have you sat down together and discussed what it is that is upsetting you?
I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
2007-06-05 12:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention her religion in your question, whatever her religion is, the problem is that you have different life styles and contrasting characters, but that can happen with people in the same religion as well, so try to open up more with her and tell her how you feel when she drinks and goes to bars with her friends, tell her you are into family more than going out and having fun with friends, if she loves you, she will listen and change her life to suit your style, or you can stay friends and that's it. Good luck.
2007-06-05 12:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jacklyn K 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is why the bible says don't be unequally yoked. Cause it is going to cause conflicts, If you can't handle her not being a christian then it is time to move on, you can't force her to become one she has to want to be on and if it causes to much tention then it is time to move on and find someone who feels and believes the way you do.
2007-06-05 13:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by Hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know better as a Christian man to find a spouse that's equally yoked. As you can see (and she's just your gf) it will cause problems later.
2007-06-05 23:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live your life the way you want to with God being first, as this should be all of our lives. You don't say whether your married or just dating. If married try to get her to seek help with you and if not married, maybe you need to pray about the relationship. If it is meant to be God will answer your prayers.
2007-06-05 12:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter what if she is Christian or not. Her friend are her friends you dont' have to like them just deal. It seems just by what you said that If I was her you would be pushing me away if you can't live with thefacts you shouldn't be with her.
2007-06-05 12:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by sweetbaby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it her non-Christianity that bothers you or the fact that she likes to go to bars? Think about that. Maybe you two were not meant to be together. Good luck.
2007-06-05 12:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋