Women...should I be angry if my husband goes to Hooters? They are having a party for a co-worker there and he feels obligated to go. We have never went to those kinds of places at all (although he did before me) I don't like the idea of him going and said that...he thinks I'm wrong and over reacting and made me out to be some kind of nagging wife. I just don't like the idea...I'm a mother of 2..toddler and newborn. I am here at home all day taking care of our babies and our home while he is out google eyeing other women?? Am I wrong?
2007-06-05 04:29:48 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a sitter and go with him......It's Hooters...not a strip club..... Go and enjoy dinner out....they do serve food there...Good Luck !!
2007-06-05 04:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I understand your feelings on this and can see why you'd be upset. I do think you're taking it a bit too far with the "I am here at home all day taking care of our babies and our home while he is out google eyeing other women??" part.
He's told you this is a party for a coworker and he feels obligated to go. That says that the location was not his idea, but that he feels he needs to at least make an appearance for the sake of work. It's not like he's planning on getting rip roaring drunk and having sex with anything in sight.
There are a LOT worse places than Hooters for a man to go to. The girls there are fully clothed (in more, by the way, than some swimsuits you and your family will see at a beach!!) and there to serve food ONLY.
Cut him a little slack and trust him.
2007-06-05 04:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be more understanding that you stay home with the kids and need a break with him and do more things as a couple instead of making you feel like a nag. That just irritates me. They also like to pull out the "are you on your period?" card. Make sure you and your hubby spend some quality time together without discussing hard issues and just having a good time together.
As for Hooters, my husband said he only went there for the wings. So you know what I did? I researched the internet and perfected a hot wings recipe and made it at home. He said it was better than Hooters. Now he has no reason to go to Hooters. You are not wrong to feel the way you do. You are not a nagging wife. He is wrong for not understanding that you need to feel like "his" woman and not just the babysitter. Good luck!
2007-06-05 04:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by designingliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've seen any of the women that work in Hooters you wouldnt be worried.
I went once with some guys from a training course and found the whole fake interest thing the waitresses do really tedious and an obvious tip ploy. Yes, the guys to oggle the girls but thats the point, its a guy think, the girls just replace the TVs you find it sports bars. Cut your husband some slack, I'm sure he only has eyes for you anyway.
If he goes, get him to bring you back some hot wings, they're pretty good.
My wife just thought it was funny.
2007-06-05 04:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by planetmatt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a strp club relax you are feeling more upset because he is going out having a social life and you are stuck when the kids not that you don't love them but you get tired of always with the little ones I can relate. Why don't you let him go to hooters without nagging and bit---- and set up a day when you can let someone keep the kids. Take a ride to the mall get your nails/toes done etc.Take some time out for you and stop worrying about your husband so much.
2007-06-05 05:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with him going to Hooters. Especially since it's for a party for a co-worker. It's a family restraunt. The girls are in tank tops and shorts . . . he'd see more skin walking along the beach!! And it's not like he's going every week . . Trust him. Maybe the four of you should even go to lunch there one day just so you can see that there's nothing to worry about . . It kind of sounds like you're bitter about staying home with the kids every day and slightly jealous that he is going out at all . . maybe you could use a night out with some girl friends! =)
2007-06-05 04:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Drew's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. I can't believe all of these people defending such a stupid restaurant. It's ridiculous. If it was "just a restaurant" then the waitresses wouldn't be wearing skintight shirts and tight short shorts and hoola dancing on tables and sitting down next to men to take their orders, and it wouldn't be called Hooters. I don't let my husband go there and I'd be very disappointed if I found out he did. I think it's ridiculous that a work party would be there. They should have it some place that isn't controversial. Are you invited? If not I would definately not like it at all. People go there to look at women and their body parts. That is all it's for. They serve food as an excuse.
2007-06-05 06:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kymr 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, it's shameful fact to me that such a place as "Hooters" even exists, but hey, lots of people go for shallow stuff. So I sympathize with you there, but...
this is a party for a coworker, not something he elected to do specifically because he wants some eye candy.
Yes, your husband could notice a nice set of gams or hooters while he's there, but don't punish him for having eyes. He can notice good looking bodies (and I bet you do too sometimes--isn't another man in the world you find attractive other than your husband?)-- as a passing glance and probably won't remember them one minute after he leaves the restaurant, but what he will remember is how his wife was so insecure about it.
2007-06-05 05:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's going for a co-worker's party, and he honestly wants to go because he likes this co-worker, then let him go. Hooters isn't such a bad place. Even though their outfits seem skimpy, they're very professional. Your husband won't be seeing anything he can't see on TV. Let him be a guy and go to Hooters with his dude friends, it's really no big deal. I'd be more worried about if they wanted to go to a strip club. If it bothers you that he's going out to have fun and you're home alone with the kids then that's a different story. Try to work something out if that's the case. No worries! = )
2007-06-05 04:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by bri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think you are over-reacting... Hooters is a restaurant that has hot waitresses.....not prostitutes!!! He's not going to go home with a girl that brings him a plate of wings. Seriously, he's just going out with some friends and having "guy-time". Dont tell me that if you see a good looking guy you dont stop to look..... doesn't mean you would ever cheat on your husband does it??? Have a little faith in him...let him go and have fun. Just make sure that the fun goes both ways and that you are able to get a night out with the girls where your hubby stays home with the kids. :)
2007-06-05 05:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by legends_chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL.
Ladies, please relax. There is nothing wrong with going to Hooters. My wife and I go often. My co workers take their families.
They are dressed, and respectful. Nothing showing, nothing over the top. And the more you don't want him to go the more he is going to try.
If your marriage is strong, he will look at those women and think of how much he loves you. After all a woman you can touch and hold is a lot better than window dressing.
And the women that work there are ladies themselfs, just doing their job and trying to get paid at the end of the week. Some have kids, and families that stop by.
2007-06-05 04:39:04 · answer #11 · answered by David G 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋