always masturbating why????? i don't like it when he does that but he dosen't seem to understand how i feel can you guys give me advice.. Thanks So Much..
2007-06-05 03:58:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel been there not once but 3 times. I learned with each that it's normal to feel like that and the reason why everyone is saying WHAT WHAT WHAT??? Is because they are not pregnant and do not understand your true feeling and hormones, but let me tell you what I did. Instead of having sex, try oral sex or just use foreplay. I did that with all my pregnancies and it help eases my mind.
2007-06-05 07:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will not seem very understanding but, you need to understand that,
Pregnancy leads to infidelity! Just so we understand each other. Pregnancy leads to infidelity.
The reason is simple, he does not get the release he is used to and even then it is admittedly with a tired and less than willing partner.
SO, do you want him to take matters into his own hands or go look for another body to do it for him. I think the former is more desire able in a relationship.
You should applaud his efforts to keep it in the house and not go wandering.
I know you are tired but you would go a long way toward continued marital bliss to take care of him in other ways including oral and hand.
The reality is you are "just" pregnant. If you have a vaginal birth he will be cold turkey for 6 to 8 weeks after. That time is even worse because you will not feel anything toward him that way during recovery and breast feeding 10 times a day.
Take my advice. Help the guy out as much as you can now
and cut him some slack after the birth. You are going through tough physical changes but many things he is dealing with are mental as well as slightly physical.
New babies are tough on everyone in the house. If its your first there is a tendency to become the Mom and Dad and forget about the couple that created that. That is a recipe for disaster. Take this to heart. Babies are a lot of work but it is in addition to the work required to maintain a relationship.
If you neglect to care for the couple, soon the parents will not have much of a relationship with each and a lot of single parent homes result.
Trust me when I tell you that this stuff is not intuitive. I wish someone had pointed this stuff out to us.
i applaud you for at least asking.
2007-06-05 04:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is just to "scratch an itch". Less bothersome than trying to get two people involved when you just have a quick need that needs to be taken care of.
It has nothing to do with you, or how he feels about you.
Just a way men relax.
If your still worried, ask him in your sexiest voice if he would like some help when he does, no strings attached, and he can ask any time, and that you will want to help.
2007-06-05 04:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to be tired and to not want sex at that stage. What I dont understand is why masturbating is a problem. HE still has the need for sex but instead of trying to guilt you to do it, hes tending to himself.
2007-06-05 04:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Would you prefer for him to cheat? At 33 weeks is completely normal to be tired. And since you cant have sex because your tired (which is normal), then let him. Atleast hes not like other guys and cheating on you = )
2007-06-05 04:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by Latina4life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men do that, some more than others, but we all do. It's not a slight against you.
I understand you're tired to go the whole way, but are you too tired to use your hands on him? Do it with/for him. It's another intimacy you can share.
2007-06-05 04:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you would not be botheed so much if you were involved when he masturbates. When my wife was preg and not in the mood, she would ask me to take of myself but she would stay involved, use her hand a little or if not that ask me to ejaculate on her somewhere. she felt we were still being intamate that way.
2007-06-05 04:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by elb366 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal for you to be tired and uninterested in sex at this time but, why shouldn't your husband be able to take care of things himself? i don't understand your feelings. he could have
had an affair instead.. leave him alone. you have no right to ask him not to take care of things.
2007-06-05 04:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and explain that. Also you should consider visiting a therapist to discuss that relationship problem. Maybe he doesn't know that when a woman is pregnant, their hormones makes them not too interested in sex. I think that talking about it can have excellent results. Give it a try.
2007-06-05 04:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by Javier Vélez 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is easy. Start taking care of him with BJs! It doesn't take that long and will keep him happy until you get back to your old self.
2007-06-05 04:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Steve J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋